Back to the Future

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Yes, as in the 1985 movie starring Michael J. Fox and Christopher Lloyd.  It’s a classic.  But, just in case you are fuzzy on the details (because I refuse to believe that there is even ONE of you out there who missed it!), the basic premise  of the movie is that Michael J. Fox’s character gets the rather unexpected opportunity to travel back in time and change the fate of his family.   

So, why the subject of time travel?  I handed in my resignation at work last week.  My resignation from a super-secure, unionized, full-time, government job with benefits.  Yes, in this economy.  Why?  Despite its security and benefits, I work in a very family-unfriendly environment.  Flex time?  Not offered.  Reduced work schedule?  Not a chance!  Working from home?  Wait… working from where?  You get the point.  

As I work out the final days of my notice, I have been doing a lot of thinking about what I would have done differently had I known 6 years ago what my ovaries had in store for 2007.  And, yes, I do know that hindsight is 20/20, but humor me if you will.  Had I known my household would go from 0 to 2 babies in a mere 36 weeks, I can honestly say that I would not have chosen the same education/career path I find myself on today.  I have a Bachelor’s in Sociology and a Master’s in Consumer Finance.  If that sounds like an odd combination to you, that’s probably because it is.  No real rhyme or reason to any of it.  At the conclusion of my freshman year of college, I decided to pursue a degree in Sociology/Criminology because I liked the coursework , and thought I just might be the next Clarice Starling in Silence of the Lambs.  Yeah, not so much.  After I graduated, I blew off a second interview at a correctional facility after nearly having a panic attack during the first one when the interviewer described what my actual duties would entail.  Then, after working a year out of college in Human Resources (random, I know), one of my former professors called to offer me a paid research assistantship in Consumer Finance complete with a free Master’s degree.  Eh!  Why not?   So, 6 years and 2 degrees later, here I sit wishing I had pursued a more family-friendly career path.

The truth is, I don’t know what job I would ideally like to have.  Is there any career out there flexible enough to accomodate the first three years with multiples?   I don’t know.  What I can say for sure is that there are some jobs which are clearly better suited for MoMs (and moms in general) than others.  Lately, I have been admiring the nursing profession.  Good pay, flexible hours, meaningful work… oh, and don’t forget the scrubs and crocs!  I defy you to find a more comfortably-dressed profession!  The bummer is, nursing is my ideal career choice in theory only.  I am so not cut out to be a nurse.  This much I know.  And, if you don’t believe me, just ask any of my family members or close friends.  Wow.  Judging by their reactions to my aspiring career change, I would make about as good a nurse as I would a lion-tamer.  

T minus 5 work days until I begin my new career as a stay-at-home mom to  21 month-old twin girls.  My new bosses are sure to be demanding, erratic, and irrational at times (many, many times…).  But, I am going into this new endeavor with my eyes wide open.  Nope, no delusions here.   I know that my old job is going to seem like a cake walk compared to some of the days I will undoubtedly experience in the months to come.  I know this because I can remember on more than one occasion running out the door (like my you-know-what was on fire!) eager to get to “work” when the girls were being especially difficult at the ripe-old hour of 7AM.  Indeed, there is no job more difficult than being a stay-at-home mom to multiple children.  But, you know what?  I wouldn’t change a thing… even if I did have the opportunity to travel back in time and do so.  How could I?   Just look at these two cuties:

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What about you?  If given the opportunity, would you still pursue the same career path, knowing that multiples were in your future?  

P.S.  I didn’t forget that today is Father’s Day.  Really, I didn’t!    So, Happy Father’s Day to all the dads who support us MoMs on this crazy journey!  And, a special shout out to my favorite twin daddy, J!

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7 thoughts on “Back to the Future”

  1. In truth, I had a pretty family-friendly career before my kids. I worked in student services at a college, and a very laid-back college at that. I love higher ed, and my bosses would have even been more than happy to find a part-time solution… if there was one. The nature of my position really didn’t lend itself to going part-time in any reasonable way. That, plus the hour-each-way commute, plus the salary that wouldn’t even cover childcare? And here I am, in my new career as full-time mom. :-)

    It’s good, it’s hard. The most important things, as I’m sure you probably know, are routine and getting out of the house. Helps with the sanity aspect.

    I do suspect I’ll return to higher ed and working with students at some point, preferrably part-time, but probably not until my kids are in school.

  2. I work full-time because I work for an awesome family friendly company. Flexible hours when you need to get to dr appts. I telecommute full-time. Did I know the software industry would be like this when I joined 10+ years ago? No. But now I see tons of tech companies that are able to do it bc so much work is done on computers now.

    Good luck making the transition, can’t wait to hear.
    .-= LauraC´s last blog ..Why twins rule, #6842 =-.

  3. It’s been a most crazy time since I had twins almost 12 years ago. I thought about going back to work, but right away I realized there were so many of those “first” moments that I could not bear to miss. The trend continued after giving birth to 2 more girls afterwards. Each time I tried to put each one of them in a daycare at 2 years of age; each time I failed. I wasn’t ready to let anyone else be the one to witness their “firsts”, until they were ready for kindergarten. The last will be 4 in a few weeks and soon she will be off to Pre-K. Maybe, just maybe, I’ll take some time to think about going back to work then. But only if I can’t get home by 3 pm so I won’t miss a thing.
    .-= Carolyn´s last blog ..It’s So Hot, I’m Gonna Fry Breakfast On The Front Porch! =-.

  4. Having done IVF, I knew from day 1 (or rather, day 5 embryos) that multiples were possible. As to the question of career path, I can answer under the umbrella of Parenting, not just multiples. I probably would have studied Early Childhood Development and Education (otherwise known as the “M.R.S” degree where I went to college, because “those” girls were just looking to land a law or biz school student). And then I would be a SAHM and homeschool. But alas, I’m one of a two-income family with fairly inflexible work schedules where neither of us can support our entire family of four on a single income. Lottery ticket, anyone?
    .-= Rachel´s last blog ..RaJen Review: Ready, Set, Go! Cars (Parents® Magazine) =-.

  5. Way to go sis, interesting, funny, true to life blog. I can hear your voice coming through in your pieces (sorry, couldn’t resist my teacher voice coming through)
    Love you and my beautiful nieces tons!

  6. I’m a nurse, and have worked varying numbers of hours during my 16 year career ….. full time, part time, and everything in between. My husband is self employed, so I will ALWAYS be working a bare minimum of part time, for our family benefits. I love it,and couldn’t see myself doing anything else.
    .-= Dianna´s last blog ..Small Successes ….. Week 2 for me =-.

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