As moms and especially moms of multiples we are always pouring into our children and families and always on the go. Have you stopped lately to do something for YOU? I’m a giver and a server. I’ve always much rather been doing something for others rather than receiving, but I’m slowly learning it’s important to stop and rejuvenate. When my girls were in the NICU (Reese 38 days, Riley 55 days), I would drive back and forth 1-2 times a day, stay up late pumping, wake up in the middle of the night pumping, spend hours worrying and praying, and was completely exhausted… and they weren’t even home yet! I remember the nurses ever so sweetly reminding me, “If you don’t take care of you, you can’t take care of your babies.” Those precious friends (who I get to see again at our NICU reunion next weekend- yay!) were right- I wasn’t producing the milk I wanted to be and was getting sick! That bit of advice has stuck with me.
I am a SAHM and since my girls were born in September at 7 1/2 months, we had to be very careful once they were home due to RSV/Flu season. So- I’ve left my girls with friends and family to run errands etc and even in the past couple months have left them in the church nursery (they’re very social and LOVE it), but I hadn’t really left them in order to take some serious needed time for ME. It’s easy to get wrapped up in your identity as “mommy” and almost feel naked when they’re not with you! Just 3 weeks ago, my best friend surprised me with a weekend away… it was the first weekend away from Reese and Riley and I have to say… I did fine- it was actually amazing! She plotted with my hubby and even my sister and mom. She picked me up as I left the girls with a babysitter and we were off to an unknown destination- we stopped for pedicures in her mom’s hometown where we were treated to a nice dinner and relaxed. The next morning her mom and sister came with us for the next leg of the trip. We were headed to San Antonio to see Wicked which I was dying to see! When we stopped for lunch, there in the restaurant was my mom and sister!! It was a weekend of surprise after surprise and it was all about ME. It was almost hard to accept and take in! How blessed I am to have such great friends and family to help me rejuvenate.
I missed Reese and Riley so much, but it was so sweet to come home to them feeling refreshed AND my hubby had a WHOLE new appreciation for me as a SAHM- ha! And he and the girls had a blast… however, he did admit that he kept them in their pajamas everyday (Rather than put them in their cute outfits and bows!) and he and a buddy wanted to watch soccer, so they loaded up the girls (yes, in their pj’s) and went to a sports bar one afternoon. Yep- a sports bar. Only dads. At least it was at the Gaylord… livin’ large… ha!
My little sweetie pies
It’s important to remember who WE are even apart from our little blessings. Take some time for YOU today. I highly recommend a weekend getaway with your girlfriends or spouse, but even if it’s a few hours away to read, drink coffee in peace, or get your nails done- do it! YOU deserve it! What’s your favorite way to treat yourself?
**Okay- great minds think alike! Multiple Madness and I addressed a similar topic- I wrote and posted before I had even read her post. “Me time” must be on a lot of our minds! GREAT post by the way– your vacation sounded FABULOUS!**