As we sent our daughter into time-out last night, for who knows what offense, my husband made a comment to me. “Do you notice that we almost never put them in time-out at the same time?” And it’s true. Very seldom do they both behave poorly enough at the same time to warrant simultaneous time-outs.
Even more interesting, at least to me, is what happens during those inexplicable complete meltdowns. You know the ones, of course. The tantrum that comes on with no warning, and probably with no trigger event, either. But they just completely lose it, and for a really, really long time.
Is it just my house, or does the non-melting twin suddenly go on super behavior?
Oh, sure. Not every time. We’ve had our share of double tantrums in this house. But a lot of the time, I find that one kid completely loses it, and the other seems to compensate with a little extra cooperation and a little less whining. And it’s not a straight personality-difference thing, as it has gone both ways with regards to who is melting and who is walking the straight-and-narrow.
So, is it a twin spidey-sense thing, or do I just have strangely empathetic kids? Do you notice this happening in your house, that one child seems to compensate for the other’s misbehavior? Is it always one kid or the other, or do yours switch it up?
One way or another, I’ll be grateful for the fact that sometimes they back off when they see mommy is about to crack. Thanks, kiddos.