Mom’s first Christmas

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I was supposed to post this yesterday but it was delayed by two little girls with runny noses trying to use up their body weight in Kleenex,  a playschool field trip, and an after-hours visit from the plumber.

Two years ago, I was very pregnant with my twin daughters, and considering the possibility of Christmas babies.  As Christmas approached, my family members wanted to know what to get me.  Knowing that I would have two little babies arriving within weeks of Christmas, I wrote my Christmas list accordingly:

  1. Our prenatal class instructor told us families expecting multiples needed three things: a king-sized bed, a lazy-boy-style recliner and a freezer full of meals.  I think they are all good suggestions, but we managed without the first two items.
  2. I planned to breastfeed our babies, so I asked for some nursing tops that would work for tandem feedings.  I also got a nursing loungewear outfit that I could wear during the day without feeling I was wearing my pjs.
  3. I knew that while breastfeeding, I wasn’t going to be doing much else, so I asked for books.  After a few years of grad school, I enjoyed all those novels and magazines. I often found myself reading to my 2-year-old son while breastfeeding, or zoning out in front of the TV, but I did enjoy the books, too.
  4. I got a TV show on DVD. For the evening feedings, I could also be sure to have something watch.  By this time of day I was too tired for much else but watching TV and eating.  It took most of the first year to get through 7 seasons of STTNG; an episode was usually long enough to feed both babies.
  5. While breastfeeding, I was eating and drinking more than I did while pregnant.  I enjoyed the herbal teas, flavoured steamed milk, and water out of my new water bottle.  And the kind of snacks you get at Christmas but wouldn’t usually buy for yourself.
  6. A telephone headset was great since I usually had at least one child needing my attention. It let me have adult conversation, emotional support and to get appointments booked while feeding babies, making snacks for a toddler or changing diapers.
  7. Happy and healthy babies are the best gift of all.  They were a wonderful Christmas gift, but I’m glad they arrived a few weeks after the holidays.

Merry Christmas to all the new moms of multiples, and the moms to be!

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Two late to take it back

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In my first post of this series, I talked about preparing for twins during pregnancy. I am going to continue that theme today.

 

The Issue: Family support

 

What I thought: When I was pregnant, I had so many people wishing me well and offering help. I honestly felt like I would have gobs of folks lined up and out the door when my twins were born. I never thought otherwise, in fact.

 

What really happened: No one showed up. We had help the first two weeks and barely anything after that. I was overwhelmed, depressed and exhausted.

 

My advice now: Even if you think the world will show up, plan for it not happening. In fact, I’ve spent a lot of my blogging days writing about this topic because of my experience. There are lots of ways to help mothers of multiples and for MOMs to help themselves, too. Check out these old HDYDI posts of mine here and here.

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