What a Nightmare

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Categories Attitude, Balance, Childcare, Feeling Overwhelmed, Frustration, Mommy Issues, Perspective, Routines, SAHM, School, Sleep, Working

Just a heads up. This is a post in which I vent.

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I am miserable. Everything I’ve been stressing about for the past several months is now starting to come to a head. I start work next week, with the official first day of school on the following Monday. With this deadline in mind, I feel like I’m fighting on too many fronts.

On Weaning

I’ve done the whole pump at work thing. Not fun. Not part of my return to work plan. But I’ve hit a slight snag trying to wean. 2.5 years ago with my first it wasn’t hard at all. I wanted badly to stop pumping, so I used the week off during Thanksgiving to step it down, and then Christmas break to finally end it. It was blissful to be finally done. But the point is that I was highly motivated and I had the time to make it a very gradual process. With the twins… I’m actually enjoying my pumping ritual. Pumping for two is not easy, and I am proud of having done it for this long. It just feels wrong to be letting it go. With that said, I still refuse to go back to pumping at work. So, starting about a month ago, I began lengthening the time between pumpings to 3 or 4 hours. I got a clogged duct. Well, the solution to a clogged duct is to pump MORE. So, in pain and running a fever, I went back to every 2 hours and finally it stopped hurting. Then I started over and to 3 hours, then 5, now 6… and guess what? I feel another clog coming on. I’ve never once experienced a clogged duct pumping for Toddler; this time is the 4th painful clog. Oy vey!

On Twins’ Sleep

For the last few days, we’ve been experiencing a sleep upheaval around here. The babies are not sleeping their normal times and durations, it’s affecting their feeding schedule, and they’ve been crying inconsolably much like they used to 4 or 5 months ago. I can only guess that they are transitioning to 2 naps now. It’s wreaking havoc on my nerves. This transition is probably never easy (I remember some headaches when Toddler went through them), but with twins it really is difficult x2. Maybe one is ready for a new schedule and the other isn’t? Maybe they both are but they need me to do something differently? I haven’t figured it out yet. I want to have them firmly set in the new routine before shipping them off to my mom’s, but right now it’s just survival.

On Twins’ Childcare Arrangement

So my mom decided she’d rather have me bring the babies to her house where she’s more comfortable instead of coming over to mine. I’m not altogether sure this is the best way to go, but it’s what she chose so we’ll have to work it out. Husband, his brother, and I spent quite a bit of time last weekend over there (while she was at our house watching the kids) clearing out, cleaning, assembling a second crib (Toddler’s will now be babies’), and installing a baby gate in the babies’ room. We are nowhere near done. The carpet needs to be cleaned, toys sanitized and organized, and all the baby paraphernalia x2 need to make their way over there. Did I mention this room is upstairs?

On Toddler’s Childcare Arrangement

Yesterday I registered Toddler for full day preschool nearby. It isn’t the most ideal place (Husband would say that I don’t think anywhere is good enough for her), but it will have to do. Mandarin is spoken, it’s close to home, the price isn’t too exorbitant, and the teachers seem caring enough. I paid for the month of August and gave a $250 deposit. Like all preschools, no discount for holidays (teachers get lots!) and 6 months’ attendance is required before the deposit can be refunded. No turning back now. She better like it there. I’m so scared what will happen when I have to leave her, or worse, at nap time. If she cries, I think I will cry too.

On Start of School Anxiety

After so long of being a SAHM, I truly dread going back to the frantic life of a working mom.  Not that life isn’t frantic staying at home with 3 young children, but in a different way I guess. I don’t look forward to waking up at the crack of dawn, getting myself ready as well as Toddler (before I didn’t really care how she looked to go to grandma’s house– she went in pajamas and unbrushed hair), remembering to get the day’s stuff ready for 2 babies, and rushing out the door to make it to school at 7am so I could get things done since I can’t stay after school. I also don’t have any appropriate clothes. Seriously, I haven’t worn real clothes or shoes for over a year. My wardrobe since the twins were born consists of camis and stretch pants. Before that I was wearing maternity clothes. And I literally have been only wearing a single pair of flip flops since the beginning of last summer. My shoes probably don’t even fit anymore. There is certainly some shopping to be done, which I don’t have time to do with 3 kids around.

