I am 11 weeks pregnant with twins. This isn’t my first pregnancy. In fact, these will be my fourth and fifth babies. Since I’d announced three other pregnancies I foolishly thought this time wouldn’t be any different.
I had no idea that upon hearing “It’s twins” any filter or manners a person may have immediately go out the window. Here are the 10 worst reactions I’ve experienced:
- “Better you than me.”
Why? Do you know something I don’t know?
- “I’m sure you’re stoked but I’d die!”
This was said to me by a nurse practitioner at my pediatrician’s office. Shouldn’t she be easing my nerves? Shouldn’t she have wonderful advice and maybe other twins moms I could talk to? Shouldn’t she stop using the word stoked?
- “You’re going to need a new house”
“You’re going to need a new car”
Thank you for your concern but do you think that you’re sharing new information? I can assure you that the financial needs of 5 kids were some of my very first thoughts and fears.
- “Was this planned?”
ummmmm… yes? I have always been an overachiever.
- “You’re going to HAVE to pump… give formula… get them on the same schedule… hire help.”
I assume you’re basing this on your vast experience with twins.
- “My friend was pregnant with twins but she lost one at ___ weeks”
Thanks. Like I wasn’t already worried about miscarriage or vanishing twin syndrome.
- “Welp, guess we won’t be seeing you next year!”
Said a teacher at my son’s school. As she’s perusing the buffet I organized for a Valentines treat. No soup for you!
- “Maybe NOW you’ll get your girl”
Because my 3 boys are so terrible?
- “Oh! Your poor poor boys”
Siblings suck. So do big families. WTH?
- “You’re going to be HUGE!!!!”
I know this is true, but I really don’t want to hear about it. Especially from someone wearing a size 0.
Not everyone’s reactions were awful. There are many sweet ones that stay with me when I’m feeling nervous about having 2 babies. The next time someone tells you they are expecting multiples please hug them, tell them they are the perfect mom for their babies, and remind them you’ll be there the whole time.
Elizabeth is expecting twins and is the mom to three amazing boys. She lives in central Texas.