Forgive me for re-hashing a topic that’s been covered here before. But as my pregnancy becomes more and more obvious to the general public, I’ve been put in a position I’ve never been put in before. I am having to defend my choice to have another child when I already have two children still in diapers and unable to walk.
When I am pushing the double stroller into the OB-GYN office with my very obvious baby bump following behind, I expect a little eyebrow raising from the other patients in the waiting room. I am generally annoyed but usually tolerant of their invasive questions. Because when it comes to strangers, I have no qualms about a) being a smart-a#$ in my reply or b) outright ignoring them. I’m never going to see them again; who cares? But generally, if they are curious and not mean-spirited, I’ll provide a succinct and honest answer.
No. My problems come from family, friends and co-workers who are, ahem, less than supportive. Yes, I already have a set of twins. Does that automatically mean that all future reproduction should cease? No, it doesn’t. Nor does it mean that I’ve been “so busy with the twins” that I’ve somehow forgotten how conception happens and/or how to prevent it. Seriously people? Do we need to have that conversation?
I was recently at a baby shower where an old family friend exclaimed upon hearing my HAPPY news: “Wow – now that’s not family planning, is it?” May I mention this woman has NINE children of her own. Yes. Nine. Have I ever judged her before for her “family planning”. Not in a million years.
So, while the people I’m frustrated with are not the ones reading this post, I still needed a spot to vent. How my family grows and changes is the business of my family. Yeah, we have our hands full with two 11-month olds and a 3-year old full of attitude. But does that mean we should all be deprived of another special addition? I don’t think so. We were blessed to be given this little gift and we’re very thankful for HIM.