33 Months On…Still Not Off

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My twins turned 22 months yesterday. Which is also the number of pounds that I’m above my pre-pregnancy weight. And that was ten pounds above my pre-trying-to-conceive weight, thank you nine months of IUIs, a laparoscopic surgery, fertility drugs, and IVF. Do the math and that’s thirty two pounds I haven’t lost. What’s worse is that a month after I had the twins, I weighed twenty pounds less than I do now.

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Oh, how I wanted to be in the best shape of my life before I got pregnant. I only had ten pounds to lose, really, so I started Weight Watchers in February 2006. I ate better, more frequently, took the time to buy fresh vegetables and meat, measured them out, prepared the food accordingly. I would go to the gym on the way home from work, and I’d go run on the weekends. By May 2006 I had lost the ten pounds but was soooo much leaner, too. I felt great. And, looking back at pictures from my cousin Jai’s wedding that May, I looked pretty good, too (even though at the time I thought I should have been thinner). I have this picture with my sister, my mom, my partner, and my now-sister-in-law at the reception and I miss that person. And those clothes, collecting dust in my closet. I affectionately refer to my physical condition at that time as “Jai’s Wedding”.

C-Sections are a bitch, but they’re not an excuse. I know plenty of mom’s of multiples that had c-sections and have flat bellies. And their kids are younger than mine. Sure, most of those moms are younger than me (I’m about to be 36), and thus more elastic. Not an excuse. Though I sure have used it!

Here’s a low point in my warped logic for you: it’s easier for straight women to lose weight. WTF, right? Wait, wait, don’t send hate mail! I mean that as a compliment. You’ve got your man and you want to look good for your man (ok, yeah, and you). Not to mention, it seems for all women, it’s a badge of honor to have given birth, shrink down to pre-pregnancy weight, and a gold star for getting to a dress size smaller than pre-pregnancy. That seems to be a popular gloat on one of the parenting boards that I peruse.

Here’s the thing though, women are generally more forgiving of one another. And so my partner hasn’t exactly motivated me to get my fat ass off the couch because she’s just so sweet and compassionate and loves me for who I am. It’s all her fault! (Kidding!)

Oh, do trust that all the comparing to other women is not the underlying reason for all my self-loathing and insanity, but a byproduct of it.

But you see what kind of madness I’ve had in my head justifying the fact that I can’t fit into 80% of the clothes in my closet?

And the thing is, I can’t even really say that I’ve struggled with losing the weight, because in all honestly, I haven’t really tried. Where’s that DRIVE I had before TTC? I’ve searched for it, but I keep losing my grasp of it under the piles of laundry or the meals that need to be cooked/frozen, or getting bumped for another work meeting, or my commute, or underneath that hotwing sauce. (See? I really do accept responsibility.) I have to eat lunch out with my co-workers and hell if I’m paying more for a salad than for a burger SO I GET THE FRIGGIN BURGER. AND FRIES.; I have no time to exercise; I have twins.

I have twin toddlers JUST LIKE HUNDREDS OF FIT MOMS OUT THERE who get it all done.

So yeah, no excuse.

I wish I could afford to buy the kinds of healthy foods I was buying back in 2006, carefully measuring out portions and calculating protein content. Sure, I could go to the gym on the way home from work to “take care of me”, but then I wouldn’t get to see my kids before bedtime. And as it is, I only see them 30 minutes each morning and each evening five days per week. So get up early! That’s a failure waiting to happen because I couldn’t sustain a 4:00 a.m. wakeup for long. Run in your neighborhood! Not well lit, urban, nuf said. Work out after the kids go down! But for cooking, cleaning, maintaining my relationship with my significant other, working, (okay, yeah, and blogging), and the fact that all that has to happen between 8:00pm and 11:00p.m. I have so many “excuses” and justifications that if I’d just get rid of them, that’d probably be ten pounds worth right there.

Here’s the ugly truth: I do not take pictures with my kids because I hate the way I look. Therefore, I have very few pictures of me with the children that were borne of my womb. Forget the photo from Jai’s wedding. I just want to look good enough to have a picture with my kids that I’m not embarrassed that it exists. That’s right, folks. My twins are nearly two and I have less than ten pictures of them with THEIR MOTHER in them.

