Welcome to How Do You Do It?, a blog by and for moms of multiples. We tell it like it is. We talk about the day-to-day realities, joys and challenges of raising twins, triplets and more.
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At HDYDI, you can read about how we do it and how, sometimes, we just don’t. We tell you how we mothers of multiples make the most of help from family, friends and the larger community, talk about the handy tools that have helped us long the way, and share the mommy issues that are often magnified when raising several kids all the same age, many of whom were born prematurely.
Some of the moms are in the sleepless haze of infancy. Others have multiples in elementary school. Most are somewhere in between. Many of our multiples were born prematurely, and several of us have preemie singletons too. We represent large families and small, include married and single moms, and span the continuum from stay-at-home moms to mothers with demanding full-time careers outside the family. We’re special needs moms, a mom to profoundly gifted children, several NICU veterans, a loss mom, an adoptive mom later in life, and moms from around the world. We’ve made it through infertility, high risk pregnancy, difficult childbirth, prematurity, developmental delays and continue to rise to the challenges that come our way. Some of us additionally volunteer with local and national organizations for multiple birth and special needs families.
We accept guest posts by parents of twin, triplets or more or on topics specific to raising multiples.
Learn about the moms of How Do You Do It?
2cuteblog, also known as Mama and Mommee to her two twin toddlers, lives in Ottawa Canada along with her husband, Mr. Mama. After staying at home with Mister and Missy for close to two years, she is back at work fulltime and trying to maintain some work/life balance. She is always looking for ways to stretch a dollar for children’s items and family-friendly activities – including travelling with toddlers in tow! In her blog posts, you will find advice for first-time parents, stories about her twins, and the places they go, things they do. Visit her personal blog 2Cute – Adventures in Twin Parenting or follow her on Twitter@2cuteblog to find out what they’re doing next!
Beth was happily raising her now 4 year old daughter and planning for one more when the doctor said that he saw 2 good sacs. Her boy/girl twins we born at 35 weeks, he naturally, easily, after 4 pushes. His drama queen sister turned transverse and then her placenta separated, leading to her delivery by C-section (with Beth under general anesthesia). Thanks to post delivery eclampsia, Beth met her twins when they were 26 hours old. Now those days are just a memory and the twins are crazy and funny. Crawling all over the house chasing big sister, reading books, knocking over towers and cuddling are favorite activities. Beth’s challenge is to balance a preschooler, 1 year old twins, her DIY obsession, and a full time job as a college professor, while finding time to occasionally vacuum to feed her OCD side. Beth blogs at Pickles in My Tea and in My Soup.
Carolyn is the full time working, volunteering, keeping active, Canadian mom of 3 year old twin boys and a 5 year old boy. Carolyn was introduced to the world of parenting in a rush, with the sudden arrival of her 31 weeker firstborn. Two years later, her twin boys thought they’d show up their older brother and showed their little faces at 27 weeks and in just as much of a hurry as their big brother! In just shy of two years Carolyn experienced the NICU twice for three little ones. The biggest lesson she took away from their NICU experiences was a lesson in patience. Carolyn learned to slow down, breathe and focus on the things that mattered; her little boys, her husband, her family. Although her twins experienced many hurdles while working their way through the NICU and she took them to close to two hundred appointments in that first year, Carolyn took time to reach out to the “preemie” community, which spans the globe. The unusual experience of having preemies and multiples has opened up all kinds of unique opportunities Carolyn never knew existed until she started her family. Carolyn has joined organizations promoting premature birth awareness, multiple-births awareness, chairs Multiple Births Canada’s Preterm Birth Support Network, writes a monthly newsletter for the Network, blogs and guest blogs, all in the name of NICU, preterm birth and multiple birth awareness. You can check out her blog at Twintrospectives.
Christine is a first time mommy to two beautiful 17-month-old twin boys that have recently started walking and are now running in all directions. She’s wife to her high-school sweetheart – the man of her dreams and also a full-time software/web developer in the financial industry. They have two kitties, a very naughty Jack Russell and a home that is fast becoming too small.
Dory lives in Richmond, Virginia, with her husband Tim, dog Lucy, and cat Toby. Her fraternal boy/girl twins were born in November 2013. She used to be an elementary school teacher, but is now going to be a SAHM, where she focuses on her blog Doyle Dispatch and her craft business Personally Yours by Dory. Dory started blogging in 2009 to document her DIY wedding-on-a-budget, and she has continued blogging past the wedding to document her family life, budgeting and stay-out-of debt adventures, home decorating, and DIY projects and tutorials. In the past months, Dory has really enjoyed documenting and writing about her twin pregnancy, helping other soon-to-be twin moms though the totally new experience of a multiple pregnancy.
