Matchy-Matchy… My Guilty Pleasure

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When I buy clothes for my twin girls, now five, I try to get coordinating outfits, the same striped shirt in a different color, for example.  They usually like to coordinate…and — I finally figured out — I like it so much because it makes keeping up with laundry so much easier for me!

Occasionally the girls will want to match.  (I heard them sneaking downstairs a couple of weeks ago, whispering, “Mommy is going to be so surprised!”  They had gotten themselves dressed in matching outfits, from head to toe…including their socks and underwear…they were so proud!)

And occasionally the girls will choose to wear something totally and completely different from each other.

It’s all fine by me.

Particularly since the girls started preschool, when they were 3 1/2, I’ve tried to stay away from matchy-matchy, unless they really insist.  Even though they’re fraternal, I think some people have a tendency to want to see twins as looking just alike, and I want to help establish them as individuals as much as possible.

Still…who doesn’t love the cutest matching set of twinkies???  The one area in which I indulge myself is with the girls’ pajamas.

I love to buy two sets of matching pj’s, and it delights my heart to see my little elves, as I call them, bopping down the hall in the morning, or cuddled up for bedtime stories at night.

No harm, no foul…and you might guess I have pictures of them in every single set of pj’s they’ve ever had.  I just can’t help myself.

Twin sisters in matching pajamas.

Do you dress your multiples in matching outfits?  In general, or for special occasions? 

MandyE is mom to fraternal twin girls, now five.  She blogs about their adventures, and her journey through motherhood, at Twin Trials and Triumphs.

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To Match or Not to Match

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My 6-year-old twin daughters’ closet contains some duplicates, but not many. When the girls were toddlers, I did dress them alike with with some frequency. We were still going through the enormously generous supply of mostly matching clothes for our baby showers. As they’ve grown, though, they’ve matched less and less. First, they stopped wearing exactly the same thing, although they’d generally coordinate their outfits. If one was wearing a skirt and Tshirt, so was the other. If Sissy was wearing a dress, then so was Sissy.

They don’t bother much with that these days. We don’t even get matchy matchy for formal photos any more.

J, M and Sadia, all in different sweater dresses.
Photo by Brandi Nellis

While I don’t think that my identical girls look a thing alike–their voices are an altogether different manner–people still get them confused. Just yesterday, I witnessed a schoolfriend try to get J’s attention by calling her M. It didn’t work. I wonder if that has something to do with their opting to dress differently.

Yesterday, M pulled out a favourite black sweater dress to wear to school. Her sister J is wearing it in the picture above, and we have two of them.

J’s eyes lit up. “Wanna match?” she asked her sister.

“Sure!” M replied.

“I don’t want to any more,” J responded.

And that’s why I don’t bother shopping doubles any more.

How do your kids feel about wearing matching or coordinating outfits?

Sadia is the single mother of almost-7yo identical twins, M and J. They live in Central Texas, where Sadia works in higher education IT.

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Matchy-Matchy?

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Jason and I have chosen (prior to finding out if they were I or F) NOT to dress the girls inLook Ma, No Matching! the same outfits. He is adamantly against it, due to the traumatizing effect that being dressed exactly like his younger brother, who was the same size but three years younger, had on him. I think it’s better to dress them differently to support individuality. Friends and family have all warned me that I’ll be sorry in years to come when the girls start talking and oh yeah, fighting over clothes. Oh boy. Can’t. Wait. We shall see if that’s what really happens or not. Just in case, I have bought clothes that are similar, but different colors or patterns. The way I figure it, I’m not going to designate who’s clothing is who’s, I’ll let them figure it out and if there are any issues I will do my best to keep it civil. What’s the worst that could happen?

So what about your family? Do you dress your twins alike? Are your twins fraternal or identical? Though, apparently, identical twins aren’t that identical anyway!

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