Imagining “Me Time” in the Midst of Motherhood

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When my girls were 2, I committed to a blog link-up entitled “52 Weeks of ME!”  It was meant to encourage mamas to carve out some “me time” every week.

Sounds wonderful, right???…although at the outset, I didn’t quite know how I would swing it.  I stayed home with the girls all day, every day.  And since I wasn’t working, we tried to be conservative with our finances.  I couldn’t afford regular date nights, and a pedicure was something I could only do occasionally.

Once I got into the swing of things, though, it wasn’t nearly as hard as I’d feared.  Actually, it was downright enlightening to challenge myself to think differently about “me time”.

Sure, some weeks I treated myself to an actual treat.  I bought a new sundress.  I had dinner out with my hubby.  I went out for coffee with a girlfriend while the babies napped at home with Daddy.

More often than not, though, I had to get creative.  I soon found it wasn’t always about the “thing” I did…but how I positioned it in my mind.

Here are a few examples of my “me time”:

First time wearing my flip-flops for the season! It wasn't quite warm enough, but it was exhilarating to feel the sunshine on my feet!
First time wearing my flip-flops for the season! It wasn’t quite warm enough, but it was exhilarating to feel the sunshine on my feet!

I skipped my nap time chores and took a luxurious bubble bath in the middle of the afternoon.

I loaded the girls up in the car with the sole purpose of going through the Starbucks drive-thru.

I bought a new magazine and read it cover to cover over the course of the week.

I set aside 30 minutes a day to do some long-overdue crafting.

I called my college roommate, whom I hadn’t spoken with in way too many years, and we had the best time catching up.

There was the element of anticipation—What am I going to write about this week?— the planning, the conscious enjoyment, and the reflection that made this such a worthwhile challenge.

Over the course of that year, I taught myself to be fully present, to take things as I could get them, and to appreciate the little things in the context of my hectic toddler-twindom.

If you can snag some super-indulgent “me time”, GO FOR IT!!! Enjoy that girls’ weekend, that Swedish massage, those adorable new shoes!!!  But when you can’t, find something to step back and appreciate… just for you.  And do it often.

MandyE is mom to 6 1/2-year old fraternal twin girls.  She blogs about their adventures, and her journey through motherhood, at Twin Trials and Triumphs.

Making Time for Me - a series on mothers finding time for themselves in the middle of the insanity of parenting and life

From August 31 to September 4, 2015, How Do You Do It? is running a series on “me time” for mothers: why we need it, how we make it, what we do with it. Find the full list of posts on the theme week page.

Have you blogged about mommy time on your own blog before? Are you inspired to do so now? Link your posts at our theme week link up! We’ll do our best to share them on Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter with the hashtag #metime.

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MandyE is the mother of 4 ½-year old fraternal twin girls, Baby A and Baby B. (And yes, their names actually start with the letters A and B!) She worked in the marketing field for nine years before her girls were born, but these days she’s relishing the opportunity to be a SAHM, which she plans to continue until the girls start kindergarten. MandyE has been blogging at Twin Trials and Triumphs since her girls were a year old. Between her blog and her local Mothers of Multiples group, she considers the multiples community a huge part of her support system.

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