Thanks to various things, I am valuing my role as a mother more. I am beginning to understand just how important I am in the lives of my young children. I (along with their dad) am their everything. They look to me to know how to react to things, how to learn, how to speak to others, how to love. A mother is the temperature gauge of her home. So, if I’m mad, everyone will be in a foul mood. And if I’m happy, chances are, everyone will be happier.
The sacrifice I make every day to stay home with my children instead of pursuing my own desires will be short-lived and worth every moment if I make it so. Because, although parenting young children is extremely taxing and challenging emotionally, physically, and spiritually, it is such a short amount of time. Before I know it, my children will be in kindergarten and then college. All research shows that these first few years of a child’s life are paramount (even though they won’t remember much of it!). It sets them up for the rest of their lives! So though I am not currently helping our family’s financial situation much, or furthering my education, or developing new talents, I am helping our family in many, many ways. Motherhood is extremely important. Raising great kids is extremely important. So I’m choosing to make the best out of my awesome appointment of being a mother of young children.
Doing so means I view my children as gifts, as precious, as pure, as wonderful. I see their potentials. I love them fully. I devote my attention (note I didn’t just say time) to them. I make them my top priority, not my home, not my grooming, not blogging, not Facebook, not some book, movie, or game – THEM! I still feel like I am coming into this new frame of mind, of this new understanding of the true value of motherhood, but I am determined to live differently.
And that is what has made me happy again. I’ve changed my outlook. I’m stopped comparing (and am slowly stopping the complaining). I’m prioritizing my life. And it all feels pretty great. I’m not worried about keeping up with someone else. I’m not worried about how others perceive me. And I’m not going to downplay myself, because I know I’m a likeable person, that I’m pretty, talented, and smart. And I know I am a good mom.
I’m not perfect (in fact I’m very flawed), but I’m content. I’m at a good point in my life. I am seeing my purpose differently.
How have you come to view your role as a mother? How has it evolved over time?
*This is an excerpt from a post on my blog. Read the entire post HERE.
ldskatelyn is a mother to one set of g/g twins and one newborn son and feels so absolutely blessed to be a mom! She wants to wish a Happy Mother’s Day to all of her fellow MOMs! She blogs more on her personal blog.