It’s not that I don’t know what I need to do – hell, I’ve done it before (albeit with a lot more resources and a ton more time). It’s just that now that I actually give a damn, I am so overwhelmed it’s hard to know where to start. Though it appears Facebook had a suggestion for me:

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I have hit rock bottom.

So for the last two mornings, I’ve risen with the first snooze, while my family is still sleeping, and when it’s still way too dark, and have stumbled into the living room for a round of free weights, ab exercises, and push ups. I’m sore this afternoon, so that means something is working, right? RIGHT?

I am sure there are scores of mom’s out there in their mid 30s who can offer suggestions on how they snapped back into shape six weeks after birth, but hearing from y’all just makes me feel worse about myself. And if you are under 30, don’t you dare comment! (LOL!) Instead, I’m interested to hear from the mom’s out there who ARE or WERE in a situation like mine, where 12+ months after birth, they needed to get their assess kicked by the likes of Jillian Michaels. C’mon. Please let me know I’m not the only one.


When she’s not making weight-loss excuses, Rachel and her 40 lbs of extra ass blogs over at Motherhood.Squared .

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34 thoughts on “33 Months On…Still Not Off”

  1. Yeah – me. Still 30 lbs over pre-preg weight and it’s been 52 months since the birth. I am at exactly the weight I was at the day I went back to work at when they were three months hold and I quit breastfeeding.

    I fit in exercise where I can – 3 days a week at lunch (the other 2 days I eat with the co-workers), but it’s not long enough to do any good.

    I guess the key is food, but like you, I don’t have the time or money to do it right. My resolution this year was more vegetables in 2010, and that’s just about the best I can manage. We don’t go out to eat very much at all, so when I do it’s hard to order the salad. And my one night I don’t cook each week is Fridays when we do take out from Moes. Don’t mess with Momma and her nachos.
    .-= Michele´s last blog ..Snow – Part 2 =-.

  2. I just realized Jon is a lesbian!
    I kid! but really, he truly finds me beautiful at any size, which was not the least bit helpful when trying to lose the weight. Plus he’s 6’4′ and thin as a lamp post, can eat a family sized bag of doritos in one sitting with no ill effects. See?! Harder for straight women to lose weight!

    When my boys were a year old, I was still 25 lbs over my pre-pregnancy weight. 18 months old? Still 25 lbs! Then something clicked in my brain and I realized I COULD NOT do two year pictures with them and hate them because I was still fat. I wanted to be at my goal weight by their birthday.

    I did Weight Watchers and no I did NOT go on all-veggie diet. Instead I gamed the system. If I went out with friends, I suggested sushi since it’s low in points. 2 glasses red wine = 3 pretzel rods… guess which one I’m choosing. My plan was to eat boring during the week M-F then splurge all weekend long. Worked, took 8 weeks to lose 20 lbs.

    I bought myself a super nice pair of Citizens jeans to celebrate.

    (Bad PS to this story is that between skin cancer and my grandfather passing, I put back on 15 lbs in about 6 months all through emotional eating. I’m back on WW right now. Lost 4 lbs in two weeks. They have a free iphone app that makes it easy now.)
    .-= LauraC´s last blog ..I think he’s ready for an allowance =-.

  3. Oh crap, I forgot to mention a vital part. Jon’s gone 2-4 nights a week so in lieu of a gym membership that never got used, we quit the gym & bought a home treadmill. If Jon is home, he cooks dinner and I hit the treadmill. If he’s gone, I wait until the kids go to bed. HUGE help.
    .-= LauraC´s last blog ..I think he’s ready for an allowance =-.

  4. Right there with you…I have managed to get to my pre-pregnancy weight, but I still have 30 (40) pounds of IVF/Clomid weight to shave off yet. It’s slow going. Like a pound or two per month, it seems. This past year I did manage to lose 24 pounds, if that gives you any idea of how sloooow. My kids are 17 months old.

    I just keep heading in the right direction. One day at a time. I am running again (though like my weight loss, it’s sloooow going since my ass is 30 pounds heavier) which helps, and doing Wii Fit which amuses my kids. I think it’s probably easier for me because I’m a SAHM so I’m able to squeeze it in during the day without losing time with the kids.

