When I was pregnant, I was always convinced that I wanted to treat my twins as individuals, not as a unit. I’d read that it is better for twins to be seen as individuals, and I didn’t see any reason to treat them the same. The fact that I am a therapist and could quote research that backs this up probably just made me more difficult to listen to when I got on this soapbox. I found out that I was having a boy and a girl, and I was so pleased….so much easier to treat them as individuals. And then…..they arrived.
By the time I started solid foods with them when they were six months, I was exhausted. Sleep deprived. A bit overwhelmed by this new task to incorporate into my day. And soon it was: one bowl, one spoon…..two babies. Who needs two spoons? They get exposed to the same germs! It will take me twice as long to feed them if I switch back and forth between spoons! Moms with one baby watch this with some disapproval (probably some moms with two or three babies feel the same way!) But, it works for us. Forget individuals, I just need to get them fed and in bed.
There’s no way that they have the same exact tastes, but I would say things like, “They love sweet potatoes” or “Green beans are not a hit”. So much for treating them as two little people. We try foods at the same time. I offer both of them the same foods each night. I can’t imagine having the time/energy to create two different food options for them! (Right now “they” love yogurt, cheese and beans.) If one sees a favorite food left on the other’s tray, the hands sneaks out and grabs it up. By the time I turn around from whatever I’m doing (emptying the dishwasher, getting adult dinner ready, getting meals ready for the next day, cleaning up toys etc….) the trays are empty and I can happily state “They ate well!”. No idea into whose gullet those yummy fingers foods vanished. All I know is that they’re gone! Maybe when they’re a little bit older they will stop being “the babies”, fed, napped and entertained as a unit? (Perhaps I’ll even pick back up a social life as well! You never know….).