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Katelyn is a stay-at-home mom to three year old fraternal twin girls, Lisa and Alison, and a brand new baby boy, named Michael. She is enjoying having a newborn again and also loving the dynamics (so far) of having kids of different ages. When Katelyn isn’t playing or taking care of her kids, she’s often reading a book, blogging, watching a movie, or taking care of business. She’s also a talented artist, a Sunday School teacher to a group of 6-year old kids, a supportive spouse to her graduate student/math teacher husband, and a musician. She works hard to have a clean house, great preschoolers, and a happy home. She shares bits of advice and much of her life over at her personal blog What’s up Fagan’s?

How do you do it? Parenting Link Up #16

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Welcome to the How Do You Do It? parenting link up party where you have an opportunity to share your posts with other parent bloggers and the followers of How Do You Do It? and What’s up Fagans?.

How do you do it? is a community of mothers of multiples that believes in supporting each other, in sharing our experiences and questions, in friendship, and in encouragement. The link up is open to all of our readers, whether you have multiples or not, where you can share your wisdom, your favorite posts, your insights, with our online community here at HDYDI and What’s up Fagans?.

Each week, we pick some of our favorite posts and feature them the following week on our site! Plus, we pin them on Pinterest, tweet them on Twitter, and share them on Google+ and Facebook! Get some more exposure for your great content, and don’t forget to check out the featured posts from last week’s link up!

Plus, ldskatelyn of What’s up Fagans? is co-hosting our link party on her blog as well. One party on two blogs means double the exposure and community.

Each HDYDI parenting link up party accepts new links from Monday morning through Friday at noon.

So tell us: how do you handle pregnancy, prematurity, birth, and postpartum recovery? How do you handle tantrums, diapering bills, stress, and potty training? How do you handle education and special needs? How do you balance the needs of several children with a marriage? How do you manage being a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or a single parent? And how do you find time for yourself?

How do you do it?!


This week’s featured posts:

We had so many great links last week, and several new partiers! We had 27 links and 178 clicks on those links! It made it really hard to pick just three to feature! I went through all of the links, so thank you all for sharing.

Developing PatienceI loved this post on deliberate motherhood, and developing patience from Valerie of Occasionally Crafty. Patience, especially in the “witching hours” before bedtime can be so hard for many of us. Check out her post to find some great suggestions on how to conquer impatience and become a better mom.

sillysuppersIf you want a unique way to add a little fun to your suppers, then make sure to check out Camille of Chicken Scratch N Sniff’s post on Silly Suppers. Pick one day a week to draw from the jar, and then you have to act/talk/eat like the paper says! How to avoid the epic meltdownKaty of Chaos and Kiddos shares how she works to avoid the Epic Meltdown! With twins, this is especially important! How did you learn to avoid or manage your child’s tantrums?

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Parenting Link Up Party

Rules for the How Do You Do It? Parenting Link Up Party:

  1. Follow and connect with HDYDI on the social media platforms that you use. Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin
  2. Follow and connect with What’s up Fagans? on the social media platforms you use: Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin’
  3. Link up to 3 great parenting posts below! Please, no recipes posts! Of course, link directly to a post, not your main page. Also, under “name” put the title of your post.
  4. Check out at least 3 other links! This is a party, so mingle!
  5. Leave an awesome comment for those you visit and tell them you found them at the HDYDI link party! And pin them/share the posts that you really like.
  6. Tweet: Add YOUR #parenting #advice to @hdydi's #linkup! Tell everyone #howdoyoudoit! http://ctt.ec/LRfWz+ #motherhood #momwisdomTweet about the link party, pin our link party badge, share it on Facebook, or otherwise promote this party! The more the party grows, the more exposure your posts will receive, the more fun you’ll have, and the more encouragement and ideas we’ll all receive!
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How do you do it? Parenting Link Up #15

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Welcome to the How Do You Do It? parenting link up party where you have an opportunity to share your posts with other parent bloggers and the followers of How Do You Do It? and What’s up Fagans?.

How do you do it? is a community of mothers of multiples that believes in supporting each other, in sharing our experiences and questions, in friendship, and in encouragement. The link up is open to all of our readers, whether you have multiples or not, where you can share your wisdom, your favorite posts, your insights, with our online community here at HDYDI and What’s up Fagans?.

Each week, we pick some of our favorite posts and feature them the following week on our site! Plus, we pin them on Pinterest, tweet them on Twitter, and share them on Google+ and Facebook! Get some more exposure for your great content, and don’t forget to check out the featured posts from last week’s link up!

Plus, ldskatelyn of What’s up Fagans? is co-hosting our link party on her blog as well. One party on two blogs means double the exposure and community.

Each HDYDI parenting link up party accepts new links from Monday morning through Friday at noon.