    Is it possible for you to fit in any workouts at lunchtime? Even walking a few days per week would help, and then you could squeeze in two workouts on the weekends.

  5. I feel ya! And it took me doing the 30 day shred also.
    Pre pregnancy…130 pounds, tiny, fit little thing. I was working out (tae bo) 4-5 days a week, in super good shape!
    After I had the girls-I started tae bo again, did good for a bit. Then stopped. Started again. Stopped. See a trend? I realized when I said to my husband when the girls were 20 months old, that he stopped saying when I complained about my weight “You just had twins!!” Yea, can’t use that excuse anymore! So I realized I was pretty burnt out on Tae Bo, and wanted to see what the 30 day shred was all about. I’m on day 22 and rockin it.
    I hit a low when I put on the pregnancy jeans I was wearing when I was 6 months pregnant, and they were TIGHT. Yes, pregnancy pants tight. Ummm, no. That’s not supposed to happen. Now, I just eat WW meals, don’t eat out much, and just TRY a little harder. I mean, I gave birth to twins, I can loose 15 pounds right?
    .-= Christina´s last blog ..He’s home…. =-.

  6. Thank you for the motivation! I too have lame excuses for not trying to lose my “Momma belly”. I feel so fat and sluggish. I’m off to throw out my mom’s cheesecake!

  7. Right there with you. I didn’t even try to start taking the weight off until they were a year old. Honestly I needed that year to just recover from the pregnancy and infancy stuff.

    Now they’re 26 months old and I still have 5 lbs to get down to my pre-infertility weight (yup, I gained from all of those drugs too) — I started this whole thing 14 months ago, so you can see how long it took! I only lost 2 lbs a month because my attitude was that diets don’t work (you put it back on again), and you just have to make small enough changes that they will last for the rest of your life. So here I am, living the rest of my life, trying to see if I can get those last 5 lbs off.

    I am a small, short woman with a wrist the size of a chopstick, so I know by now that the belly is going nowhere. It’s just loads and loads of skin hanging around there. My belly looks like an elephant’s knee and I just have to embrace it. This is what motherhood looks like for me.
    .-= albe´s last blog ..Who Do I Think I Am? =-.

  8. Yup yup and yup.

    Totally with you!

    My boys are 23 months old.

    I gained almost 60lbs during my pregnancy. I lost the first 30 super fast but have been hanging on to the other 30 and just recently gained 5. Ugh! 35 freaking pounds!

    I KNOW how to lose the weight. I was a Weight Watchers Lifetime Member. But that was back in the days of having the money to buy all the healthy foods and the time to cook and measure and the time to go to the gym and all that other fun stuff that comes with weight watchers.

    I tried Jillian’s 30 day shred…I lasted 4 whole days. LOL

    I’m waiting…just waiting to hit rock bottom…when I get to the point where I just can’t take it anymore. I’m not there yet, close, but not yet.

    (Am I making excuses much? LOL)
    .-= Erin´s last blog ..Hold Me…I’m Scared =-.

  9. You are not the only one. I will be 40 this fall, my twins are 29 mos old, and I’m carrying a good 30 pounds more than I should. I am finally taking steps to get healthier now that we are out of the very worst of the toddler stage. My best advice which I use myself as a working mom of 3 kids is USE your lunch hour whenever possible to 1) eat a healthier lunch that you packed from home and only do the co-worker restaurant lunches when you really really must and keep them to an absolute minimum. Restaurant food is expensive and loaded with xtra salt and calories, no matter what. 2) use part of that lunch hour to get moving even if only for 15 mins. 3) KEEP athletic shoes under your desk at work so you have no excuse not to take that quick walk.
    These steps are the only ones working for me at all on the fitness front.
    Us older moms DO have a harder time because we have other factors in play – its harder to lose weight as I get nearer to 40 than it was in my 20s, period. Right after I gave vaginal birth to my twins, I did lose weight and was doing ok. Then the stress of the toddler stage really hit me and I developed some very bad habitswhich I am now committing to change!!! I’m tired of being tired and out of shape for this long. Its not about size, its about fitness.

