Infant Paraphernalia

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My babies are about to turn one. I can’t believe it. One whole year already. In some ways it’s been such a long journey, and yet when I think back to the days when our living room couch was baby headquarters, it doesn’t seem that long ago at all.

Babies grow fast. Which means they also OUTgrow things very quickly. Our house is cluttered with so much outgrown infant “stuff” that we’re bursting at the seams. We have just as much as any family with a baby would have, except times two, and some of it is even in triplicate.

Here is just a list of some of the larger items: A bassinet in our playroom, as well as three infant carseats and five bases, a co-sleeper in our bedroom, a swing and a jumper in our living room, another swing and two boppys in the babies’ room, a bottle warmer and sterilizer in the kitchen cabinets, four single strollers and a Snap ‘n Go in the garage, three bouncy seats in the closets. Husband is so annoyed that they’re all still around.

And of course there are plenty of stuff we haven’t outgrown. I have all three kids still in highchairs (the SpaceSaver kind), there’s still a baby tub in our bathroom,  three cribs (one now a toddler bed), many stepstools, several potty chairs, a double stroller, and entire playroom full of toys (!!). In my estimation we have more than the average household, even those with three children and more, because all our kids are so close together. But mostly because…

I can’t seem to let these things go. The problem is me. Most people in this situation would probably rejoice at the prospect of getting rid of all the clutter. Me? I have not thrown or given away a single item of infant paraphernalia. Husband threatens constantly to let the garbage man have all my stuff, but the thought of that practically puts me in tears, so he hasn’t been able to do much but pile it all as much out of the way as possible.

Somehow, my brain tells me that these items represent my babies’ infanthood. To me, they aren’t an eyesore or in the way at all. They are cherished mementos of a time I will never get back.

I do have a suspicion though, that there is actually another reason. Getting rid of this stuff would mean that we are done having children. Don’t get me wrong, the thought of adding another baby to the mix now makes me dizzy, but… there is always that possibility in the future, right? Not having any more baby stuff just seems so final. Someday when these kids are grown, wouldn’t I yearn for another chubs to snuggle? Another baby with that intoxicating baby smell? Husband says Hell No.

But me? Sorry, I don’t think I’m ready to let go of all my babies’ stuff just yet.

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lunchldyd

lunchldyd is mom to 3 year old boy/girl twins and their 5.5 year old sister. She is now teaches part-time to juggle the needs of her young children. When not at work and the kids are asleep, she is addicted to watching TV and sometimes sacrifices sleep to read in bed. She lives in the Los Angeles suburbs with her husband, three kids, and two dogs.

3 thoughts on “Infant Paraphernalia”

  1. I feel your pain!!! I felt very much the same way.

    What helped me begin to clear things out was finding a really good home for them. For the first round of our baby gear, a family friend’s daughter was truly in need. It definitely made things easier to know that the girls’ things were going to a good home, one where they were really needed.

    Since then, I’ve gotten involved in two consignment sales each year — one in the spring, and one in the fall. I have made quite a bit of money (relatively speaking), selling things we no longer use. Getting a fat check twice a year helps ease my pain, too. 😉

    With some things, though, I just can’t let go…and I am embracing that. I finally decided to have the girls’ diaper changing pad covers into pillows for them. And I have a pile of things I am keeping, too. I go through those once a year or so and narrow things down a bit, but some things I’ll probably hang onto. I figure there’s no harm in having a bin in a spare closet if it saves this mama’s sanity just a tiny bit. 😉

    Hang in there! You’re not alone! 😉

    1. Yes! I feel the same way! This is why we have two infant carseats taking up our closet and bags of clothes, etc etc etc. The only thing that has helped me to part with some of it is my best friend’s sister becoming pregnant unexpectedly (at age 20) and a co-worker who is expecting twins. I’m only saving the things I can’t bear to part with…because the real thing I can’t part with is the idea of being done having babies!

  2. I’m so glad I’m not the only one with this struggle. I know I can be something of a packrat, so I FORCED myself to get rid of our girls’ stuff as they outgrew them, but it ripped a part of me away every time! I found it easiest to give them away through Freecycle, knowing that they be actively used right away.

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