So tell us: how do you handle pregnancy, prematurity, birth, and postpartum recovery? How do you handle tantrums, diapering bills, stress, and potty training? How do you handle education and special needs? How do you balance the needs of several children with a marriage? How do you manage being a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or a single parent? And how do you find time for yourself?

How do you do it?!


This week’s featured posts:

How to get baby to sleep through the nightWe’ve all been there – sleep deprived with newborns – so this great post from Jennifer of Mommy Life After Ph.D. (who is apparently the expert at getting all of her four kids to sleep through the night by 12 weeks old)! Here’s her 7 Tips for Getting Your Baby to Sleep Through the Night.

chloes-7th-birthday-2012-156Parties, for kids, based on books: that’s what Katey of Katey Writes loves! She shared a post about a birthday party she threw for her 7-year old daughter based on the Magic Fairy books by Daisy Meadows, and makes suggestions for parties-based-on-books based on age category.

how-to-make-your-oldest-feel-important-1024x956Some say that age order plays a big role in how to we parent and how kids act. Home Grown Mommy shared four ways on How to Make Your Oldest Feel Important but Not Overwhelmed. It’s a great reminder to all of us raising multiple kids!

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Parenting Link Up Party

Rules for the How Do You Do It? Parenting Link Up Party:

  1. Follow and connect with HDYDI on the social media platforms that you use. Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin
  2. Follow and connect with What’s up Fagans? on the social media platforms you use: Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin’
  3. Link up to 3 great parenting posts below! Please, no recipes posts! Of course, link directly to a post, not your main page. Also, under “name” put the title of your post.
  4. Check out at least 3 other links! This is a party, so mingle!
  5. Leave an awesome comment for those you visit and tell them you found them at the HDYDI link party! And pin them/share the posts that you really like.
  6. Tweet: Add YOUR #parenting #advice to @hdydi's #linkup! Tell everyone #howdoyoudoit! http://ctt.ec/LRfWz+ #motherhood #momwisdomTweet about the link party, pin our link party badge, share it on Facebook, or otherwise promote this party! The more the party grows, the more exposure your posts will receive, the more fun you’ll have, and the more encouragement and ideas we’ll all receive!
  7. HDYDI Parenting Link Up PartyPut How Do You Do It?‘s Parenting Link Up badge on your site! Put it in your side bar, at the bottom of the post you shared, or on a party page!


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How do you do it? Parenting Link up #14

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Welcome! How Do You Do It? is a community of mothers of multiples. We believe in supporting each other, in sharing our experiences and questions, in friendship, and in encouragement. To help nourish our community, we host a weekly parenting link party, a link up open to all of our readers, whether you have multiples or not, where you can share your wisdom, your favorite posts, your insights, with our online community here at HDYDI and What’s up Fagans?.

We want to know: How do YOU do it?

How do you tackle tantrums, resistance, and discipline? What’s your potty training secret, your housekeeping kryptonite, or your trick for a good night’s sleep? How do you handle colic or cold, flu and RSV season? How do you keep your kids entertained during the long, cold, winter days? How do you handle being a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or a single parent? How do you find time for your partner?

HOW DO YOU DO IT?

If you are a blogger and a parent, caregiver, or parent-to-be (no multiples required), we want YOU to link up! When it comes to parenting: How do you do it? Let us all know!

Link parties are a great way to connect with other bloggers, to share your wonderful content and posts, and to be inspired! Each week, we pick some of our favorite posts and feature them the following week on our site! Plus, we pin them on Pinterest, tweet them on Twitter, and share them on Google+ and Facebook! Get some more exposure for your great content, and don’t forget to check out the featured posts from last week’s link up!

Plus, ldskatelyn of What’s up Fagans? is co-hosting our link party on her blog as well. One party on two blogs means double the exposure.


This week’s featured posts:

We had 18 links last week. I enjoy reading them all (even if I don’t get a chance to comment always). My picks from last week’s links are:

My Guilty Little Secret - I HATED BreastfeedingClare of Are They Twins? has written a great post about why she hated breastfeeding and shares 5 things she wished she would have learned about breastfeeding while she was pregnant. She even linked to my post from last week about 11 Common Breastfeeding Myths and Lies. I would give both a read!

How to feel so much better about your parenting skills as a mother.I don’t know what it is, but too often as mothers we label ourselves as “the worst mother ever.” Jennifer of Home Grown Mommy shares four simple steps to helping you acknowledge that you are indeed doing a great job Mom! Such a great reminder to have positive thoughts about ourselves!

Mommy Daughter Mall Date for Less - Laughingandlosingit.netAnd my final feature is from Christina of Laughing and Losing It. She shares how she’s creating a fun memory shopping with her daughters, but without breaking the bank!

