Newly Matching

Posted on
Categories Difference, Older Children, Other people, Parenting TwinsTags

Twice in the last week, my 7-year-old daughters have run off to their room, giggling, only to emerge in matching outfits.

This might not be cause for comment with many sets of elementary-aged multiples, but my M and J haven’t matched their clothes much at all in recent years. In fact, J has brought it up a few times, only to be shot down by her sister.


I did dress my daughters alike some when they were infants. We had so many adorable outfits from our baby showers that it seemed a pity not to milk it while we could.


Of course, we dressed them alike for posed photos.

Practicality often intervened, though. M got chilled more easily than J, so even in our Texas July, she’d wear footie pajamas to daycare while J wore onesies. Plus, I couldn’t be bothered with changing them both when one had spit up or otherwise soiled her clothes.


During the toddler years, they often wore similar outfits. I’d dress them both in dresses, or both in skirts and tank tops, or both in jeans and a shirt. They didn’t match a whole lot, though.

The school J and M attended in kindergarten had a uniform, but we had 3 shirt colours to choose from. I made sure they wore different colours every day to help their teachers and friends distinguish them.

I’m not sure why that didn’t seem as critical in pre-school. It may have been that the classes were smaller, they were there longer, and we were very close to their teachers. In fact, we saw one of them just this morning, over 2 years since our daycare days.

Whatever’s going on with M and J this summer to make them want to match, I can’t say I mind. After several years of dressing themselves independently, I admit to enjoying what the excited call of, “Look, Mama” portends.

One observation I’ve made is that we get asked a lot more often if they’re twins when the girls’ clothes match than when they don’t. This morning at church, J elbowed me to ask the family in front of us, their similar-sized daughters in identical dresses, if they were twins. They were. J was wearing shorts and T-shirt, M a dress. At the grocery store, I was asked how far apart they were. I told the man, “Two minutes.” He turned out to be the dad of fraternal boys.

Do people react to your kids differently when they’re in matching outfits than when they’re not?

Share this...Share on Facebook0Tweet about this on TwitterShare on Google+0Pin on Pinterest0Share on StumbleUpon0Share on Tumblr0Share on Reddit0Digg thisShare on LinkedIn0Email this to someone

Published by


Sadia (rhymes with Nadia) has been coordinating How Do You Do It? since late 2012. She is the divorced mother of 10-year-old monozygotic twins, M and J. They live in the Austin, TX suburbs, where Sadia works full time in information technology. She contributes to a number of parenting websites and magazines and also runs The Mommy Blogging Guide, where she answers mommy bloggers' technical questions.

5 thoughts on “Newly Matching”

  1. We have mostly coordinating sets of clothes, and some are matching. The “twin” comments definitely increase when the girls are dressed alike. It almost surprises me — given that our girls are fraternal — when someone recognizes them as twins when they’re not dressed alike.

    The girls mostly choose their own clothes. Some days one will say, “I want to look like Sissy today.” Sometimes said Sissy agrees with that, and sometimes not. 😉 So far, if one doesn’t want to match, they have agreed to coordinate, so everyone is usually happy.

  2. Its hard to find matching boy/girl clothes. I will admit that I often try to coordinate — especially if we are going out or having guests. I loved seeing the pictures of your girls throughout the years!

    1. It’s harder to find coordinated gender-specific clothes for boy/girl siblings, I think, than identical gender-neutral ones. They could wear jeans and matching T-shirts, or for little ones, even identical onesies.

  3. It must be this age because my girls are 7 and they are doing the exact same thing. It happened toward the middle to end of first grade. It’s crazy! Sometimes one wants to dress like twins and the other doesn’t and they get into a tiff over it … I think they love the extra attention, for sure!

    1. How interesting! All the other twins we know around the same age at school match or coordinate habitually, so it hadn’t occurred to me that it might be related to age.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge