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Categories Co-parenting, Divorce, Family, Relationships, Single Parenting

When I started writing for HDYDI, I knew where I fit among the other authors. I’m a mom of identical girl twins, school-age ones at that, which places them at the older end of the HDYDI spectrum. I parent in an excessively intellectual fashion, I know, and figured that I could share with you the neuroses that come from over-thinking matters of parenting. I felt that I was representative of multi-cultural families of multiples, and could bring the perspective of a military wife and working mother, as well as that of a foreigner in the US and one raising her children in a religion other than her own.

I now find myself in a new category, one I never imagined I would be: a newly single mom.

My divorce was a clean and quick one. My ex-husband and I continue to put the well-being of our children first. Learning to co-parent in light of the loss of all the other aspects of our relationship has been, I confess, rocky at times. Still, despite some moments where my pain gets the best of me, I know that my ex-husband wants the best for our children. I know it couldn’t have been easy for him to see me move them back to the Austin, TX area with me following the divorce; he remains a 9-hour drive away in El Paso. As I explained to my mother to give her an idea of distances involved, that’s twice the distance between London and Paris. Still, he has been nothing but supportive of my decision to return to the community J, M and I still consider home.

So, hello everyone. My name is Sadia and I’m a divorced mother of twins. I’ll be writing about co-parenting at a distance with a former spouse, and how it differs from long-distance co-parenting within a marriage.

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Sadia (rhymes with Nadia) has been coordinating How Do You Do It? since late 2012. She is the divorced mother of 10-year-old monozygotic twins, M and J. They live in the Austin, TX suburbs, where Sadia works full time in information technology. She contributes to a number of parenting websites and magazines and also runs The Mommy Blogging Guide, where she answers mommy bloggers' technical questions.

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  1. oh Sadia, I still can’t believe that all this has happened but I love that the two of you are putting the girls’ interests first as you have always done.

    I’ve lost your pvt blog’s address – please can you send to me!

  2. I’m so sorry to hear this too Sadia. And I too, have lost your private blog address. Can you tell me how and if I might follow you and the girls there? I miss your updates, and now hope I can be supportive in this new chapter in your life.

  3. This is certainly a new dimension.

    Hope the girls and you have coped up well with the change and have moved on. I have already sent you an email earlier for access so hope to read about J&M’s updates.

  4. I’m sorry to hear about your situation, but glad everyone is working together for the kids. Austin is a great place for kids and families, so I hope you can find the support you need. Don’t forget about Austin Mothers of Multiples if you want some more camaraderie and the support of a group of great ladies! Please email me if you need more info about it.

  5. Sadia, so sorry to hear that your marriage ended. I can’t imagine how difficult it must’ve been. I’m glad that in the middle of the sorrow you two are finding a way to put the wellbeing of your girls first. (not that I ever would doubt that, you come across with your ex-husband as very caring and thoughtful.) Wishing all of you a smooth transition to ‘new normal’.

  6. Hello Sadia,
    I truly truly can relate to you. I would like to explain why in a private mail if that’s possible. Can I have an invitation to your private blog and your email addy?

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