Launching a series of thoughts on mothers making time for all the non-mommy things that still matter, at hdydi.com.

Me Time: In Closing

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This week’s 22 posts on “me time” here on HDYDI, as well as those on the theme week link up, have shed light on the complexity of making time for the non-parenting parts of our lives. Some repeating motifs have become apparent.

Be a better mom by taking time for yourself.Nurturing ourselves is crucial, and it takes effort and planning when we have young children. MandyE, Krysta, Mari, Elizabeth, and SaraC all gave us practical ways to incorporate time for that nurture into our days in their excellent blog posts. Michelle gave us some pointers on the very basic, and surprisingly challenging, act of eating with two newborns to care for.

Specific activities that keep us centred and connected to our spouses are key. I wrote about this, as did SarahN, Mercedes, SaraC, and Katie.

Mommy guilt is ubiquitous, but especially present when we spend time on things other than our children.Not every mother gets “me time” away from the children. Both Beth and Jen Wood wrote about this, as did I. Elizabeth brought a uniquely single parent perspective to this point. And SaraBeth found herself away from her kids in a completely unanticipated way.

“Me time” changes over time, and the three of us with the oldest children in the group all pointed this out. MandyE and I wrote about how our use of me time has changed over the years, while Michelle noted that it hasn’t changed as much as some might expect.

Interested in reading this week’s posts? Here’s the full list:

 

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Sadia

Sadia (rhymes with Nadia) has been coordinating How Do You Do It? since late 2012. She is the divorced mother of 10-year-old monozygotic twins, M and J. They live in the Austin, TX suburbs, where Sadia works full time in information technology. She contributes to a number of parenting websites and magazines and also runs The Mommy Blogging Guide, where she answers mommy bloggers' technical questions.

37 thoughts on “Me Time: In Closing”

  1. I found this week to be very enlightening, encouraging and uplifting. As a mother to young children, it can be difficult to see the forest through the trees. I really appreciated the wisdom from the more seasoned mothers.
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  2. Thanks for linking all of these. I’ll need to check them out. I had to decide every Saturday morning would be my time for writing my blog and told my husband he’d be watching the boys then because if I didn’t plan it, it never happened.

    Thanks for hosting #TwinklyTuesday
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  3. Me time is so important! I try to have a bit of me time when Emma naps or in the evenings when she’s gone to bed, and I’ve also been lucky to have some pamper days on my own when my husband has taken Emma on his day off! #TwinklyTuesday
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  4. Finding time for me is always a little tricky, and I will be popping back later to read some of the linked posts! Having said that, I have just dropped my youngest to her first day of preschool and I am sitting in an empty house not quite sure what to do with myself :) #twinklytuesday

  5. Having ‘me time’ is so important being a mummy is the hardest job I’ve ever done and it’s important to take care of yourself so you can continue being a good mum. Even if it’s just a soak in the bath when the kids are asleep or treating yourself to have your nails done. It all makes a big difference.
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    1. Yes! Exactly! The other HDYDI MoMs and I were just talking about the irony of our blogging time not having come up in our discussions of nurturing ourselves.

  6. I feel 100% guilty if I have me time because I see so little of Zach that I feel I have to make up for the time spent away from him by spending all the other time with him! It’s probably not healthy because I really don’t have much me time. It is such a hard pull though! Thanks for sharing and making me think about it and thanks as always for being a fab co-host at #TwinklyTuesday xx
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  7. I really need to try and find more ‘me-time’ for myself. Actually husband and I have a night off (kids sleeping over at grandparents – not sure who’s most excited – the kids, us or the grandparents?!) on Friday and I really need this. My #twinklytuesday post is actually about how I felt judged by a fellow mum telling me that whilst I like a night out, her priorities are her children. It really made me feel like I was depriving my children of my care and attention. But reading this (and I’ll be coming back to read more as there are so many that strike a chord – chores as me time?!) makes me feel like I am doing the right thing by making time for me and my relationship, in order to make me a more relaxed, less stressed mummy. Thank you all x
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  8. I don’t do “me time” away in the sense that I go anywhere alone for a longer period (like a vacation). I do “me time” in the evening when they are in bed, but also some “me time” by taking a walk with the dog alone, doing some shopping alone or simply just getting to sleep in hehe. It all works for me. 😀
    Having kids can be hard some times, but I have learned that the more *I* do with them in the sense of creative play or going out to the park, the less of a “nightmare” it will be at home for me because it will tire them out nice and good for the late afternoon, so come dinner time they are both pretty much ready for bed. 😀

    But the days where I don’t do anything at all….then I often find my self really wanting husbot to get home soon! hehehe :)
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  9. “Me time” is so incredibly important for our emotional wellbeing and to help us ultimately be better parents.

    I really struggled with my identity after I had my son. I felt the old me had been ripped out from under me. Taking time for myself – going to work, seeing friends, writing etc – helped me to reconnect with the old Laura and get healthier.

    I’ll be reading the other posts with interest :)

    #twinklytuesday

  10. Some really interesting reads here. Thanks so much for co-ordinating this. I have to say, now that my children are 12 and 9, I do find it easier to get ‘me’ time. What I find far more difficult is making time with my husband. Now that the children are up later in the evenings, we don’t get that post-bedtime slot that we used to. In order to get time away from the children, we have to leave the house, which is difficult when you have two very anxious sleepers and babysitters who find it hard to settle them. I think the challenges change as the years progress, but they are always present! However, they are so worth every minute of effort! xx

  11. Me time is so important. But being a stay at home mum means that I really don’t get much. Anytime I do get is spent on my blog or social media. I enjoy it but it isn’t that relaxing. However, I do get to have a long hot bubble bath with a good book every now and then. Bliss! Hugs Mrs H xxxx #TwinklyTuesday
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