  10. Another tip_ and it is a simple one to say but hard for many to do: get enough sleep and your weight loss efforts will be 10x easier.

    If you are sleep deprived your body has a stress reaction causing you to overeat ( I think a recent study proved this as a hard fact) and women in particular are prone to “stay up late getting stuff done” when in fact an earlier bedtime would dramatically reduce daytime cravings for sweets, etc. to get that energy to function through the day. I don’t do ANYTHING after 9pm, I simply cease functioning and am horizontal in bed, even if the laundry is full, I will deal with it in the morning. I know many others cannot do the same but you may be surprised how lack of sleep may sabotage your fitness and health goals.
    For the same reason a super early wakeup for working out, is probably not likely to last long term – at least it didn’t for me. I tried an early workout for about 3 days before giving up. My body clock just doesn’t work that way.

  11. Oh I am so there with you all. I am about to turn 38 and my twins just turned 3. I am nearing the pre-pregnancy weight but always seem to end up putting about 10 pounds back on every time I have gotten tot his point.

    When my boys were 15 months old we moved cross country. I gained 15 pounds in 6 months. Ugh! So added that to the weight I still had to lose. It hasn’t been fun. I have started controlling my portions and trying (I say trying because I am usually only successful for short periods of time) to stop eating so many sweets. It’s hard. I’m a stress eater and my husband travels a lot. Did I mention my twins just turned 3? And are boys. UGH!

    We will get there! Hang in there. It is possible. And for the record, I gained 57 pounds with my pregnancy and actually weighed more a month after they were born than I did when I was preggo with them! It was very, very discouraging to say the least!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    .-= Lee Anne´s last blog ..Snowy, snowy day! =-.

  12. Thank you for your post! I gained about 15 lbs with infertility/emotional stuff before getting pregnant and then about 80 lbs with my pregnancy. Within the first week of giving birth I was down about 55 lbs but haven’t really moved an inch since then. I have tried dieting, pushing myself at the gym till I was lightheaded and feeling awful, and nothing really has seemed to work. The one thing I have noticed made a difference is that when I don’t focus on doing any type of cardio exercise and instead focus on free weights and leg machines or going for a walk pushing a stroller of heavy toddlers I feel a bit more toned. Unfortunately I am not all that motivated so I haven’t stuck to anything for any length of time. I have a wii fit which is hooked up and collecting dust… I really should try to use that during naptime or whatever but I am tired! Anyways I have no really good suggestions or anything but thank you for your post and for those who have commented. I am not alone!! :)

  13. Okay my babies are only 7 months BUT I am 35 and here’s the thing:

    when they were 5 months old I reached my pre-preg weight. that was also the time I went back to work. I think I relaxed because I’ve put on nearly 4 kg (about 9 lbs). I’m a small frame so I feel gigantic.

    I’m now doing Weigh less (South African version of weight watchers) and have lost about 400g – big fat wow – in the last 3 weeks, so very very slow going.

    I thought it was BCP but the doctor wasn’t taking my lame excuses – I am eating too much and not doing enough exercise. Just WHERE am I supposed to find time 5 times a week to exercise? But I digress.

    Can identify with the person who is wearing preggy pants. Yip, I had to pull out MATERNITY pants the other day *the shame*

    Funny thing – Flylady once said the same thing about sleep as Diane did. And with that, I better go sleep for a bit while I can before they wake up.
    .-= Leigh from 123 blog´s last blog ..behind the scenes =-.

  14. I am SO right there with ya! I’m 38 and my twins are 29 months. I’ve been overweight just about my whole life. But during the TTC time period, I actually managed to trim about 15 pounds off of me. And then once I got pregnant, with a little help of the lovely morning sickness, I gained only 28 pounds. Six weeks postpartum, I weighed less than I’d weighed in almost 10 years!! But a visit to PICU shortly thereafter and severe sleep deprivation put almost 30 pounds back on within the six months after that. Sigh… I keep meaning to get up the oomph to get back on the wagon.

