My twins are a week away from their second birthday, and the “terrible twos” have hit. Hard. My daughter has always been, how shall we say?…..opinionated. Strong-willed. Assertive. She’s a sweet, engaging little girl, but she’s intense. We’ve been seeing tantrums from her for months and months now. My little boy has been much more mellow and go with the flow. In the last month or so, that has changed. Now, I have two two year olds who tantrum. And have strong desires about what they want. And don’t want. And it changes by the minute. Danny’s new thing is to say no when offered a food—-then about 10 seconds later, change his response to, “Yeah, yeah, yeah”. It happens about 80% of the time. They’re fighting over Danny’s pink sippy cup (I know, not the most masculine color). They’re fighting over getting dressed in the morning…..and getting undressed at night.
We’re not quite sure how to handle this new phase. Here’s one thing we’ve done—-a sticker chart for getting dressed in the morning. If you get dressed without screaming or crying, you get to pick out a sticker for your chart. It’s been shockingly effective. The rest of you with one, two, three or more toddlers out there…..what do you do to get through the day? Besides my favorite, which is to throw them in bed at 7pm and pour a big glass of wine. Nice, but not really a great long-term coping strategy.