Sharing a big bed

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After putting our girls to bed for the night two nights ago, my husband and I sat on our bed in our bedroom and watched the newest episode of Psych.  While we did so, the girls talked and played quietly in their room, and we were a little too tired to care about how late it was and that our girls were still awake.

So, after our show was over, I came in to their room to tell them it was high time they actually went to bed.  To my surprise, both of my daughters were on the top bunk.  They wanted to sleep together.  The daughter who was supposed to be sleeping on the bottom bunk had even brought up her pillow and blankets.

And I thought it was adorable!  My girls’ first “slumber party.”  While my girls had from time to time previously tried to convince us that they wanted to sleep together, those nights usually ended up with them just playing and talking and never settling down to go to bed.  So, we’ve often been leery about any desires they have had about sleeping together.  After all, they haven’t shared a bed since they were about 4 months old. 

So, I let my girls both sleep on the top bunk that night.  But, I told them they actually had to sleep, and soon, otherwise, one would have to go on the bottom, as it was very late at night.  And would you believe that they did indeed sleep?

Last night, we put one on top and one on bottom, but after we left the room, both of them were soon on top again.  But, we explained, again, that they actually had to go to sleep, and tonight, much, much sooner than the night before.  We put one at the foot of the bed with her pillow and blankets and the other at the head, and sure enough, soon they were asleep.

I am still amazed that they both want to sleep together.  They haven’t ever been those twins who always have to touch each other, or be near the other to sleep.  But, they understand now that they are twins, that they are different, special.  And I love that.  They do have a special connection.

My question now is how long will this last?  Will they continue to want to share a bed?   And should we have just gotten one twin bed instead of the bunks those few months ago, because it looks like they don’t need two beds now?! 

Did your twins ever share a big bed?  At what ages? For how long?

ldskatelyn is a wife and mother of newly turned three year old fraternal twin daughters, and a newborn son.  She writes all about her life on her blog What’s Up Fagans?

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Katelyn is a stay-at-home mom to three year old fraternal twin girls, Lisa and Alison, and a brand new baby boy, named Michael. She is enjoying having a newborn again and also loving the dynamics (so far) of having kids of different ages. When Katelyn isn’t playing or taking care of her kids, she’s often reading a book, blogging, watching a movie, or taking care of business. She’s also a talented artist, a Sunday School teacher to a group of 6-year old kids, a supportive spouse to her graduate student/math teacher husband, and a musician. She works hard to have a clean house, great preschoolers, and a happy home. She shares bits of advice and much of her life over at her personal blog What’s up Fagan’s?

4 thoughts on “Sharing a big bed”

  1. My twins share a bed. We started out buying them two seperate beds when we moved them out of cribs- but it didn’t go very well. They had a hard time falling asleep, they would each come into our room at least once every night, and they woke up very early every day. I asked them what would make the nights go better- they asked if they could share a bed- and everything was instantly better! They now share a king size bed and nights are no problems- they sleep all night and they get up 1-2 hours later in the morning. They turned 3 in February- and I have no idea how long this will last- but until they ask for separate beds again, I have no plans to change anything!

  2. My twin boys shared a cosleeper from birth to 4 months, then slept in separate cribs (same room). At age 2 we converted their cribs to toddler beds, and for the next year we never knew where they would fall asleep–both in M’s bed, both in O’s bed, in their own bed, in opposite beds, piled on the couch together. We just let them fall asleep and then we would move each child to his own bed.

    One night, about a month after they turned three, we heard the sound of furniture moving. They were trying to push their toddler beds together to make a “cage”. Nine months later, they still sleep in the enclosed cage formed by their toddler beds. We occasionally move the beds apart, but it never lasts more than a couple of days before they push them together!

  3. When we converted our cribs into toddler beds, we couldn’t keep our boys out of each others’ beds. We ended up pushing their beds together to make 1 large bed, then we eventually bought a full sized bed for them to share. They shared a bed from the ages of 2-5. They had been asking for bunk beds for quite awhile, and we gave them bunk beds for their 5th birthday.

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