In this latest Two late to take it back edition, I’m moving past the pregnancy woes and straight to the planning for birth phase. You’ve already washed and folded all the sweetest clothes possible. You have names ready. And you’ve read nearly everything ever printed about multiples.
The wait, right? Whether it be on bedrest or working until that final hour, the wait is incredible.
The issue: How to plan for a multiples birth
What I thought: Follow the rules just like everyone else. Attend birthing classes. Learn to breathe. Learn to relax. Watch the birthing DVDs.
What really happened: I quit birthing classes because they were not relevant since one of my girls was breech and it was always certain I would need a C-section. I was totally unprepared for a C-section, though. I thought nurses would help more. I thought I would have less pain. Why else would they plop two floppy newborns on top of my stitched up stomach and expect me to mother just four hours after surgery? Mine didn’t spend even five minutes in NICU and so while in excruciating pain and the inability to really move without wanting to, you know, die, I was trying to be a mother for the first time — to two. It was insane. And overwhelming. And heartbreakinkingly hard.
My advice now: Read EVERYTHING you can about C-sections, even if you aren’t planning to have one. And, do what they say and take at least a day to recover. I know, I know the guilt THE GUILT the GUILT the GUILT. But, seriously, who can expect a woman who’s had a major surgery like that to within hours take care of multiple infants?? My hospital did. My family did. It was not easy. I wish I had let the nursery take them overnight the first two nights so that I could sleep and rest and recover. I know. The Guilt. But, I think I might have been a better mother out of the gate if I had done that.
Anyone else out there have babies born via C-section and spent no time in NICU. Share how you managed the pain and the guilt and the emotions of new motherhood?