    In the meantime, about the picture thing…I finally just decided to put aside my hangup over my weight and get in those pictures. We just took family portraits for the first time in over two years. And while I’m VERY unhappy with the way I look, I’m glad I didn’t wait to lose some weight. Each phase is so fleeting that we want to capture every one. AND I think seeing myself in pictures may have been just the kick in the butt I needed to actually get back on that weight loss wagon.

  15. My best advice is to bring your lunch. I’ve lost weight (if I’m able to exercise as well) or maintained where I want to be by doing just that. I do a lot of pb&j and yogurt and sometimes it gets boring, but lunches out have so many calories that I just don’t have room for!

  16. Losing the weight is just so much harder than I thought it would be. I did nothing to try to lose weight in the first year, and by my twins first birthday, I weighed about 10lbs more than I did at my 6 week postpartum visit. Ugh! I swore I’d be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by the time they were two, but with only two weeks until their second birthday, and still 8 lbs to go (and I’ve been trying to lose the last 8 since November), I’m thinking I’m not going to make it.

    But I do keep trying, because I know it will never get any easier. So I get myself to the gym 4-5 nights a week after the kids are in bed and do my best to push myself. I try to eat healthy foods and snacks as much as possible. But you’re right about it taking time and money to make that happen consistently. Some days are better than others, and I have rough stretches every now and then (like now). But I have to believe that all my efforts will eventually pay off. Because the second I stop believing, I’m screwed.
    .-= reanbean´s last blog ..Wake-up Calls =-.

  17. Sing it, sister. You know I’m right there with you, and my rock bottom was last August. My kids were 2.5 by the time I got back to my pre-pregnancy weight, but even that is still a good 35-45 pounds too many. I was successful for that first big chunk (26 lbs or so), but now I’m hitting a major plateau in motivation. My eating has been WAY off the last month, and despite still exercising, I’m only down about a pound and a half in over a month. Gotta get my ass back on that wagon.

    Bring it on, mama. You can do it. I avoided pics with my kids for too long, too. It’s horrible how few I have of me with them in the first two years of their lives. Must improve that percentage.

  18. Ok … do I have an extra, really big excuse because I’m about to be 48 and I have a 4 year old and 2 – 3 year olds? Because that would be good to know … I’d like to say I’ve been trying hard to get back to the weight I want to be … but that would not be honest … most days I’m so exhausted I never think about it.

    At least I have some support from my husband … he gained 30 lbs right along with me … but just when we seemed to be getting our act together health wise we are now faced with the probability of moving over 2000 miles away …

    I’m really trying not to use this as another excuse …

    My next weight loss strategy? I going to take a photo of my naked butt in the mirror each Monday morning and post it on the frig and the pantry door … maybe looking at that will kill my appetite … It might have the side benefit of killing my husbands, too. :))

    Nice to know there are lots of us in the same situaton …
    .-= Merri Ann´s last blog ..Run Turkey Run =-.

  19. Rachel, you are NOT the only one! The sleep deprivation alone is enough to thwart any remarkable weight loss. With my first (singleton) pregnancy, the weight literally melted off. With my twins, no way. No advice, just commiseration.

    Oh, and those moms who had twins and now have flat tummies, I would love to see that. I just don’t understand how that can happen without some serious plastic surgery or a significantly pre-term set of twins and the mother never reached “full-sized.” My belly looks like a wave pool.
    .-= Samantha´s last blog ..Off the Deep End =-.

  20. Well, it seems like there is real trend here. I’m soon to be 39, and my boys are 2 yrs. old. It wasn’t until they were a year and a half until I lost the weight over a period of several months. Truth be told, I was still just surviving until they were a year and a half, and couldn’t even think about myself or my weight. You may,or may not want to hear this, but….I don’t have much time to exercise either, so I was all about the input. I went whole food vegan and lost all the weight in about three months. No need to starve yourself. I ate a ton. And it’s not that time consuming to cook, especially if you make a lot and freeze extras….good luck!

  21. I really enjoyed this post. And I’m right there with you. I just wrote a similar post: http://taooftwo.blogspot.com/2009/12/flirting-with-deuce.html My girls are almost 3 and I’m still 25 pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight. Weight watchers helped me drop 30 pounds, but it’s the exercise that gets me – I can’t seem to get to the gym more than once a week. Lately, I’ve been doing those 10 minute workouts on our cable On Demand while the girls are in their bath. Anyway, keep us posted and good luck!
    .-= Lena´s last blog ..Make Me A Bird =-.

