Way back at the beginning of the summer, I wrote about my son’s very active desire to drop his nap. He and I had a rough summer. We went through a really defiant stage, and one of the ways it manifested itself was a knock-down, drag-out fight EVERY SINGLE DAY at naptime. Even getting him to stay in his room, asleep or not, was a battle. The kicker was how desperately he still needed the sleep. The days he skipped it, he was a wreck. Lack of sleep plus a super-defiant age? Not a good combination.
At any rate, here we are in September. The overall level of defiance has, thankfully, decreased. He doesn’t have a tantrum every day at 1pm when I suggest it’s time to go upstairs. Even still, though, he is only napping maybe 50% of the time, at best. He’s simply too “busy.” He has to investigate everything (despite there being very few things in his room), he has to take eight trips to the bathroom, etc. And yes, he’s still exhausted by late afternoon. Alas, I think this is just going to be the way it goes until, eventually, the nap is completely gone.
In the meantime, his sister has been quite the opposite – we’re halfway through lunch when she announces that she’s “bewy tired” and ready to go upstairs. She practically tucks herself in and waits for me to come sing a song. “How delightful!” I think to myself. “She’s going to nap forever!”
Or will she?
Daniel’s chosen method for dropping the nap is so noticeable, he’s going about it with such brute force, that it simply commands my attention. While I’m battling with Daniel to stay in his room, mentally pleading with him that this be the day he finally sleeps, Rebecca has been quietly finding another way. What used to be a solid two-plus-hour nap is now consistently down to an hour and a half, at the most. She’s still happy to go to bed, but has been sleeping for shorter and shorter periods.
I won’t lie, I like Rebecca’s method better. It still gives me a guaranteed period of quiet time each day, and doesn’t require any convincing or cajoling. But, of course, each method is very true to its owner. When Daniel sees an obstacle, he wants to barrel straight through it. Direct force. No question what he’s trying to do. Rebecca, on the other hand, will quietly find away around, find a chink in the armor to exploit, or try to simply convince it to step aside. True to form.
What about you, readers? Have you noticed your pair approaching similar transitions or challenges in characteristically different ways? Or do they seem to take a similar path to one another?