This might not be cause for comment with many sets of elementary-aged multiples, but my M and J haven’t matched their clothes much at all in recent years. In fact, J has brought it up a few times, only to be shot down by her sister.
I did dress my daughters alike some when they were infants. We had so many adorable outfits from our baby showers that it seemed a pity not to milk it while we could.
Of course, we dressed them alike for posed photos.
Practicality often intervened, though. M got chilled more easily than J, so even in our Texas July, she’d wear footie pajamas to daycare while J wore onesies. Plus, I couldn’t be bothered with changing them both when one had spit up or otherwise soiled her clothes.
During the toddler years, they often wore similar outfits. I’d dress them both in dresses, or both in skirts and tank tops, or both in jeans and a shirt. They didn’t match a whole lot, though.
The school J and M attended in kindergarten had a uniform, but we had 3 shirt colours to choose from. I made sure they wore different colours every day to help their teachers and friends distinguish them.
I’m not sure why that didn’t seem as critical in pre-school. It may have been that the classes were smaller, they were there longer, and we were very close to their teachers. In fact, we saw one of them just this morning, over 2 years since our daycare days.
Whatever’s going on with M and J this summer to make them want to match, I can’t say I mind. After several years of dressing themselves independently, I admit to enjoying what the excited call of, “Look, Mama” portends.
One observation I’ve made is that we get asked a lot more often if they’re twins when the girls’ clothes match than when they don’t. This morning at church, J elbowed me to ask the family in front of us, their similar-sized daughters in identical dresses, if they were twins. They were. J was wearing shorts and T-shirt, M a dress. At the grocery store, I was asked how far apart they were. I told the man, “Two minutes.” He turned out to be the dad of fraternal boys.
Do people react to your kids differently when they’re in matching outfits than when they’re not?