On Monday I wrote about how I (re)imagined “me time” in the midst of twin toddlerhood. Being a full-time SAHM, I needed that time. I needed time away from the responsibility of the day-to-day, minute-to-minute needs of my girls. I needed that time to do something just for me.
Fast-forward a few years, and my girls are 6 1/2. They’re in school, and I’ve been back to work full-time for about a year now. They love school (and I [mostly] love my work). Hubby and I have a great set-up. I drop them off at school, and he — a high school teacher — picks them up in the afternoons. He takes them for the occasional ice cream cone or hot chocolate, and homework is usually done by the time I get home at suppertime.
Everything works out great…but I desperately miss spending time with my baby girls.
Our time in the mornings before school and in the evenings after supper is always jam-packed. On the weekends, I just want to hang out with the girls…but that doesn’t stop me from wanting some “me time”. I’ve just had to re-imagine “me time” again, this time as a working mom.
I take at least one day a week to do something frivolous on my lunch hour. It might be an errand…a run to Target, perhaps…but I’ll make time to peruse the stationery and take a spin through the Star.bucks drive-thru on the way back to the office. I might go to the craft store and walk up and down each aisle…alone! Or I might treat myself to a chocolate chip cookie from the local bakery.
I also get out at night from time to time, after the girlies are in bed. I recently discovered the nail salon is open until 8pm. It feels a little rushed…but I can keep up my monthly pedicure without taking time away from the girls.
And on occasion, I still leave the girls at home with Daddy to do something by myself. It’s hard not to feel guilty…to feel like I’m missing precious time with them…but I think it’s important for them to see me pursue my own interests from time to time.
In some ways, it feels harder to justify “me time” these days…but I know it’s still important. It’s important for me AND — now that they’re old enough to understand — for my girls, too.
How has your “me time” evolved over the different life stages of your kiddos???
MandyE is mom to 6 1/2-year old fraternal twin girls. She blogs about their adventures, and her journey through motherhood, at Twin Trials and Triumphs.