From the Archives: Infertility

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This week isn’t the first time we’ve touched on infertility on How Do You Do It? Check out these posts.

General Thoughts on Infertility

Personal Stories that Feature Infertility

  • 10 Week Newbie: felt increasingly marginalized as she was suck deeper and deeper into infertility treatments, but on finally achieving pregnancy with twins, the MoM community felt like home.
  • Recovering from Infertility: Even as the mother of 16-month-old twins,  feels the sting of infertility. This is her infertility tale. In Random Ramblings, she thinks about what it would take to grow her family further.
  • On the other hand, has put infertility behind her, she tells us in Am I a Fraud?
  • In Inseparable, Carissa tells the story of how her boy/girl twins joined her family through international adoption, following years of failed attempts to conceive.
  • Triplets: Angela’s Story:  conceived triplets after 3 years of infertility and two miscarriages, only to lose her son Carter as a newborn.
  • On the Clock: compares the cyclical natures of infertility, pregnancy and parenting infants.

Infertility TalesThis post is part of Infertility Tales 2014, How Do You Do It?‘s series to raise awareness about infertility and its impact on families. Please take a moment to read through some of the personal stories of loss, pain, fertility treatments, and success.

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From the Archives: Twin Birth Stories

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Prematurity Awareness Week 2013: How Do You Do It?

World Prematurity Day November 17In the United States, 1 in 9 babies is born prematurely, 1 in 10 in Canada. Worldwide, over 15 million babies are born too soon each year. While not all multiples are born prematurely, a multiple birth increases the probability of an early delivery. Babies born prematurely, before 37 weeks gestation, are at a higher risk for health complications in infancy, some of which can have long-term effects. Full-term infants are not all free from their own health complications, of course.

In honor of November’s Prematurity Awareness Month, led by the March of Dimes, How Do You Do It? is focusing this week’s posts on The Moms’ experiences with premature deliveries, NICU stays, health complications, special needs, and how we’ve dealt with these complex issues.


We’ll be sharing more twin birth stories throughout the week. Here are the ones that have been published on HDYDI in the past.

Have a multiple birth story to share? Please link to it in our blog hop or tell us about it in the comments. We especially want to hear about how things went for higher order multiples!

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From the Archives: Prematurity and the NICU

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Prematurity Awareness Week 2013: How Do You Do It?

World Prematurity Day November 17In the United States, 1 in 9 babies is born prematurely, 1 in 10 in Canada. Worldwide, over 15 million babies are born too soon each year. While not all multiples are born prematurely, a multiple birth increases the probability of an early delivery. Babies born prematurely, before 37 weeks gestation, are at a higher risk for health complications in infancy, some of which can have long-term effects. Full-term infants are not all free from their own health complications, of course.

In honor of November’s Prematurity Awareness Month, led by the March of Dimes, How Do You Do It? is focusing this week’s posts on The Moms’ experiences with premature deliveries, NICU stays, health complications, special needs, and how we’ve dealt with these complex issues.


Most, but not all, of the HDYDI Moms’ multiples were born prematurely. For many of us, prematurity is a big part of our motherhood journey. For others, it is a footnote. Premature birth and its aftermath is a topic we’ve returned to again and again, although never in as focused a manner as this week. Here’s what we’ve said:

In the NICU

  • Phthalate Exposure in NICU Babies knows that the tubing used for her babies during their NICU stay was necessary, but still wasn’t ecstatic to discover that they exposed her sons to phthalates, substances shown to cause to affect sexual development in mice.
  • Corn Syrup in My Babies’ Formula?  finds the time to read the ingredients on her babies’ high calorie formula well after they’ve moved on to grownup food. She wasn’t happy with what she found.
  • NICU Rules has seen NICUs around the world and finds that each one has its own set of rules regarding how often parents can visit and what they are allowed to do.

Loss

  • In the MoMs Club – Just Barely:  writes about the loss of her son Carter soon after his birth and how she’s caught between being the triplet and loss mom she is and the twin mom strangers perceive her to be.

Leaving the NICU

  • Reunited writes about the emotions she felt on hearing that Marissa‘s son A was going home from the NICU

Coming Home

  • Everybody Take a Baby: Only one of ‘s triplets needed to spend time in the NICU. Managing sleep with two babies at home was difficult, but doable, but added the third baby into the mix took some creativity.
  • Trying Times of Twinfancy found that it was helpful to maintain the 3-hour NICU routine on arriving home, but it couldn’t last forever.

Staying Connected

  • Giving Back and her boys return to the NICU, every year on their birthday, to give a little something back.
  • The First Year looks back on her 30-weekers’ birth and NICU experience from a year later.
  • A Preterm MoM Intro has three premature sons, a singleton and twins. She has jumped into the role of an advocate for preemie parents, informed by her own experience in and beyond the NICU.

Mommy Issues

  • Prematurity and the NICU hdydi,comPrematurity Is Never Easy:  tried to prepare for the reality of prematurity, but couldn’t despite her best efforts. She still carries a lot of guilt about going into premature labour.
  • My Little Twin: Lisa finds herself actively working on leaving the trauma of the NICU behind and not categorizing the sicker of her babies after birth as “the little twin.”
  • Twinfant Tuesday: Three Things That Helped in the First Year Blur‘s surviving triplets spent 4 months in the NICU and she lost sweet Carter in the hospital. Still, she and her family made it through the first year with help, positivity and organization.
  • The Most Challenging Age talks about how hard the first year out of the NICU was on her.

