Not long after we became MoMs, one of my bestest twin mama friends told me, “Motherhood is the great common denominator.”
I thought that reference was just profound.
When I think about what, for me, has been the greatest common denominator, though, it is being a multiple mama.
…or is it the simple fact that we’re all outnumbered by our kiddos?
All I have to do is think about our MoMs group get-togethers. Especially when my girls were smaller, it could feel really daunting to be in a group environment. Would I be able to manage both the girls through the potluck dinner? What if one had to go to the bathroom? What if they both decided to take off running towards the parking lot?
I quickly discovered that – despite the sometimes-seeming chaos of a gaggle of matching multiples running around – we all had each others’ backs.
Unlike the sideways glances I got from time to time at toddler story hour, where most mamas were grooving in time with their ONE little one…while I could only try my best to keep my girls from toddling in different directions…that judgment is just not there with a bunch of MoMs.
We lend each other a hand…we hold babies…we wipe sticky hands (and sometimes goopy bottoms)…we share our toys…we work it out.
When we get together for a late-night coffee…finally having gotten the kiddos to bed…it’s really OK if you show up without makeup. Really, it is. Yoga pants with spit-up on them? It’s OK…hey, look, me, too! A sense that somebody’s hard on cash? Hey, how about we meet at my house. We’re just thankful to see each other. Really, we are.
It’s been my experience that, far beyond the commonality of motherhood, being a multiple mama is a pretty special club. I’ve seen it transcend socio-economic status, religion, and politics. I’ve seen otherwise very different families side by side, making the best of it together…united by a common bond to which many others just can’t relate.
I am so very blessed to be a mama to my girlies, and I’m really thankful for the sisterhood it’s brought me, too.