Classroom Thoughts

The end of the school year is approaching and naturally my thoughts turn to – school options for next year. (I’m nothing if not a planner.) Right now, the boys are in the same classroom for pre-school and will be again next year. Their birthday falls right at the end of July (the 25th) and I’ve decided to keep them out of kindergarten this year, even though they’ll be five this year. They weren’t supposed to be born until September, which means they would not have been old enough to go this year – so it seems only fair to let them hang on for another year.

Still, it gets me thinking about the same classroom thing. As I said, right now they’re in the same class and seem to do great. Their pre-school teacher has told me that they really do not interact much during class at all, and she usually keeps them in separate groups when she can, which doesn’t bother them at all.

But I’ve seen the flip-side of this where my boys don’t do well when separated. They continually want to know where the other guy is and what he’s doing and if he’s okay. It’s been easier to keep them together because it seems to give them peace of mind. Once they know the other guy is okay, they each go on their merry way.

I know there’s quite a bit of research available on whether multiples should be kept together or separated, and it seems to boil down to this: it depends on the multiples. Some are more dependent on each other. Some are more like siblings and others are more connected.

The challenge comes when you get to school and the principal has opinions on the matter. Several states, including Minnesota, Texas, Georgia and New Hampshire, have laws in place allowing parents to make the decision about whether to keep their multiples together or not. Other states have bills pending or awaiting sponsorship (check out TwinsLaw.com for more information).

I like that decision should be something my husband and I have input on. (This article on About.com has great guidelines for getting started.) I know it will be a challenge, to feel like I made the right decision, but I’ve found that to be the challenge for most everything since our boys came along.

Until kindergarten, they’ll be in the same classroom – and we’ll see how that goes.

4 thoughts on “Classroom Thoughts

  1. My twins’ preschool teacher used the very same words to describe their interaction at school — they don’t seem to depend on each other much and interact with other kids. But the one day my son was home with a tummyache and my daughter went to school, she ended up in the nurse’s office soon after being dropped off. She claimed she had a tummyache too, but when we got home, she just kept saying how much she missed her brother.

    My state (IL) is one in which parents are consulted on placement for their multiples, for which I am thankful. I can’t imagine forcibly separating them in kindergarten or later if they still rely, even latently, on each other. I wish more states understood how different the relationship between multiples is and how it can impact the children’s educational needs.

  2. Joanie – I have often wondered what I would do when one of the boys was sick and not the other. Luckily (or not, I’m not sure) my boys have been sick together, so I haven’t had to make that choice yet…I bet mine would be the same…

  3. As a teacher, I have seen pros and cons of twins being placed in the same class. You are right on, Lissa. It does depend, greatly, on the kids involved. My suggestion to all MoMs about this issue to weigh your kids’ strengths and weaknesses and make the decision that is right for your wee ones.

    While some states do have legislation about twins in the same class, parents who push, gently, although consistently, typically get the class placement they want. It’s far easier on the principal and the teachers involved if the family is supportive of the educational setting and vice verse.

    Good luck! Let me know if you need/want a teacher-ease letter of support for your decision =)

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