The Aftermath of Prematurity

No NICU

Parenthetically About Prematurity

You may also want to check out the Infant Feeding archives for posts related to breastfeeding in the NICU and breastfeeding preemies after they’re home including ‘s Breastfeeding Buddies: Twin Brothers Nurse while Living in the NICU.

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From the Archives: Multiples and Birth Order

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Parents of twins talk about the role of birth order in their children's dynamic and how others perceive them. From hdydi.com

ABonesieSome parents of multiples proudly discuss their children’s birth order, even engraving their A and B birth status into their names. Others go to great lengths to avoid telling anyone which child was born first. For some the decision is personal, for others it is a cultural norm, and for yet others, there’s no decision to be made because they never really thought about it.

These are some post where The Moms have pondered matters of birth order over the years:

  • The Mystery of Multiples and Birth Order:  talks about our cultural assumptions of the effect of birth order on family dynamics and wonders about varying perspectives from MoMs.
  • Differentiating Between Multiples:  found herself labeling her twin daughters as “big” and “little” and gained some empathy with those outsiders who feel the need to label our children in opposition to one another.
  • Which Came First has grown increasingly bothered by strangers insisting on knowing her twins’ birth order.
  • “Afu ge ge”, “Leila mei mei” doesn’t want to emphasize which of her twins is “older,” but it’s unavoidable in China.
  • Multiples and Age Hierarchy refusal to tell people which of my daughters was born first messes with my Bangladeshi family’s hierarchical view of the world.
  • And the Older One Is … girls surprise me when I can no longer avoid telling them who was born first.
  • Birthday(s) for Two tell one daughter what time she was born, necessitating a discussion with both my daughters. I remind the girls that they’re the same age from conception and that womb eviction doesn’t make J any older than M.
  • Who’s Older?  believes that birth order plays a role in personality development, but not for multiples. What happens when twins are born 87 days apart? Clearly, they’re still twins, but are they the same age?

Do your kids display traits related to birth order? Do you see birth order as applicable to multiples?

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From the Archives: Childcare Expenses

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Childcare for twinfants can easily cost more than your mortgage. We don’t have any straightforward solutions that will work for all families, but many of The Moms have talked about childcare expenses and the different available options, over the years. Check out these posts.

Tell us about the childcare solution that has worked for your family.

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From the Archives: Saving on Food for Families with Multiples

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Food expenses can really add up. The Moms have talked about their approaches to saving on nutritious meals over the years.

Baby Food

Making your own baby food is one option to bring down costs.

  • Making Baby Food:  breaks down exactly how she fed her babies their first solids, including calculating her savings over store-bought food.
  • Homemade Baby Food:  talks about how she made homemade baby food work at home and at daycare. (Yes, I just referred to myself in the third person. Because I can.)

What’s your approach to saving on food?

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From the Archives: Secondhand Shopping and Shopping Cheaply

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Young children go through a lot of clothes and gear. That could get expensive, so secondhand shopping and shopping the sales are attractive options. Here’s what The Moms have had to say on the matter over the years.

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From the Archives: How to Afford Twins, Triplets, and More

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Making parenting multiples a little less damaging to your bank balance is a very real challenge. It’s the rare parent-to-be who anticipates planning for more than one baby to show up until after that first ultrasound. The Moms have written on this subject on many occasions, so it’s time for another roundup of posts from the HDYDI archives. Here’s what we’ve said about how to afford twins, triplets, and more!

Cost Concerns

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These posts address general concerns regarding the expenses of raising multiples.

General Approaches to Saving

In these posts, The Moms talk about their approaches to cutting costs.

Curbing Specific Expenses

There are a whole bunch of other areas of your life in which you can find savings. For instance, I save on gas by telecommuting one day a week and filling up at the grocery store pump, where the prices are always lower than at the gas station. We’ve put together a few more targeted saving-related From the Archives posts, specifically on food, diapers, clothes and gear and childcare.

Here are some other specific saving ideas from The Moms.

What expenses would you like advice on cutting?

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From the Archives: Back to School

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It’s time for a new school year in the US. Some of The Moms’ kids are going to school for the first time, while others are old hands at this. Some of us have kids in public elementary schools, while others are structuring in-home pre-schools or homeschooling older kids. All week we will be sharing posts old and new on Back to School. And if you haven’t already, please join us over on our HDYDI Facebook Page to continue the discussion.

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Classroom Placement Thoughts

If you’re going to read one post on twins at school, please let it be Dr. Segal’s. She is a researcher and expert in twin matters, and her post is a thoughtful examination of the realities of multiples’ experiences at school.

Other School-Related Posts

Jen B

Jen B‘s boys have had a pretty rotten time at school, with their teacher seeming not to see the value in being able to tell them apart.

It wasn’t all bad, though.

Can I Make My Twins Wear Thing 1 and Thing 2 Shirts?

Sadia

Sadia‘s kids have had more than their share of excitement related to school placement.

She’s also captured other moments in J and M’s experience at school.

Are your kids headed back to school? How’s it going?

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