Twin Mom Stalker

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*Ahem* Yes, the above mentioned title refers to yours truly. To look at me, you would think I was just an average minivan driving suburban mother of two.  But I can spy a double stroller faster than my kids can pull all of the wipes out of the container.   I know that a lot of families have double strollers for their non-twins families, but I am especially good at identifying the strollers housing two from the same womb. And then, I actually approach these people and talk to them! Strangers! People who are avoiding eye contact with the rest of the world, hoping to ward off the “are they twins?” comment. So yes, I am a self proclaimed twin mom stalker.

 There is just something magnetic about other mother’s of twins (and more!) Finally, women who “get” me, women I can identify with, learn from and commiserate with. Friends with singletons are wonderful, but the instant support and understanding of MoM’s can’t be beat.

It is pretty cool, belonging to this “twin club.” It comes with some instant celebrity, which was in itself rather surreal. (And rather unwelcomed during the infant stage-“Don’t these people know I have 3 seconds before meltdown to GET OUT OF THIS STORE?!!!”)  I have never belonged to a secret society, a popular club or sorority. But having two children from the same pregnancy has opened up doors that a secret handshake could never compete with.

 I really like being a mom of twins…most days! I like a lot of the attention, the looks of admiration as I juggle my twosome, the “I don’t know how you do it” comments from friends having their first child.

 But the funny thing is, our celebrity is fading…my babies are quickly turning into toddlers, who don’t look very much alike. They are now 3 lbs and 1/2 a head apart. We don’t get very many double takes, because I don’t think people recognize them as twins. And really, that is okay! I actually don’t want the kids receiving a lot of attention from strangers just beause they were born on the same day. When they are old enough to understand, I don’t want them to feel like  people are always watching them…I wonder if we as a family will attract less attention because my kids aren’t identical…or triplets.

 But for now, while it lasts, I will enjoy our twin celebrity status, and continue seeking out all of those mom’s like me, because it feels great to belong to a group, especially the MoM’s group!

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11 thoughts on “Twin Mom Stalker”

  1. I am the same way! Sometimes I have to restrain myself and remind myself how much I despise (most of the time) people running up to me to ask me about my twins. But it’s different when someone says they are a twin mom too! (although, I have to admit, I don’t necessarily care when people come up to me and say they themselves are a twin – so umm, you have no idea how hard you and your sister/brother were to take care of?) :-)

  2. Ok, so I had to laugh when I read this. I was driving home from class today, and three blocks from the house, saw a woman pushing a double snap and go along the sidewalk! I immediately called my neighbor (who has 18 month old twins) who lives over that way and asked her if she knew who the twins were and where they lived! Yep, I’m THAT mom.

  3. Yeah, me too. I almost feel like it’s okay for me to be a twin stalker because I’m in charge of membership for my mother of multiples group. Where I would have been without the stalker mom at our pediatrician who told me about out MoM group, I don’t know. :)

  4. i am right there with you. i love checking out the double stroller and talking to other mamas. i just had a patient that was 88 years old, when we were discussing family, i mentioned my twin boys and she got that smile, you know, the secret society smile. her girls are turning 60 in a few days, they work together and still live close to each other. it made my heart feel so full to hear this. and it struck me that we will be MOMs forever. how lovely.

  5. My name is Cheryl, and I am also a MoM stroller stalker.
    Just last week I was walking down our street with our twosome and across the street I saw a couple with a DuoGlider and a Graco single stroller…ALL with carseat carriers snapped in.

    I screamed shamelessly across our fairly busy street “TRIPLETS?”

    They nodded (far classier than I was) and I gave ’em the “TWINS!” response, while flamboyantly encircling my disparately sized duo’s heads with my arms.

    Wonder if it will ever stop?

  6. My name is Cheryl, and I am also a MoM stroller stalker.
    Just last week I was walking down our street with our twosome and across the street I saw a couple with a DuoGlider and a Graco single stroller…ALL with carseat carriers snapped in.

    I screamed shamelessly across our fairly busy street “TRIPLETS?”

    They nodded (far classier than I was) and I gave ’em the “TWINS!” response, while flamboyantly encircling my disparately sized duo’s heads with my arms.

    Wonder if it will ever stop?

  7. I am also admittedly a twin mom stalker, actually if I see a mom with 4 kids you better believe I will be talking to her. I started talking to a mom with 7 kids one time and I was so bummed when she had to leave. I had questions, how does she manage with 7? How does she do her grocery shopping? What about…. everything else?
    An exchange of mishaps with someone who understands is definitely priceless, no matter how much you embarass yourself.

  8. Hi I am Brenda and I am a MoM stalker. I have, also, taken to carrying my MoM clubs cards with me as I get approached by soon to be MoM. I think sometimes you just need to be reassured you are not the only one 😉

  9. I can finally find solace with other MoMs! I thought I was the only one who reveled in the obsession of how phenomenal twins are! I totally would stalk other twin mommies ~ if I could find them! Oh and Cheryl–that was hilarious about the triplet thing–a similar situation happened to me when we were at our NICU reunion and the “triplets” were inudated with the infamous “Are they triplets?”-Well, duh. Here I am chasting other people for asking about MY twins, but grinning like an idiot asking others about their multiples! Figures…

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