Last week’s Ask the Readers post went so well, I thought I would ask readers for help for a friend! If you’ve transitioned multiples of cribs, these questions are for you, so please stick around and help if you can.
One of my closest friends in real life has fraternal twin boys a week older than my fraternal twin boys. We met through our multiples group’s listserve because our boys have such similar temperaments. We have been helping each other since our boys were 4 months old, and the advice we get from each other is advice it would be hard to get any other way. Yet another reason to join your local multiples group!
My boys transitioned out of their cribs around 16 months. The first month was tough, then we had bliss for 4-5 months. That period was the calm before the storm. Shortly before they turned 2, sleeping together became nearly impossible. After we caught Alex sitting on Nate’s head bouncing up and down, we got a video monitor and instituted a “no getting out of bed” rule. In our situation, we felt the boys could not be trusted alone together, so we needed to not only watch them, but teach them to respect each other’s space. At naptime and bedtime, we watch the video monitor and give them warnings then time outs if they get out of bed. After a couple of weeks of this, they now stay in their beds and we’re back in a blissful state.
My friend just transitioned her boys a month ago and it’s been chaos in her house. At first, they refused to nap completely, but it’s clear they still need a nap. Now they do exactly what my boys did – one is the instigator and bothers the other one who is trying to sleep.
So dear readers, please give us any and all advice you can! Did you keep your multiples in the same room? Did you split them up? If you kept them together, how did you stop them from fighting? If you split them up, why did you decide to do it? Any helpful hints on the transition to beds?