Twins don't get a birthday to call their own, but there's always something they can find to individualize it!

Twin Birthday Time

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My daughters, M and J, turned 8 over the weekend. Eight. That makes me feel old. In fact, I’m focusing on my own upcoming 35th birthday to feel slightly less geriatric.

8-year-olds are intrigued by magnetism.
How did those squishy babies turn into these mature people?

A while ago, my daughters wanted to know what time they were born. Since I’d already given in and told them who was born first, I was okay with answering their questions. J was born at 6:33 am, M at 6:35. I thought that this detail would be noted in passing and filed away for another time.

Not so. My daughters both became obsessed with their birth times. My ever-precise daughter M counted down to her birthday, or rather birthminute. “I’ll be 8 in 19 days, 12 hours and 13 minutes,” she told me 22 days, 16 hours and I’m-too-lazy-to-calculate-it minutes ago.

J asked me to wake her at 6:00 on the morning of her birthday, “so I can enjoy a few more minutes of being 7.” When 6:00 am rolled around, she elected to go back to sleep, but M bounced up. She watched the clock until 6:35, then broke into a boisterous rendition of “Happy Birthday to Me”.

Twins don't get a birthday to call their own, but there's always something they can find to individualize it!

I’m so glad that we set the precedent of singing “Happy Birthday” to each child separately at their first birthday party. This year, J actively requested that she get her own “Happy Birthday”. Yes, my twins were born together, but they’re individuals. We celebrate them with a single party and, in recent years, a single cake, but they get their own song, unsullied by Sister’s name.

Being a twin is all kinds of awesome, but having to share a birthday, that milestone that is so important to children, comes with a downside. My girls, ever inventive, have used the precise times of their births to lay claim to their individuality.

Do you refer to your multiples’ birth as singular or plural? Do you say, “my twins’ birth” or “my twins’ births”? I do the latter. Sure, it was one C-section, but there were two births. It seems that the girls agree.

Sadia (rhymes with Nadia) has been coordinating How Do You Do It? since late 2012. She is the single mother of 8-year-old monozygotic twins, M and J. She lives with them and their 3 cats in the Austin, TX suburbs and works full time as a business analyst. She retired her personal blog, Double the Fun, but now also blogs at Adoption.com and Multicultural Mothering.

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Sadia (rhymes with Nadia) has been coordinating How Do You Do It? since late 2012. She is the divorced mother of 10-year-old monozygotic twins, M and J. They live in the Austin, TX suburbs, where Sadia works full time in information technology. She contributes to a number of parenting websites and magazines and also runs The Mommy Blogging Guide, where she answers mommy bloggers' technical questions.

11 thoughts on “Twin Birthday Time”

  1. My guys were born in the same minute – 2:12am. It was an emergency c-section and it was very quick! When people ask who’s older, I just say they were born in the same minute and I get a lot of “you must be superwoman” raised eyebrows. At least they each get their own birthday song :o)

      1. Ha! YES! Different second :o) (Thankfully for mommy’s sake.) I’m storing this up for future celebrations :o) Good call, J.

  2. HAHAHAHA! Love J’s comment to Rebecca’s post!!!

    We always do two songs (and two sets of candles). It actually makes me really uncomfortable to go to a multiples party and not have separate songs. At least I feel like the parent should say, “We’re going to sing HB to ‘A&B'” to give everyone the order…otherwise it sounds like such a jumble.

    …but maybe that’s just the planner in me. 😉

    1. I don’t mind the overlapping names so much, but the many keys in which “Happy Birthday” is sung makes me crazy! We ended up skipping candles this year. The girls were so anxious to dig into their cupcakes that they asked me to hurry up and get the singing over with so they could eat.

  3. When mine turned one we had a separate mini round cake each for smashing, and a large sheet cake for eating. And I agree, definitely two songs. Of course at age one they didn’t know the difference, but an older child certainly appreciates the special attention. We just had our firstborn’s 4th birthday party this past weekend as well, and she beamed from ear to ear when we sang to her and she blew out her FOUR candles :)

      1. I’m finding there’s a lot more battling of wills now that she is so clear on the things that she wants. Perhaps this happens to most parents of 2 year olds? Mine is a late bloomer on that front I guess.

  4. Wish M and J a very Happy Birthday :). Mine will reach this milestone in another 12 days and they cannot wait for the party. The cakes have been decided and I need to order and plan for a lunch :)

    It is so funny how they come up with ideas that separate them and also with ideas that keep them together

  5. Oh, that’s so precious! Now they have their separate birthdays, after all.

    But yes, eight – neither of my kids are eight, but I keep seeing the years disappear so I imagine next time I blink we’ll be right there, too.

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