Recently I was my dear friend’s Matron of Honor. Her wedding – while an event I was over-the-moon excited about – presented a new challenge for us. We had to leave our 10-month old twins (and their big sister) in the care of someone else for an entire weekend.
Thankfully I had reserved my parents for this weekend coverage months in advance. At the time that they were asked I explained it shouldn’t be “too much work” because the boys should be sleeping through the night at that point. HA! As the time approached for the big day, I started to panic because on any given night at least one of them is up and needing attention. My parents assured me that it was all right and they could deal with the middle of the night wake-up calls. After all, for them, it was just temporary.
For me, the build up to this weekend had me nauseous. I was so nervous that the children were going to freak out that both of their parents were gone at the same time. To further complicate things, all three ended up being sick and I was wracked with guilt for leaving them. How could they survive? (and by “they” I mean the kids AND my parents!)
But you know what? Everyone did.
Besides the awesome time of watching my friend get married, the true bonus of the weekend for me was getting a chance to reconnect with my husband. When we are at home, our lives and conversations revolve around our children. Especially since the twins have been born, we are both always “on duty” and sometimes at the end of the day, it’s hard to turn that off. But once the children were removed from the situation for a period of time, we were able to talk about things that had nothing to do with being parents. I love my kids, but sometimes, it’s nice to remember that couple we were before they came along too.
We were both able to return home refreshed (what a difference sleeping for two nights in a row can make!) and back on the same “team”, as it were.
The weekend was just another learning experience. Add it to my previous lessons learned to take time for myself and to get out of the house WITH the kids. Now that I know everyone can survive it, I will be making a more concerted effort to re-connect with my husband outside of our roles as “parents” when possible.