If you were featured above make sure to grab our featured button and sport it on your blog! How Do You Do It? Featured Post


Parenting Link Up Party

Rules for the How Do You Do It? Parenting Link Up Party:

  1. Follow and connect with HDYDI on the social media platforms that you use. Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin
  2. Follow and connect with What’s up Fagans? on the social media platforms you use: Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin’
  3. Link up to 3 great parenting posts below! Please, no recipes posts! Of course, link directly to a post, not your main page. Also, under “name” put the title of your post.
  4. Check out at least 3 other links! This is a party, so mingle!
  5. Leave an awesome comment for those you visit and tell them you found them at the HDYDI link party! And pin them/share the posts that you really like.
  6. Tweet: Add YOUR #parenting #advice to @hdydi's #linkup! Tell everyone #howdoyoudoit! http://ctt.ec/LRfWz+ #motherhood #momwisdomTweet about the link party, pin our link party badge, share it on Facebook, or otherwise promote this party! The more the party grows, the more exposure your posts will receive, the more fun you’ll have, and the more encouragement and ideas we’ll all receive!
  7. HDYDI Parenting Link Up PartyPut How Do You Do It?‘s Parenting Link Up badge on your site! Put it in your side bar, at the bottom of the post you shared, or on a party page!


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How do you do it? Parenting Link Up #13

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Welcome! How Do You Do It? is a community of mothers of multiples. We believe in supporting each other, in sharing our experiences and questions, in friendship, and in encouragement. To help nourish our community, we host a weekly parenting link party, a link up open to all of our readers, whether you have multiples or not, where you can share your wisdom, your favorite posts, your insights, with our online community here at HDYDI and What’s up Fagans?.

We want to know: How do YOU do it?

How do you tackle tantrums, resistance, and discipline? What’s your potty training secret, your housekeeping kryptonite, or your trick for a good night’s sleep? How do you handle colic or cold, flu and RSV season? How do you keep your kids entertained during the long, cold, winter days? How do you handle being a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or a single parent? How do you find time for your partner?

HOW DO YOU DO IT?

If you are a blogger and a parent, caregiver, or parent-to-be (no multiples required), we want YOU to link up! When it comes to parenting: How do you do it? Let us all know!

Link parties are a great way to connect with other bloggers, to share your wonderful content and posts, and to be inspired! Each week, we pick some of our favorite posts and feature them the following week on our site! Plus, we pin them on Pinterest, tweet them on Twitter, and share them on Google+ and Facebook! Get some more exposure for your great content, and don’t forget to check out the featured posts from last week’s link up!

Plus, ldskatelyn of What’s up Fagans? is co-hosting our link party on her blog as well. One party on two blogs means double the exposure.


This week’s featured posts:

We had 24 links this last week, and several from new linkers! Welcome! It is always hard for me to pick posts to share each week, but I try my best to pick great posts that all will benefit from and enjoy.

5 TIps for SAHM for moms returning to workIf you are a SAHM looking to return to the workforce, it can seem overwhelming to go to a job interview, and not know how to answer certain questions. That’s why I chose Herchel of ScruggBug Corner‘s post “So you’re going back to work? 5 Interview tips of SAHM” for one of this week’s features! Kids who play with books love readingHow do you get kids to love reading? Bring reading to life! I loved Kathryn of Katey Writes shared a post full of ideas on how to do more than just read to your child. The ideas are great and I definitely need to start adopting more of them with my twin girls!

EssentialTwinBabyGearPinIt1This post from Clare of Are They Twins? would have been a perfect addition to our “How to Afford Twins” theme week last year! Clare show how to save money on essential twin baby gear by making your own. No matter how many kids you have, you can certainly save a bundle with her various awesome tutorials and tips!

If you were featured above make sure to grab our featured button and sport it on your blog! How Do You Do It? Featured Post


Parenting Link Up Party

Rules for the How Do You Do It? Parenting Link Up Party:

  1. Follow and connect with HDYDI on the social media platforms that you use. Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin
  2. Follow and connect with What’s up Fagans? on the social media platforms you use: Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin’
  3. Link up to 3 great parenting posts below! Please, no recipes posts! Of course, link directly to a post, not your main page. Also, under “name” put the title of your post.
  4. Check out at least 3 other links! This is a party, so mingle!
  5. Leave an awesome comment for those you visit and tell them you found them at the HDYDI link party! And pin them/share the posts that you really like.
  6. Tweet: Add YOUR #parenting #advice to @hdydi's #linkup! Tell everyone #howdoyoudoit! http://ctt.ec/LRfWz+ #motherhood #momwisdomTweet about the link party, pin our link party badge, share it on Facebook, or otherwise promote this party! The more the party grows, the more exposure your posts will receive, the more fun you’ll have, and the more encouragement and ideas we’ll all receive!
  7. HDYDI Parenting Link Up PartyPut How Do You Do It?‘s Parenting Link Up badge on your site! Put it in your side bar, at the bottom of the post you shared, or on a party page!


