I’ve been thinking about the title of our blog. I feel that I need to pass along wisdom about “how I do it” but lately I’m not sure that I’m doing it very well.
My husband and I got through pregnancies, deliveries, infancy, toddlerhood, tantrums and potty training. We knew it would all pass (although we were pretty sure he would walk one of the girls down the aisle and tell the groom-to-be that she wasn’t potty trained yet). But now I find myself at a new challenge in parenting and I feel like a newbie all over again.
You see, apparently aliens came recently and stole my lovely 12 year old daughter and replaced her with this creature who doesn’t listen, obey, pick up, bathe, or. . .you get the picture. It’s positively scary around here, not knowing how this person who looks a lot like our former daughter will behave.
So I’ve been thinking of plunging into parenting books again, and seeking advice for myself. I’ve also been thinking of advice I’ve heard from wise women that is resonating again with me. These two things may help someone else, so I’ll repeat them to you as I repeat them to myself.
Little people, little problems; Bigger people, bigger problems
This came from a mom I worked with many years ago. Her children were much older than mine. That simple statement has often helped me get perspective. When kids are little, tantrums and potty training can seem very stressfull. Hang on, you will all survive and confront bigger issues. When you look back in the future, this all wont seem like such a big deal. I’m sure I’ll survive my current worries to face the stresses of my daughters driving and dating.
Pray, and trust
This came from a mother friend in Church, and I wont begin to try to convert anyone to prayer here, but the sentiment rings true – have some faith that things will work themselves out. I was picky about some foods when I was a kid, and now I love them. My sister and I fought, and then grew very close. Release worries to a higher power and know that some things will change with time. You can only beat your head against the wall so much, sometimes you have to let go.
That is “how I do it” today.
You can meet my twins and their alien sister at Lit and Laundry.