Law Lets Twins Stay Together

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…starting this fall in Pennsylvania, parents of multibirths can choose to place their children in the same classrooms if they are in the same grade level and school. The measure, dubbed the “twins law,” was slipped into the education section of the state budget, which passed July 4.

With the weight of recent scientific evidence that challenges long-held educational notions that twins can’t develop into individuals without separation — and a burgeoning grassroots movement of multibirth parents — a growing number of states are adopting policies to ensure twins can stay together in classrooms if they choose.

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Back to School: Why I Kept My Twins Together

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First day of kindergarten

My boy/girl twins have been in the same classroom every year through fourth grade.  I am lucky to live in a school district where parents can voice their preferences for placing twins in classrooms.   There are at least six sets of twins that I know of at our elementary school and I think only one other set is in the same class.  There are many parents who are surprised at our decision.  I’m surprised at how many do not stay together.

There are already resources on the internet to help you make the school decision, and I wont repeat what others have said better.  I refer you especially to an excellent article at  What I’d like to do in this post instead is give you a personal perspective on how it has worked for our family.

I really didn’t hesitate when I first made this decision.  My twins are now, and have always been, very close.  I asked my twins recently what they thought about staying together in school.   Their reply was enthusiastic.  They love to be together.  Among their reasons; they pick up homework when one is sick, they like doing projects together, they like to eat together, they like to work on homework together, and they like making friends with their twin’s friends.

I have a reason that is more selfish, and let me be straightforward about this:  keeping twins together in a classroom is a lot easier on the mom.  It doesn’t take long to discover that the school years are busy and parent participation is critical to success.  They will bring home books and projects and homework that you must work on with them, and it’s really a lot easier to tackle the same thing at the same time.  I always know what’s going on in the classroom, because I get all sides of the story.  If the curriculum were thrown at me at two different speeds or in two different ways because of two different teachers, I would have a much harder time keeping on top of things.  I think I would be comparing teachers unfairly.  I also think it would be a strain for me to go on multiple field trips.

Every year in the Spring, we talk together about whether they want to be in the same classroom the following year.  Then I talk to their teacher.  I have heard nothing but praise for how wonderfully my twins manage together in the classroom.  I ask lots of questions and I treat every school year as a fresh decision.

Part of me thinks that my twins are close because I kept them together.  By indicating to them that I valued their relationship, I think I helped to foster that relationship.  My twins tell me about their twin friends in separate classrooms who don’t get along at all.  I have no proof that there is cause and effect at work, but it is interesting to note how many twin sets are not getting along during their school years.

Last day of 4th grade, with their teacher

This last picture was taken in June, with their fourth grade teacher.  This Fall they are off to middle school, where they will be changing classes and will not necessarily be in the same classroom.  The one thing they’re looking forward to the most?  “Band!  Because we’ll get to be together!”

You can come visit my twins and their big sister at Lit and Laundry.

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Classroom Thoughts

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The end of the school year is approaching and naturally my thoughts turn to – school options for next year. (I’m nothing if not a planner.) Right now, the boys are in the same classroom for pre-school and will be again next year. Their birthday falls right at the end of July (the 25th) and I’ve decided to keep them out of kindergarten this year, even though they’ll be five this year. They weren’t supposed to be born until September, which means they would not have been old enough to go this year – so it seems only fair to let them hang on for another year.

Still, it gets me thinking about the same classroom thing. As I said, right now they’re in the same class and seem to do great. Their pre-school teacher has told me that they really do not interact much during class at all, and she usually keeps them in separate groups when she can, which doesn’t bother them at all.

But I’ve seen the flip-side of this where my boys don’t do well when separated. They continually want to know where the other guy is and what he’s doing and if he’s okay. It’s been easier to keep them together because it seems to give them peace of mind. Once they know the other guy is okay, they each go on their merry way.

I know there’s quite a bit of research available on whether multiples should be kept together or separated, and it seems to boil down to this: it depends on the multiples. Some are more dependent on each other. Some are more like siblings and others are more connected.

The challenge comes when you get to school and the principal has opinions on the matter. Several states, including Minnesota, Texas, Georgia and New Hampshire, have laws in place allowing parents to make the decision about whether to keep their multiples together or not. Other states have bills pending or awaiting sponsorship (check out for more information).

I like that decision should be something my husband and I have input on. (This article on has great guidelines for getting started.) I know it will be a challenge, to feel like I made the right decision, but I’ve found that to be the challenge for most everything since our boys came along.

Until kindergarten, they’ll be in the same classroom – and we’ll see how that goes.

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