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How do you do it? Parenting Link Up #12

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Welcome! How Do You Do It? is a community of mothers of multiples. We believe in supporting each other, in sharing our experiences and questions, in friendship, and in encouragement. To help nourish our community, we host a weekly parenting link party, a link up open to all of our readers, whether you have multiples or not, where you can share your wisdom, your favorite posts, your insights, with our online community here at HDYDI and What’s up Fagans?.

We want to know: How do YOU do it?

How do you tackle tantrums, resistance, and discipline? What’s your potty training secret, your housekeeping kryptonite, or your trick for a good night’s sleep? How do you handle colic or cold, flu and RSV season? How do you keep your kids entertained during the long, cold, winter days? How do you handle being a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or a single parent? How do you find time for your partner?

HOW DO YOU DO IT?

If you are a blogger and a parent, caregiver, or parent-to-be (no multiples required), we want YOU to link up! When it comes to parenting: How do you do it? Let us all know!

Link parties are a great way to connect with other bloggers, to share your wonderful content and posts, and to be inspired! Each week, we pick some of our favorite posts and feature them the following week on our site! Plus, we pin them on Pinterest, tweet them on Twitter, and share them on Google+ and Facebook! Get some more exposure for your great content, and don’t forget to check out the featured posts from last week’s link up!

Plus, ldskatelyn of What’s up Fagans? is co-hosting our link party on her blog as well.  One party on two blogs means double the exposure.


This week’s featured posts:

We had 23 great links last week! As usual, hard to pick just three.

How to help your child be a winnerCorinne of WonderMom Wannabe is always full of some great parenting advice. Her post this week on how to help your child be a winner is full of some awesome tips for helping your child feel individual success in many different ways.

My daycare secretHerchel of Scruggbug Corner has a secret. Though she’s a SAHM she has her kids enrolled in daycare! Read her post to find out why!

Home Organization - Using Dead SpaceKaty of Chaos & Kiddos is apparently the organization queen! She shares how she has used the dead space of her home to create functional space. Check out where and how she did it.

If you were featured above make sure to grab our featured button and sport it on your blog! How Do You Do It? Featured Post


Parenting Link Up Party

Rules for the How Do You Do It? Parenting Link Up Party:

  1. Follow and connect with HDYDI on the social media platforms that you use. Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin
  2. Follow and connect with What’s up Fagans? on the social media platforms you use: Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin’
  3. Link up to 3 great parenting posts below! Please, no recipes posts! Of course, link directly to a post, not your main page. Also, under “name” put the title of your post.
  4. Check out at least 3 other links! This is a party, so mingle!
  5. Leave an awesome comment for those you visit and tell them you found them at the HDYDI link party! And pin them/share the posts that you really like.
  6. Tweet: Add YOUR #parenting #advice to @hdydi's #linkup! Tell everyone #howdoyoudoit! http://ctt.ec/LRfWz+ #motherhood #momwisdomTweet about the link party, pin our link party badge, share it on Facebook, or otherwise promote this party! The more the party grows, the more exposure your posts will receive, the more fun you’ll have, and the more encouragement and ideas we’ll all receive!
  7. HDYDI Parenting Link Up PartyPut How Do You Do It?‘s Parenting Link Up badge on your site! Put it in your side bar, at the bottom of the post you shared, or on a party page!


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Twin Manibreasto: A Success Story of Milk and Multiples – A Book Review

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I was given a copy of Twin Manibreasto by the author, Mercedes Donis, for purposes of this book review, but opinions are all mine!

I have twin daughters, and they were my first babies. Being a first time mom of twins, I had to learn a lot of things diving in head first. One of these things was breastfeeding. And having to learn not only how to breastfeed one child, but two, simultaneously, was not a natural process. That’s why I am so grateful HDYDI’s very own Mercedes of Project Procrastinot wrote Twin Manibreasto – A Success Story of Milk and Multiples.Twin Manibreasto - A Success Story of Milk and Multiples

Twin Manibreasto is the book that needed to be written. It’s a short little ebook, but it’s full of practical, straight-forward talk, from a twin mom who knows about the unique breastfeeding struggles twin mothers face (unlike many breastfeeding books). Her twins are 15 months now and still breastfeeding! Twin Manibreasto - You can't get too prepared!

In Twin Manibreasto you will find helps on supplies, positions, pumping, nursing garments, dietary helps, and more. Plus, at the end of the book there is a great list of further resources and articles to read up on, including some recipes. The big thing Mercedes Donis wants you to take away from her book, is that you can do it! If you really want to breastfeed your twins, this book will help!

If you are expecting twins, I suggest picking up a copy of Twin Manibreasto!

If you had twins, did you breastfeed them? What obstacles did you face? Did you find there to be a lack of support, of resources?

