Guest Post: Dad's Day at Home

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(Dan England is our new guest poster. He is the dad of three, toddler Jayden and 1 year old twins Allie and Andie, and husband to Kate.  He is a writer, poker player, mountain climber, runner and baby wrangler. He has recently written for TWINS magazine, and has agreed to write for HDYDI from time to time. He and his family live in Colorado (hence the mountain climbing.) His blog can be found at:


Kate is gone all day Saturday at her sister’s baby shower and will be going out with her friends tonight, so I’m wall-to-wall Mr. Mom today. I thought it would be fun to live blog the day. Or it’s the only thing that will help me keep my sanity.
6:45 a.m. – I go into the girls’ room, where Kate is already lifting the girls out of their cribs.
7:05 a.m. – Time to get them dressed, bring them downstairs and get them breakfast.
7:35 a.m. – I go up to take a shower and get my game face on. Nothing helps prepare for a day with a toddler and 16-month-old twins like some time on the potty and a shower.
7:50 a.m. – Kate: “I need to gooooo.” She told me 8 a.m. last night. Kate likes to do this, telling me that she wants to leave at this time and then pushing that time up at the last second. Sorry, I’m using every last bit of my 8 a.m. deadline. I hop in the shower.
8:01 a.m. – Kate leaves. Andie takes off her shorts, Allie poops and they both start to fight over a battery-powered toy mixer. We’re not off to a good start.
8:10 a.m. – I change Allie and Jayden starts begging for “Peep and the Big Wide World.” He’s totally addicted to this show. He has Dad’s OCD personality.
8:20 a.m. – Andie grabs the TV controller and runs off with it. This messes up Jayden’s Peep program. He screams.
8:23 a.m. – I grab the controller back from Andie. She throws a fit.
8:30 a.m. – Andie falls off the couch. She’s OK after a crying fit.
8:32 a.m. – Andie crawls back up on the couch. I start tickling her and playing with her. Allie craws up a minute later and now I have to corral both. This is one of the things about twins. Individual moments are black-diamond rare. The second twin has turned the nice moment into an almost impossible situation of trying to corral them both on the couch, and now I have to get both off, with predictably bitchy results.
8:36 a.m. – Allie sees Jayden’s sandals and holds them up. She wants them off her feet. I try three times to convince her they are too big. She disagrees with every once of her 22 pounds. I finally relent and put them on. She starts tripping all over the place. Andie sees this and grabs Jayden’s tennis shoes and wants those on her feet. Allie trips again.I take them off their feet and put the shoes up. They both start bawling.
8:37 a.m. – Nap time.
8:40 a.m. – I get them into their cribs. They go down without incident. Glory, glory hallelujah!
9 a.m. – After an episode, Jayden sees an understandable opportunity to grab as much time as he can from Daddy and demands juice, his Crocs, outside time, a swing and hitting the ball, all in 30 seconds. The dog, Denali, is in my face every time I sit down. He wants attention too.
9:15 a.m. – Out in the yard, Denali grabs a toy and wants to play tug of war. jayden wants to swing.
10:35 a.m. – I put in a load of laundry. Jayden and I play on the bed downstairs. I smother him with a pillow and says, “Stop, you’re squishing me,” then wants it again.
10:45 a.m. – Alas, it’s time to get the girls up. We do. I change Andie.
10:55 a.m. – I hold Andie’s hand while Allie tries to go down the stairs. I bring Andie down by her hand, and Allie stops halfway in the middle. I grab her hand and lead her down. By the time I do this, Andie’s halfway up the stairs again. This is why stuff with twins takes three times as long.
11:02 a.m. Three out of the four Crocs owned by the twins are located. This is a greater accomplishment than it sounds.
11:03 a.m. – Andie sees the Crocs and demands I put them on.
11:05 am. – Andie takes off her shorts again.
11:07 a.m. – I begin to fix lunch. I put on Andie’s shorts. She takes them off again and has taken off her shoes. She demands I put them on again. Allie wants her shoes on now.
11:08 a.m. – I change Allie and discover a poop. I get up to find the wipes and Allie’s already ran off to the next room. Sigh. I chase her down, clean her up and put her shorts back on. I help Jayden go pee-pee in the potty and put his shorts back on. and his Crocs as well.
11:10 a.m. When I come back from the bathroom, Allie has taken her shoes off. I can’t find one. I search for five minutes.
