I had a lightbulb moment when I wrote my rant about the “identical or fraternal” question. Reader Danielle’s comment made me realize when people say ask twin parents about zygosity, it may be a rhetorical question while attempting to show interest in twins. Face it, twins are very interesting to people. I found twins fascinating before I had twins. I still find twins fascinating.
Even the people who know my kids very well still have crazy twin questions for me. And since I have fraternal twins, I still have crazy identical twin questions. And you know you have triplet or quadruplet questions! Admit it! Danielle’s comment made me rethink my strategy on crazy twin questions, and I now embrace stranger’s questions with a kinder, gentler attitude. I now take the time to stop and answer twin questions. Thank you, Danielle.
That all said, there are still one comment that drives me crazy. “My kids were xx months apart so it was like having twins.”
So dear wise readers, give me insight as to why this should not make my skin crawl.