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Be the Mom: Overcome Attitude Traps and Enjoy Your Kids – A Book Review

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*This was originally published on What’s up Fagans? on November 5, 2012 and contains personal affiliate links. Read my full book review HERE*

A mother of twins plus one reviews Be the Mom on hdydi.com

I absolutely loved the parenting book Be the Mom: Overcome Attitude Traps and Enjoy Your Kids by Tracey Lanter Eyster, creator of momlifetoday.com. The book discusses several “Mom traps” that many (I’d be willing to venture all) mothers fall into at one point or another in their mothering careers to varying degrees. As you read about the seven traps identified in her book, see which one you are currently in, or which one you have been in.

Be the Mom - Amazon Affiliate LinkMom Trap #1 – Just-a-Mom Trap

This is a trap I have definitely fallen prey to at various points and to varying degrees during my career as a stay-at-home mom.  Like any career you do day in and day out, you get worn out and you wonder “is this really what I am spending all my time doing?  Is this really it?”  And then of course there are so many people who don’t understand what stay-at-home mom’s do all day or think they are lazy or something, perpetuating this trap even more.  The author explained this trap by saying:

 I was beginning to feel that motherhood was unimportant, and in filling that role, I was becoming an overlooked nobody.  What’s with that voice in our heads that constantly tells us we don’t matter… especially when we’re being the mom?  We devalue ourselves in our minds. […]

The importance of gaining a true understanding of why you are more than just a mom is pivotal, because if you don’t you’ll become overwhelmed and burdened by negative self-talk, and end up sitting on a stairway crying and feeling like a total failure.  When your thoughts are thumping loudly with, I’m just a mom, and I can’t even do that well, the trap has a vice-like grip on you that can lead to utter despair.

I remember thinking those exact same thoughts one day and indeed bawling my eyes out in my stairwell!  She spoke right to me with those words! She then goes on to describe how we can overcome such self-doubt and negative attitudes about our extremely important job as a mother with a seven-step plan among other things, like pursuing something that brings you joy as an individual. 

Mom Trap #2 – Me Mom Trap

This trap is multi-faceted, but finds its core in the fact that we as human beings are selfish and prideful.  This trap encompasses demanding high expectations of those around us and getting frustrated when they are not met on time or to your specifications, as well as the “I’ll just do it myself so it’s done right” mentality.  Eyster again provides seven easy steps to get ourselves out of the first part of this Me-Mom trap, as well as encouragement to teach our children instead of doing everything for them.  This second part definitely reminded me of a different book I read – Cleaning House – all about entitlement among the rising generation.  I prefer to have my kids learn and try and try again then have a perfect linen closet and lazy kids who don’t know how to do anything for themselves.

Mom Trap #3 – Martyr Mom Trap 

This trap is all about neglecting ourselves and our lives in the name of motherhood.  When Eyster found herself in this trap she often thought “‘Woe is me.  I’m sacrificing my own well-being and happiness for the good of my family.  Someone pat me on the back, shake your head in admiration, and build a statue in my honor.’”  She also described it as not being the wife, mom or the child of God she was supposed to be, something I have indeed felt too.

This trap goes along well with the selfish “me” attitude of the previous Mom trap, but in reverse.  We make ourselves miserable (perhaps instead of uptight and angry) and those around us.  This trap occurs when you shut down as a mom and give up, becoming a void, sideline mom, who just doesn’t care because her life is “just so hard” and no one appreciates her.  Again Eyster provides seven easy steps to help you change your attitude and perspective to get out of this misery cycle. She also shares this truth: “Did you know that you cannot wait to feel like making changes?  You have to just do it, force yourself to make the changes, and then you’ll feel like it.”  What a great quote that I know has been true in my life.

Mom Trap #4 – Busy Mom Trap

This is one trap I haven’t really had to deal with very much at all.  I think it is much more common for those with older children. The crutch of this trap is that we believe that if we are busy enough, if our children are involved enough, then we’ll be a good mom and our kids will be well-rounded and cultured.  This is true even when we are always doing “good things” like volunteering at schools, churches, or other local events or charities.

She also encourages us to be a “be-er” over a “doer.”  She shared a saying, “If the Devil can’t make you bad, he’ll make you busy.” A saying I don’t think I’ve heard before.  I’ve actually heard the “Idle hands are the devil’s playground” much more often. But, I believe it’s a true statement.  At a General Conference of my Church we were instructed not to “wear our busyness as a badge of honor.”

Mom Trap #5 – Mirror Mom Trap

I think you can guess what this trap is all about – judging, comparing, and measuring ourselves to other moms, women, wives, lifestyles, and oh so much more, coveting what we don’t currently have, becoming jealous and envious.  This is the great trap of the devil to get us distracted from what we do already have (aka counting our blessings and being grateful) as well as doubting our self-worth as we start to base our lives on the standards of the world instead of what God thinks about us. Comparison is the thief of joy!