Jessica is Mama of twin baby girls, Jane and Emma, Wife to Hershey, Teacher at her alma mater, poet, realist, kitty-lover, friend. She decided to blog because during her pregnancy, she could never find anything having to do with twins or multiples. She didn’t come across any advice for registries for multiples, or pregnancy, or life after delivery. Jessica felt extremely alone, and spent most of her pregnancy in a funk. Today, she is the happiest she’s ever been. She continues to improve her craft (teaching) through various professional development outlets, and learns something new about being a mother every day. Jessica is in love with her girls, with being a mama, with her husband, and with life. She is the one people go to when they want the truth. Jessica writes all about life with a husband and twins at Leading the Double Life.
lunchldyd is mom to 21 month old boy/girl twins and their 4 year old sister. She has returned to her job as a high school teacher part-time after working full-time last year almost collapsed her. When not at work and the kids are asleep, she is addicted to watching TV and sometimes sacrifices sleep to read in bed. She lives in a now-too-small house in the Los Angeles suburbs with her husband, three kids, and two dogs.
MandyE is the mother of 4 ½-year old fraternal twin girls, Baby A and Baby B. (And yes, their names actually start with the letters A and B!) She worked in the marketing field for nine years before her girls were born, but these days she’s relishing the opportunity to be a SAHM, which she plans to continue until the girls start kindergarten. MandyE has been blogging at Twin Trials and Triumphs since her girls were a year old. Between her blog and her local Mothers of Multiples group, she considers the multiples community a huge part of her support system.
Mari and her wife Michelle are moms to GGB triplets, born at 34 weeks in October 2013. Mari has been blogging since last spring when they found out they were expecting triplets. A pediatric physical therapist, Mari is fascinated by watching her three babies develop and seeing the variation and similarities among them. She recently added Motor Monday posts to their blog, The Triple(t) Threat to share some of her observations and knowledge. Mari and her family live in central PA, where her wife Michelle is pursuing her PhD.
Mercedes is a stay at home mom with fraternal boy/girl twins born in September 2012. Although they were born in the US, they’ve done much international galavanting in their short lives and currently live in Aberdeen, Scotland. As expats, Mercedes and her husband have also lived in Cape Town, South Africa, and Luanda, Angola. Mercedes blogs about gentle parenting, creativity and being an expat at her personal blog, Project Procrastinot.
Sadia (rhymes with Nadia) has been coordinating How Do You Do It? since late 2012. She is the divoced mother of 8-year-old monozygotic twins, M and J. She lives with them in the Austin, TX suburbs and works full time as a business analyst. She decided to retire her personal blog when the girls entered elementary school in order to better protect their privacy, and was delighted to have the opportunity to keep a foot in the blogosphere through HDYDI. She also blogs at Adoption.com and Multicultural Mothering and is the Single Parents Coordinator for Multiples of America (formerly NOMOTC).
Sara is a Toronto, Canada based writer and working mom of multiples. Her blog, Multiple Momstrosity was named one on Toronto Mom Now’s 2012 Top 30 Mom Blogs. She is a two time veteran of the Three Day Novel Writing Contest and has written an unpublished novel, This is You Without Me. She lives in “The Junction” with her husband Chris and spontaneous fraternal toddler twins (Molly& Jack).
Sarah (N) is the mother to four girls, two of whom are identical twins Hailey and Robin. They were born in the Yukon in a very small hospital at 35 weeks, and though they were small, they were mighty. She now lives in Ontario, where her high school sweetheart husband works very hard, and she stays home with the girls, freelance reporting on the side. In her past life, she was a journalist who covered everything from fast-paced federal politics to cats stuck in trees. Her writing has appeared in local newspapers and magazines, and in national publications like the Globe and Mail and ParentsCanada Magazine. She is a yogi, a mediocre cook, an awesome Beyonce dance move imitator, and an avid blogger at Cure for Boredom.
Yetunde-Olusola was born, raised and married in Lagos Nigeria, had twin girls in Houston, Texas and is currently raising them in Calgary, Canada while balancing an engineering career on the side. So I guess if you had to put a label on that you can say she’s an expat, working mother of Sugar and Spice (The Twins). She started blogging at mytwintopia blog when her twin girls were born and loves to share tips and resources based on her personal parenting experiences in the hopes that she stops some frazzled twin parent from re-inventing the wheel. She doesn’t do a lot of crafts and recipes and tends to be fairly concise with words. She blames all that on her introverted alter-ego.