Our identical twin girls are now 18 months old, and they have just recently started to show signs of the special twin connection or bond everyone talks so much about. Most of the time they are either doing their own things or competing for attention. But, every now and then they’ll show that they are aware of and concerned about each other. Here are a few examples.
The girls are only allowed to have their soothers in their cribs or in their bedroom. When I’m changing R, and S is on the floor, S will crawl over to her crib and get her soother. Then, she’ll get R’s soother and bring it to her. R will do the same thing if I’m changing S first.
S was riding around the living room on a toy car while R was playing in another part of the room. S wanted to pick up a toy but couldn’t reach it from on the car. She pointed at the toy, but I said she would have to get off and pick it up herself. Meanwhile R came over and picked up the toy for S. R then went back to playing with her toys.
Recently, I was breastfeeding S before bed. Nana took R for a walk down the hall to keep her busy for a couple of minutes. When it was time to trade, I started feeding R and Nana went to put S in her crib. S was quite upset. She kept pointing down the hall where her sister had been walking. So Nana had to take her for a walk even though she hadn’t seen where her sister went while she was feeding.
At dinner they will often trade cups or spoons or bowls. This transaction is a different from when one reaches over and takes something from her sister. They just suddenly pass each other their cups and then continue with their meals.
It is so refreshing to see these moments when so much of my time is spent refereeing or mediating between the two girls and their older brother. I’m looking forward to seeing how this connection develops as they get older, more mobile and more communicative.
Do your multiples share a special bond? When did your children start to develop a special bond? How do you nurture it?