She encourages all us women to stop this comparison game and instead support one another and say positive things about yourself and each other.  She insists that we remember what God really thinks about us and to not belittle others when they admit their imperfections or different lifestyle or choices.  She also recommends getting a mentor.  This is a new concept for me for sure and I’m not sure of the true benefits of it.  This mentor is supposed to be an older, wiser mother, perhaps even your own mother or sister or aunt, but maybe even a more experienced friend.

Mom Trap #6 – Tomorrow Mom Trap

This trap is all about not seizing the time and moments given to us daily to “speak” into our child’s life, to raise them up how they should go, because we believe we still have so much time (or fall under one of the previous five traps).  Eyster encourages us Moms to live life intentionally and to develop positive open relationships with our children.  She reminds us that “any child in your life is longing to matter, and taking the time to be intentional with your children inspires self-confidence in their young spirits.”

Mom Trap #7 – They Say Mom Trap

This trap is all about what “they say.”  You know, them.  At this point in history there is so much more information out there about every subject known to man readily accessible for us to consume, and much of it is conflicting and confusing or makes us doubt if what we feel like is best for our family really is.  Maybe there’s something we should be doing differently because “they” said we should (which can lead to us falling in the Mirror Mom Trap).  However, this mentality often leads away from what are eternal truths, away from what God would have us do, away from what our natural instincts tell us, because we want to trust “the experts.”

However, in this chapter she also asks:

Has anyone besides me joined the “they say” voices by doing a lot of complaining about the hard work involved in being a mom? Seeing motherhood as being trapped in the house with the kids? Maybe you’re attempting to keep up with the Joneses, maybe you want to have more excitement or just do something different, anything just to get out of the house.  Here’s the thing to remember, Mom: It’s not just a house; it’s your home.

From here Eyster goes on to discuss the importance of being a mom and having MOMents with your children, moments that are memories-of-love, that bring you fulfillment and joy from being their mom (the moments we all live for!).  She also reminds us that having all the things “they” recommend and promise us will bring us happiness, most likely won’t.  We, as moms, know what will truly make our kids happy – love!  Chase after the things of God, of holiness, on things that have long-lasting value, and you and your children will be happy.  Material things will not.  She also tells us that the secret to living a godly life is being selfless, countering the worldly idea that “You were put on this earth to be happy and fulfilled; do what’s best for you.

Conclusion

I really enjoyed this book on so many levels. It is very uplifting and empowering, because, sometimes the hardest thing is realizing you have a problem!  I loved how practical, moral, real, and easy to read it was.

I hope you read “Be the Mom”!  It’s one of my very favorite parenting books!

Which of the Seven “Mom Traps” have you found yourself in at one time or another?

ldskatelyn is a stay-at-home mom of nearly four-year old fraternal g/g twins, and a nearly one year old boy. She loves reading books and especially parenting books, even if some end up being duds. Katelyn loves her simple life and strives to better herself as a person, as a wife, and as a mother constantly. She writes about it all on her personal blog What’s up Fagans?.

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Collection of Parenting Book Reviews from a Parenting Book Lover

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I was so excited when Sadia thought we should do a week of parenting book reviews here on HDYDI. I love reading books, and especially good parenting books. I will be reading all the reviews my fellow authors will be sharing in the hopes of finding my next parenting book to pick up!

What's Up FagansOn my blog I have written several parenting book reviews, and I’d though I’d share a little blurb about each one (with a link to the full review on What’s up Fagans?) instead of reposting each one separately. Also, my personal affiliate links are used in this post.

Pregnancy and Birth Books

In one post I reviewed the six different pregnancy and birth books listed above, giving them all letter grades (for your convenience). I was researching and reading about natural childbirth at the time as I was preparing for the birth of my singleton. I desperately wanted to have a VBAC, and since I hadn’t actually experienced labor with my twins, I wanted to learn what to expect and how to handle it.

Beating Bed Rest

Our very own Angela gave me a copy of her Beating Bed Rest book which, had I ever been on bed rest, would have been a godsend! I am grateful for her honest perspective on something, that frankly, isn’t talked about at nearly the depth it should be in pregnancy books!

Christian/Religious Parenting Books

The Christian Parenting Handbook

I reviewed this book on my blog as part of the book’s launch week, and also shared about it on HDYDI that week as well. But, I do think it is one of my favorite parenting books. Despite being Christian-based, the principles apply to all sound-minded parents, no matter what religion. And the book isn’t judgmental, but very encouraging, helping you do more than just behavior modification. It’s helping you do heart modification. And that is what great parenting should really be about!

