further adventures in twindergarten

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Do you like what I did up there? Twindergarten? When I thought of that this afternoon, I dislocated my shoulder patting myself on the back.

Okay. I must preface this post by saying I love the boys’ kindergarten teacher. Love her! She’s the perfect teacher for them, and I hope my youngest will also have her in two years.

That being said, I have some serious concerns over whether their teacher might have gotten their testing mixed up.

When I got the boys’ report cards, I was surprised by two things:

  1. They were drastically different, and
  2. P had a ton of “I” for “insufficient progress” marks, while G had none. This was surprising because P reads and prints and spells a lot better for me at home than G does.

At my conference with their teacher, I broached the awkward topic of whether there was a chance she’d gotten the boys confused. Their teacher said she’d re-assess them to be certain, but that the boys’ test scores back up P being in the “intervention” reading group, and G being in a regular reading group.

Since then, I’ve compared everything they’ve brought home. And I’m pretty sure P is not the one who should be in the “intervention” group. I got a few more papers home today and was struck by the difference between the boys’ work…

I know both of them will be fine and they’re both smart kids, but I’m worried about G getting lost if he’s the one who needs extra help. P hates school, and I wonder if it could have anything to do with this — if he isn’t being challenged, or something.

This is one of the most awkward situations I’ve faced as a parent of twins, second only to the awkwardness of trying to breastfeed the twins discreetly in an unlocked room at my in-laws’ house.

Has anyone else dealt with anything like this? I’ve brought up my concerns (multiple times), and I feel like I have to trust that she has reassessed them… but I haven’t heard anything back from her and therefore I have to assume nothing has changed with their reading groups, etc.

Aside: While the boys look alike and are probably identical, they’ve had different haircuts since the beginning of the school year and are never dressed alike. So suggesting someone has mixed them up long-term is potentially insulting… and like I said, I love their teacher!

Jen is a work-from-home mom of 6-year-old twin boys, and two girls ages 4 and 8. She also blogs at Minivan MacGyver, where she chronicles the many disasters narrowly averted using only her pluck and the assortment of household objects found in her 2001 Pontiac Montana.

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6 thoughts on “further adventures in twindergarten”

  1. Can you frame it as “this is just something that I can’t stop wondering about? And I need something more substantial to put my mind at ease? And I don’t want to create a problem for you (the teacher), and I really love what you are doing in the classroom, etc. etc., but as a mom, this is just not adding up for me and my personal experience with the two boys?” Dunno. Tough one. But ya’ gotta keep barkin’ up that tree until you feel satisfied. Right?
    Monica recently posted In Which I Start to Think I May Be Worrying About the Wrong ThingsMy Profile

  2. What Monica said. Plus, the teacher’s judgement may be influenced by their behaviour in class. Maybe P is shy at reading aloud in school and the teacher can’t assess him properly.
    My twins can’t be confused so I didn’t have your problem, but one of them (indeed, the smartest at school) had abilities very difficult to assess in Kindergarten due to socialization issues.

  3. Don’t feel akward! It’s a totally legit concern. And as a teacher, she shouldn’t be put off by your asking. When I read this, my first thought was, “they must be identical.” Although you write that your boys dress differently, to a teacher with 20 kids in a class, it’s easy to get missed up. I would approach her with your “evidence” and laugh it up a bit, smiling all the while you press her for an explanation. BTW, my boys are fraternal, and whenever they were together, they were ALWAYS missed up. Your senario isn’t commonplace but it does happen! Stand your ground until you are satisfied with the answer.
    Christina Tinglof recently posted Twins and Sports- Another Case of Twin DiscriminationMy Profile

  4. Another vote for talking to the teacher again – and you should definitely bring the papers they brought home. Pick out several for each and just present it in terms of – could we look through their papers and I will explain what I am seeing and you can explain what you see? I wouldn’t even bring up the idea that she may have them mixed up until you establish that she agrees with your assessment of their work. Then you can go from there and figure out where things may have gone wrong…

  5. I totally agree that you should talk to her again. I think that Kathy B has a good way to bring it up. Take the papers in and say this is what I see, what do you see.

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