Ahhh, Spring! A time of blossoming trees, sprouting grass and budding flowers. A time of sunshine, short sleeves and sunblock. Man, I love spring! Alas, the only thing I do not like about this season, is spring-cleaning. A few generations ago, spring-cleaning was taken much more seriously. In our town (Pittsburgh), the ladies diligently washed each and every wall in their house twice a year, due to the coating of soot pumped out from the Steel Mills. Now that that industry is kaput, I am pleased to say that the only wall washing I do is in preperation for painting, and in the very near future, crayon removal.
Yet, as soon as winter releases us from it’s icy grip, I am one of the first to throw open all the windows in the house and let the fresh air whip through my stale home. And we all have our spring chores: taking the glass out of the screen door, wiping down the porch furniture and hauling it out of storage and washing windows (I am terrible at this and have hired someone to do it for me this year!). The list in my head grows longer everyday, thinking about the landscaping I want to do, the porch roof that needs to be scraped and painted and front steps that need to be replaced. There is, however, one chore that I am pointedly ignoring…sorting and storing baby clothes. For months, I have been hauling a bag or two of out-grown items to our basement, and plunking it down on the couch. And in ignoring those bags, I have accumulated quite a pile. Goddess In Progress and CarrieinAK have both recently broached this topic with their posts “A Word About Baby Clothes” and “Growing, Growing, Gone.” They did a fantastic job, and gave lots of wonderful suggestions…but here’s the thing…
What do you do when you aren’t sure if you will have any more children? But you think you want to? But your husband isn’t so sure, and some days, you aren’t so sure? How long do you hold on to things? And of course, if you do keep stuff, do you keep the items that come in 2’s? Like car seats? (What if I had twins again?!)
If my husband reads this (which he usually does), he is likely choking on his Diet Mt Dew. I am not pregnant, and I don’t plan on trying to get pregnant any time soon. My husband and I had to do ovulation induction/IUI to help us conceive. It was an expensive and heart-wrenching 19 month journey to start our family, which, in the world of infertility, is a relatively short time. But as with all couples, there is no guarantee. I have no idea if I could get pregnant again, even if we decided that we wanted to have more kids.
But if we were to try for another child, anyone out there have an opinion on a time frame? I was thinking that having another spring baby, around the time Faith and Jonathan turn 3, would be ideal. But I sure would love to hear your opinions on the matter! As someone who needed a lot of medical intervention to conceive, I recognize that it is sort of odd to talk of scheduling a pregnancy. But I would like to read your opinions about what time frame you think would be “ideal.”
(By the way, my twins are only 11 months old, so I have lots of time to pray about this and talk about it to my hubby. But the mound of clothes in my basement sparked this post. And I was completely out of other ideas to write about!)