Together: Growing Appetites for God

I haven’t written a review of this book, though I’ve always meant to. This book is about how one mother decides that she is going to get her kids into the word of God by reading aloud, straight from the Bible (and not a Children’s version), cover to cover. She sets realistic expectations for it, leaving room for sick days, weekends, and vacations, and plots a course of finishing the Bible in… seven years. Yes, she calculated that it would take that long. Thankfully, it took only three (I think?). I loved her honest recounts of how it went, and how her family grew through the experience. I have tried numerous times to do this with my family, but usually only last a week or two, so I find this book inspiring!

Standing for Something

While not quite a “parenting book,” this book is all about 10 neglected virtues in our society and how we can reestablish them in our society and in our homes. I read this book when my kids were not even a year, but it’s a great book that gives us hope of great things yet to come, even in a world that too often seem amoral.

Other Parenting Books

Into the Minds of Babes: How Screen Time Affects Children from Birth to Age 5

This is a great book that I think all parents should read! Some parents drive themselves batty over the American Academy of Pediatrics recommendation that children under two have NO screen time, at all. This book, written by a mom, is well researched, but easy to read and understand. It helps dispel some myths and shared light on bigger issues than focused TV watching.

Cleaning House: A Mom’s 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her House of Entitlement

This is a great parenting book, especially if you have fallen into the rut of believing that it is just easier to do everything yourself, instead of waiting for your child to do whatever chore. Each month this mom conquered a new entitlement and kept building from it. She repeated over and over again how she wished she would’ve started it much sooner, when her kids were younger, as the oldest one was the most resistant to some of her changes. In my review, I reflect on how I was raised (which things I was “entitled to” and which things I definitely wasn’t) and what I love about this book!

Every Natural Fact: Five Seasons of Open-Air Parenting

This book is definitely different from most parenting books. The author takes a very reflective role instead of an authoritarian role, sharing and reminiscing about her son growing up. They often go walking in nature, learning about various life, but also strengthening their relationship. It’s a beautiful little read.

1-2-3 Magic:Effective Discipline for Young Kids

This book will be given a proper book review for HDYDI later today, but I wanted to share my review on this parenting book. Since reading this and many other books, I am on the fence sometimes about time-outs. I use them, but I really use them sparingly now (my twins are almost four). But, the thing I still think about from this book is the “Little Adult Syndrome!” I cannot tell you how many times I need to remind myself that they are kids, they cannot reason like me. Helps me keep things in perspective and not get so upset with my kids.

Have you read any of these books?

ldskatelyn is a stay at home mom of almost 4yo fraternal g/g twins and an almost 1yo baby boy. She loves reading books, especially parenting books! She writes all about her family and her simple life in Indianapolis over at What’s up Fagans?

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How do you do it? Parenting Link Up #11

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Welcome! How Do You Do It? is a community of mothers of multiples. We believe in supporting each other, in sharing our experiences and questions, in friendship, and in encouragement. To help nourish our community, we host a weekly parenting link party, a link up open to all of our readers, whether you have multiples or not, where you can share your wisdom, your favorite posts, your insights, with our online community here at HDYDI.

We want to know: How do YOU do it?

How do you tackle tantrums, resistance, and discipline? What’s your potty training secret, your housekeeping kryptonite, or your trick for a good night’s sleep? How do you handle colic or cold, flu and RSV season? How do you keep your kids entertained during the long, cold, winter days? How do you handle being a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or a single parent? How do you find time for your partner?

HOW DO YOU DO IT?

If you are a blogger and a parent, caregiver, or parent-to-be (no multiples required), we want YOU to link up! When it comes to parenting: How do you do it? Let us all know!

Link parties are a great way to connect with other bloggers, to share your wonderful content and posts, and to be inspired! Each week, we pick some of our favorite posts and feature them the following week on our site! Plus, we pin them on Pinterest, tweet them on Twitter, and share them on Google+ and Facebook! Get some more exposure for your great content, and don’t forget to check out the featured posts from last week’s link up!

Also, starting this week, ldskatelyn of What’s up Fagans? is going to co-host the link party on her blog as well. She’s been managing the link party here, and we’ve decided to spread the party over two blogs so that even more great parenting advice can be shared with both of our readers.


This week’s featured posts:

We had some great posts this last week! Here are three of our favorites, but know that I read each of them and enjoyed everyone’s posts. Don’t forget to click around and explore some great new blogs!

Our newest contributor Mari of The Triple(t) Threat shares what a day in the life of baby triplets really looks like… and it’s exhausting.

Mercedes of Project Procrastinot shares Secret to Getting More Done, although advises that we use it sparingly.

Red-Bell-Pepper-Valentine-TreatValentine’s Day is next week and Laughing and Losing It is boycotting sugar and presents a fun way of celebrating the Holiday with a heart-healthy treat. Sleeping Twins after nursingChristina of My Twin Ladybugs shares her trials and triumphs of breastfeeding her twins for 11 months. She had a rough go of it, but presents some encouraging advice, telling others they can do it! *Also, Mercedes has written a book about how to breastfeed twins! Make sure to check out both posts if you need some encouragement and inspiration.

