This is not a book review. Rather, it’s a criticism of the parenting/baby/pregnancy book industry and their disregard for twins, triplets and higher order multiples.
As of 2010, twins accounted for about 1 in 30 births in the United States (source). And yet, most parenting and pregnancy books I’ve come across either completely ignore multiples (Parenting With Love And Logic) or only include a short paragraph (What to Expect When You’re Expecting). I realize that not everyone has twins or higher order multiples and I realize that we can’t expect a parenting book to include them throughout the entire book. However, with the rise in multiple births, we can (and do) expect the books to include a chapter about multiples. Do not completely ignore our situation. Do not give us a short, uninformative paragraph. We want a whole chapter. In my experience reading Parenting With Love And Logic, I was ultimately frustrated because a great deal of the discipline strategies sound ideal for a singleton, but are completely inadequate and impractical with twins. A chapter written addressing how to incorporate the ideas into a multiple birth family would have been so helpful.
Yes, there are books written exclusively for twins, triplets and higher order multiples and those books are important and informative. However, they are usually focused on the pregnancy or early days at home. They also aren’t as specialized. For example, there is no Christian Parenting Handbook for Twins, Triplets and Quads or Happiest Twin Babies on the Block.
Maybe no one who has any influence on the publishing industry will read my rant. But maybe they will and in ten years when someone finds out at the ultrasound that there are two heartbeats and rushes home to read about it in her What to Expect book, she’ll find a whole chapter about multiple birth pregnancy and not just a short paragraph.
Janna lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband, almost six year old identical twin boys (who were 18 months in the above picture – gah! where did my babies go?!?!?!?) and the world’s laziest border collie.