Lately I’ve found myself given the opportunity to chat with and encourage women who are pregnant with multiples. They always want to know what to expect. It’s difficult to prepare someone for this crazy journey, but I don’t know that I always share the real hard truths. Let’s face it, ladies, our job as a MoM is hard!
So here it is, MoMs to Be and New MoMs.
The Hard Truths (and hopefully some laughs too!) on my 22 months of twin mommyhood:
- Your friends with singletons DON’T truly understand or relate. Seriously. Join a MoMs Club, find a friend with multiples you can email to ask questions, email one of us at HDYDI! Knowing you’re not alone HELPS.
- Getting up at night to feed more than one baby (2,3, 4…) is SO TIRING. This sounds horrible, but when I was so delirious and going on hardly any sleep, I would have to literally pray myself out of bed. I wanted to take care of my precious newborns, but my body didn’t want to move. Once I was up, it was a sweet time with my girls. It was also when I started reading the Twilight series (haha) since they girls would have to sit up for 15 min after eating due to reflux. Twilight also helped get my tired self out of bed. Laugh if you will, but the books are a sweeeeet love story and very well written.
- You WILL have moments (or perhaps every moment for a while…) where you are overwhelmed and wish you had more than 2 arms and 2 hands. Trying to balance multiple babies is HARD. When you feel overwhelmed, try to find the FUNNY in it. And it could always make a good blog post. My first night alone with the girls was a comedy of errors. Like- pump spraying milk everywhere, screaming babies, even finding a screw in the crust of my pizza??!!. Oh and my first time to take them to the doctor by myself? It’s truly my most embarrassing mommy moment!!! The main lesson I learned that day was you must adjust a Double Snap n Go to fit your brand of carseat. Otherwise, your children will be standing on their heads… :/ Either laugh or lose your mind. Your choice.
- You may feel out of control sometimes and that’s okay. At the beginning, it’s new and a learning experience. At the toddler stage, they are trying to gain indepence. And really- you just feel that way… you’re still the mama.
With raising multiples comes tears- both of frustration and pure elation, JOY, constant moving, not much sitting, organizing, balancing, full arms, overflowing hearts, and a special, wonderful experience that I woudn’t trade for anything.
Have a Hard Truth to add? Do tell!