On Other BS Stuff

Of course when one (several) bad things are happening, life has a way of throwing a bunch at us at the same time right? Our washing machine has been on the fritz for weeks. Buy a new one or attempt to repair it? No clue how to answer that question, but wondering every time I put in a load of laundry whether it will spin is not a way to live. I haven’t seen the dentist in at least 4 years. It’s probably time to go, but time and money and my fear of the dentist are all prominent factors here. Do baby clothes ever manage themselves? I find that I am frequently taking piles of outgrown clothes, some still with tags, and throwing them in huge storage bins. Here is another instance where two babies is definitely worse than one. I have had intermittent back pain ever since the twins were born. Keeping up with two mobile babies really does a number on me. Add in some stress and physical exertion and I start to feel like I’m breaking in half at the waist. You know what else? Our cleaning lady is vacationing for the month of August.

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Ok, I’m done. Whew! That feels a little bit better (not really). If anyone has any advice how to get through this, I could use it.

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lunchldyd is mom to 3 year old boy/girl twins and their 5.5 year old sister. She is now teaches part-time to juggle the needs of her young children. When not at work and the kids are asleep, she is addicted to watching TV and sometimes sacrifices sleep to read in bed. She lives in the Los Angeles suburbs with her husband, three kids, and two dogs.

5 thoughts on “What a Nightmare”

  1. I can’t really give you any advice, I did pump when I went back to work and it was awful. It was hard to quit but once I did I definitely felt less stressed. When I was working (I quit my job and stay home now.) we opted to hire a nanny so we wouldn’t have to get the kids anywhere and it was great. More than once I handed off a not-dress, soiled-diapered kid to the nanny and wished her well. I can’t imagine trying to get three kids to two different places and get to work on time. But then I couldn’t imagine having two babies at once and I seem to have managed that, so I think we rise to the occasion.
    Hang in there.

  2. I’m sorry I don’t have much advice, but just wanted to wish you well! I know it doesn’t help in the midst of what feels like chaos, but most everything is just a phase. You’ll eventually wean…you kiddos’ sleep will normalize…and you’ll get your routine down pat in a few weeks. Until then, just hang on…and you’ll be toasting yourself on getting through this transition shortly thereafter. Godspeed!!!

  3. My first piece of advice is this: cabbage leaves! I know it sounds ridiculous, but wearing cabbage leaves in your bra helps reduce your milk supply. At least Google it for me, okay?

    Survival mode is okay. We all go through it. I wish I could give you a hug, or even more, hang out with your littles while you take a break.

    My magical solution to the working mom’s morning crazy came from a blog follower: My kids slept in their school clothes. Ridiculous? Perhaps, but it made mornings that teensy bit easier. Plus, with today’s wash-and-wear clothes, you couldn’t tell.

    And most of all, cut yourself a break. You are doing a fantastic job. As far as returning to work, you’ve made the right decision for your family. Recognize that change always results in stress and remember that this will be a phase… and you’ll have great advice for the next mom who seeks it.

  4. All your comments are very encouraging. Thank you!

    This morning I dropped Toddler off at preschool. We had a little scare with her forgetting her blanket, but after going back to get it (school is about 5 mins away), she was just fine. Didn’t even want me to walk her inside, barely waved at me when I said goodbye. I’m cautiously optimistic about naptime. Hope this is a sign of good things to come.

    As for the weaning, I’ve been taking two Advil and an antihistamine at bedtime for the past two nights. Seems to have helped. It just so sad after I worked so hard to grow and protect my supply :(

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