If you were featured above make sure to grab our featured button and sport it on your blog! How Do You Do It? Featured Post


Parenting Link Up Party

Rules for the How Do You Do It? Parenting Link Up Party:

  1. Follow and connect with HDYDI on the social media platforms that you use. Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin
  2. Follow and connect with What’s up Fagans? on the social media platforms you use: Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin’
  3. Link up to 3 great parenting posts below! Please, no recipes posts! Of course, link directly to a post, not your main page. Also, under “name” put the title of your post.
  4. Check out at least 3 other links! This is a party, so mingle!
  5. Leave an awesome comment for those you visit and tell them you found them at the HDYDI link party! And pin them/share the posts that you really like.
  6. Tweet: Add YOUR #parenting #advice to @hdydi's #linkup! Tell everyone #howdoyoudoit! http://ctt.ec/LRfWz+ #motherhood #momwisdomTweet about the link party, pin our link party badge, share it on Facebook, or otherwise promote this party! The more the party grows, the more exposure your posts will receive, the more fun you’ll have, and the more encouragement and ideas we’ll all receive!
  7. HDYDI Parenting Link Up PartyPut How Do You Do It?‘s Parenting Link Up badge on your site! Put it in your side bar, at the bottom of the post you shared, or on a party page!


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How do you do it Parenting Link Up #10

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Welcome! How Do You Do It? is a community of mothers of multiples. We believe in supporting each other, in sharing our experiences and questions, in friendship, and in encouragement. To help nourish our community, we host a weekly parenting link party, a link up open to all of our readers, whether you have multiples or not, where you can share your wisdom, your favorite posts, your insights, with our online community here at HDYDI.

We want to know: How do YOU do it?

How do you tackle tantrums, resistance, and discipline? What’s your potty training secret, your housekeeping kryptonite, or your trick for a good night’s sleep? How do you handle colic or cold, flu and RSV season? How do you keep your kids entertained during the long, cold, winter days? How do you handle being a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or a single parent? How do you find time for your partner?

HOW DO YOU DO IT?

If you are a blogger and a parent, caregiver, or parent-to-be (no multiples required), we want YOU to link up! When it comes to parenting: How do you do it? Let us all know!

Link parties are a great way to connect with other bloggers, to share your wonderful content and posts, and to be inspired! Each week, we pick some of our favorite posts and feature them the following week on our site! Plus, we pin them on Pinterest, tweet them on Twitter, and share them on Google+ and Facebook! Get some more exposure for your great content, and don’t forget to check out the featured posts from last week’s link up!


This week’s featured posts:

We had some great posts this last week! Here are three of our favorites, but I read each of them and enjoyed everyone’s posts. Don’t forget to click around and explore some great new blogs!

hard (1)Gabby of MamaGab explores the all too real answer to the question “Is Motherhood Hard?” in her post this last week. Regular Chores for Three Year Olds; they can do more than you think! whatsupfagans.comKatelyn of What’s up Fagans? believes in making her three year old twins work around the house doing chores. She shares a list of what she thinks 3-year olds should be able to do, and without any rewards or allowance.Family Mailboxes - Brighten Each Other's Day! - wondermomwanabe.comCorinne of WonderMom Wannabe shares how family mailboxes are a fun and easy way to brighten her family member’s day. Plus, it proves to be a great communication tool for their family. I think this would be a great family project to get ready for Valentine’s Day!

If you were featured above make sure to grab our featured button and sport it on your blog! How Do You Do It? Featured Post


Parenting Link Up Party

Rules for the How Do You Do It? Parenting Link Up Party:

  1. Follow and connect with HDYDI on the social media platforms that you use. Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | Google+ | Blog Lovin
  2. Link up to 3 great parenting posts below! Please, no recipes posts! Of course, link directly to a post, not your main page. Also, under “name” put the title of your post.
  3. Check out at least 3 other links! This is a party, so mingle!
  4. Leave an awesome comment for those you visit and tell them you found them at the HDYDI link party! And pin them/share the posts that you really like.
  5. Tweet: Add YOUR #parenting #advice to @hdydi's #linkup! Tell everyone #howdoyoudoit! http://ctt.ec/LRfWz+ #motherhood #momwisdomTweet about the link party, pin our link party badge, share it on Facebook, or otherwise promote this party! The more the party grows, the more exposure your posts will receive, the more fun you’ll have, and the more encouragement and ideas we’ll all receive!
  6. HDYDI Parenting Link Up PartyPut How Do You Do It?‘s Parenting Link Up badge on your site! Put it in your side bar, at the bottom of the post you shared, or on a party page!


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