Thoughts on Year Two with Twins

Note: A modified version of this post appeared last week at my personal blog, Laura’s Mommy Journal.

My boys turn two this Friday. Last May, I was a roller coaster of emotions. I still mourned the normal pregnancy, normal birth, and normal newborn experience that I will never have. I still cried at the unfairness of having two babies taken from my body and whisked away for a week where I could not be with them on my terms. I still felt exhausted, overworked, and overwhelmed. I wrote sappy posts about my feelings. I felt happy as well, but the theme the first year with twins was survival.

This May I feel surprisingly unemotional. All those wounds have had time to heal. I no longer feel exhausted, overworked, and overwhelmed. I am still busy (very busy) but I have time for me, time for my husband, time for my friends, and time for my kids. I feel like myself again, physically and emotionally.

One night last week we walked to the park after dinner. We made a spontaneous decision and decided to stay later so the boys could play longer. It felt normal, like something any other parents would do. This “normal” life seemed so far out of our reach for so long.

With no family around, caring for twins on our own was all-consuming for so long. I finally feel that I have my head above water. I finally feel that having twins compliments my life rather than consumes my life. This feeling has slowly been building over the last year. A solo date night with my boys and the park trip helped me solidify these feelings. This year was to be a rebuilding year and I feel rebuilt. Life is normal. With twins toddlers.

6 thoughts on “Thoughts on Year Two with Twins

  1. I love this post. While we certainly feel LESS overwhelmed, at 13 months, two babies still consumes us. I’m so freaking tired sometimes! I love to hear that at some point, the balance of tired/fun starts to move a bit.

  2. well said – this post sums up what I feel too. My twin sons turn two on July 1st.
    Some days I am still overwhelmed too like when they pulled and trashed everything when I was caught on the phone for 5 mins with the accountant. … I wanted to throttle them but most days I can’t hug them enough.

    My Little Drummer boys

  3. In two days, our ID girls will be one. Thank you for this post–it gave me hope that this coming year will be a little easier than the previous one has been!

  4. I feel just like you! Well, maybe MOST days. There are still days where i can’t get my head above water…but most days are fun. I’m still awaiting the day that i feel comfortable taking out three girls at once. BUT i know that day will come too! SOO happy that you are finally feeling normal again!

  5. This post made me cry. My girls are 13 months and I’m starting to see the light…It gives me so much hope to think that it really does get (a bit) easier as time goes on, as so many twin parents have assured me.

  6. My 18 month old twin boys turn 2 in November. I can barely remember the first year as I was sleep-deprived for most of it. Now they are full of personality and attitude (not always good). Everyday they learn something new….and so do I. It does get better…and keeps getting better every day:-)

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