11:15 a.m. Croc found under the couch. How did it get there?
11:20 a.m. – Andie wants to be held.
11:25 a.m. – I fix lunch. Cheese hot dogs, cottage cheese, cantaloupe.
Noon – Lunch is over. It’s time to clean up and prepare to go to the park. Whew.
12:05p.m. – I change Andie.
12:06 p.m. – She takes off her shorts again. I’m done with the fucking shorts. I go upstairs to grab a new pair. I rifle through clothes under I find a tight pair she wont’ be able to take off.
12:20 p.m. – The kids seem good for a second playing with the plastic kitchen, so I go downstairs to put another load of laundry in.
12:23 p.m. – Load up the kids and take them to the park.
1:30 p.m. – The park goes fine at first but ends tough, when Jayden refuses to listen to my order of staying on the top rocks of the pond, and then runs away when I come down to collect him while the girls are up there, alone. This pisses me off and he gets time for five minutes. He screams the entire time.
The girls then keep heading for the street. Jayden keeps climbing on the monkey bars and then yelling for help.
It’s time to go home.
1:40 p.m. – Girls are brought out, Crocs off, Jayden needs juice, and I put them down for their nap. The church bells ring again, and Peep gets turned on for quiet time. Kate phones and says she is on her way and should be home at 3 p.m. It can’t be soon enough.
3 p.m. – Kate gets home. Church bells again. I need to go to Wal-Mart to refill my prescription for acid reflux, which has been acting up lately. I cant’ understand why.
3:30 p.m. – I decide to take Jayden to the pet store. He’s been asking all week to see the fish.
3:45 p.m. – We go see the fish. Some are labeled “aggressive.” I wonder if they play A-10 out of position hard?
Sorry, bad joke.
4:15 p.m. – After an extensive tour of the store, where we see the fish, a scorpion (singing “Rock Me Like A Hurricane”) and ferrets, it’s time to go. We just make it to the car, and I’ve yet to go to Wal-Mart, when jayden decides he wanted to see the birds, too. I say no, we have to go, and Jayden rewards me for an extra trip to a pet store after a long hard day by throwing an intense and really annoying temper tantrum. I turn up the new Metallica CD to drown out the cries. I dump him off at home and head to Wal-Mart. I’m not putting up with that.
4:50 p.m. – I come home. Jayden is really upset I did not take him. I talk to him and explain that his tantrum meant he couldn’t go. He said he was sorry. We’ll see.
5:15 p.m. – I gobble down my lame frozen dinner I picked up at Wal-Mart. I got a list of groceries that Kate had me get after needing “nothing.” I get everything but my prescription, which I forgot. Sigh.
6:10 p.m. – I get the bottles together. Kate leaves for her dinner date. Allie and Andie are through playing dress-up and the cranky levels have reached nuclear fission, so it’s time for bed. I read Allie a story after bedtime. Andie tries to barge in the whole time.
There’s never a peaceful, alone moment with a kid when you’ve got twins. Sigh.
6:25 p.m. – Andie goes down. Allie goes down. Jayden demands juice. Jayden wants outside. We sit outside together as the storm starts to brew.
I hope it’s not a prelude to the evening. Tonight I need peace.
(Thanks, Dan, for the guest post! Dads and Moms, we would love to hear about your days home and the chaos multiple children can cause!)
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5 thoughts on “Guest Post: Dad's Day at Home”

  1. I loved reading this. I laughed out loud at several things and read a couple to my husband. I often have solo duty when my husband travels and have had many days that would look like this. Your observation about individual moments (or the lack thereof) is spot on.

    Usually parents of singletons only don’t really get how chaotic life with multiples can be until they see it in action. I think I’ll keep a copy of your play-by-play to better illustrate.

  2. Coming from a mum who is on solo duty for a year, oh how I get this post. I occasionally like to document my time during the day (in fact I just did a post like this last week on my blog) so my husband can see just how crazy things get when he’s not around.

    Oh and I have a Jayden too.

  3. Great post – it does capture that moment to moment intensity that is all part of every normal day on duty with multiples. That is why I am such a stickler about the schedule, especially bedtime. It gives at least some structure to the managed chaos.

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