I cannot believe that we are less than one week away from having two 2-year olds. It is mind-boggling. Last year at this time, the little ones were creeping and crawling, experimenting with words. Now, they are running, jumping, and talking incessantly (although, we don’t understand a lot of what they are saying, they are sure trying). In a word, we are exhausted.
In reality, these last two years have been tiring but they have been physically tiring. Emotionally, psychologically, we’ve had it easy. I know that is all about to change. First up on the battlefront: discipline.
We haven’t had to do too much in terms of discipline to this point. For the most part, we’ve only had to worry about keeping the boys from causing themselvesharm (i.e. keeping them off of the dining room table, keeping them from eating things they shouldn’t, watching them around the stove, etc.). But we haven’t had to worry about their “behavior” per se.
That is all changing.
As they are increasingly mobile and desiring more and more independence, they are starting to…ahem…assert themselves more: with each other, with their other siblings, and with us. There is more hitting, more throwing, more pushing. Things that cause harm to others. And we have yet to find a discipline strategy that works.
Because they just don’t care.
With our oldest daughter, a mere lookof disappointment was enough to stop her 9 times out of 10. With Aaron and Brady, a look translates to a challenge. “oooohhh, you don’t want me to do that? HAHAHA! Watch me…here I go!”
We’ve tried counting. With Alaina, we have made it past 3 exactly twice in her four years. The boys, ignore us.
We’ve tried time outs. Alaina has had one in four years (the looming threat is enough). The boys enjoy them. What’s worse, is they enjoy each other’s time outs. They laugh, bring each other toys (yes, we interfere, but still…..)
Consequences? Forget about it.
Reward systems? Who cares.
Distractions? Sure. But are they learning anything from that? Not really.
They just egg each other on. And I know when they babble at each other they are really conspiring to get away with something truly bad!
So, MoMs who have survived the “Terrible Two’s”…tell me, how bad is it going to be? And what has worked for you in terms of setting consistent limits with multiple 2-year olds?