I’m a first-time attendee at the annual Multiples of America (formerly National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs – NOMOTC) Convention. This year it was just down the highway from my house, in Austin. My kids were at their Dad’s for the summer. It seemed like it was meant to be, so I registered, wondering if I was nuts for taking a week off work to talk twin motherhood all day every day.
I didn’t know a soul. Well, I’d seen two of the participants at an Austin Mothers of Multiples meeting once, but that was it. I volunteered to help with registration, thinking I might as well make the most of being local. It took approximately seconds after my arrival to feel welcome and at home.
That’s the really great thing about the multiples parents community. Once you’re a member of this club, just by virtue of being a parent of multiples, there’s an immediate kinship and sense of belonging. I hear my singleton moms complain about the judgment they encounter. I’ve gotten my share of condemning comments from other moms and from non-parents, but never from another mother of multiples.
Perhaps it’s because I’m out there as a Mom of Twins. After all, I do write for a blog about parenting multiples. I am the weirdo who had to be yanked out of a restaurant bathroom recently by a friend because I was making us late. I’d fallen into conversation with another mother of identical girl twins and lost track of time. Perhaps my overwhelmingly positive experience is unique.
I don’t think so, though.
My kids are at an odd age now for parenting clubs. When I attended my first AMOM meeting last month, I was the parent with the oldest multiples, by far. In a room filled with expectant parents, moms of infants, and moms of toddlers, my 8-year-olds were positively geriatric.
Among the early arrivals at the Convention, I’m on the young side. The first people who took me under their wings had multiples in their 30s and 40s. One lovely woman I spoke to attended her first Convention in 1972. Another has come every year, without fail, since 1995.
We haven’t yet talked all that much about parenting. The Convention proper doesn’t get underway until Wednesday. Of course we exchanged notes on our kids and looked at each other’s family photos. But mostly, we just had fun. We visited President Johnson’s ranch, known as the Texas White House.
We went wine tasting.
After dinner, we’re going swimming.
And that’s just my first day.
Sadia (rhymes with Nadia) has been coordinating How Do You Do It? since late 2012. She is the divorced mother of 8-year-old monozygotic twins, M and J. She lives with them and their 3 cats in the Austin, TX suburbs and works full time as a business analyst. She retired her personal blog, Double the Fun, when the girls entered elementary school and also blogs at Adoption.com and Multicultural Mothering.