  22. One aspect of parenting, especially as a SAHM, that has really thrown me for a loop, nutrition-wise, is how much more ACTIVE my lifestyle is. I used to have a very sedentary desk job, and I worked at home for the last 3 years, which is even more sedentary. It is hard to calculate my caloric needs now that I am go-go-go for a very long day. I also developed an enormous sweet tooth during pregnancy.

    We have a treadmill and free weights at home, which I usually use. We’ve joined a new rec center, mostly for access to the pool and swim classes, but I was hoping that I could put the girls in the childcare room and work out. Wishful thinking! The staff members page the parent after 10 minutes of crying; they also can’t change diapers or give snacks or drinks. And one of our twins is a crier. So it’s more work than workout!

  23. I can totally and completely relate to your post, Rachel. I have been focused on the working out part, and not having much of an impact on the 16 pound I’m fighting. I had a moment of clarity this weekend, I realized that the only way I ever lost weight pre-babies was when I radically focused on my in-take. The exercise makes me feel better, but I really do have to count calories, eat primarily fruits, veggies and lean proteins to chip away at the weight. It is the only thing that has ever worked for me and I guess nothing miraculous should happen now. The problem, as you’ve mentioned is the phenomenal amount of work that we’re now juggling that I like to have some chocolate and don’t want to spend the time to have a fresh salad with balsamic vinegar when I do have time to eat by myself. Now I’m just trying to muster the discipline to put the pieces together, but I haven’t gotten it all together yet, either.
    .-= Lisa´s last blog .. =-.

  24. I commented before I read everyone else’s comments. I will ditto the sleep comment. When S&J have a bad night or are sick, you can forget me working out. Sleep is THE most important part of keeping the pieces together. For working out, I exercise approximately two mornings a week before everyone is up, twice a week over lunch, and Saturday mornings I run with a club at 6 a.m. and it is Dad’s day. I’m usually home by 8:30 a.m., so it isn’t too rough on him. On Sundays, I usually load the girls in the jogger and go on a 2-3 mile walk. We have a gym at home where I can lift weights or ride my bike on a trainer. I’ve found that if I wait until the end of the day that is an absolute dealbreaker. I’m way too freaking tired after the girls go to bed to work out. If I only try to go the gym at lunch a couple of times a week, I still have time to go out with co-workers enough to be socially acceptable. So all that said, my physical form has improved a lot, but I’m still at least a solid two sizes away from my pre-pregnancy clothes and not happy about it.
    .-= Lisa´s last blog .. =-.

  25. About two months ago I started running my arse off nearly every, stinkin’ day, eating what amounts to grass and supplementing my hunger with nothing but water. You’d think the pounds would be sliding right off but no, I’ve lost maybe four lbs?!?! I told DH this summer I’d either be skinny or pregnant so it looks like we’re going for pregnant. I’m crossing my fingers that breast-feeding will work it’s magic like it did the last two times and that I’ll be able to avoid packing on the lbs again when it’s over. And yes, I know I’m crazy.
    .-= Cristal´s last blog ..Re:my nervous twitch =-.

  26. I’m there too. I have 4 pairs of pants that fit (3 of which are maternity) and I am afraid that they will stop soon. I’m probably @ 40-50 over my pre-pregnancy weight, and I am very short (4′ 11″) so I look horrible and I know it.

    I am also an emotional eater and I make up excuses why I will start tomorrow. Currently it is because I have a cold. I need to get motivated, I just am having a hard time.

  27. It looks like we could start a new blog all of its own and have enough content to last for years! I am right there with you. My twins are 3 years old and I am the heaviest I have ever been (ther than pregnant). I gained about 10 TTC and then 4 for pregnancy. After 6 months I had lost all my prego weight plu the TTC and 10 punds extra. I was the thinnest I had been in ages. Then when they were a year I quit breastfeeding and struggled a bit but still did ok. It has really been the toddler years that were harder for me. I am a HUGE emotional eater and that has been the downfall of everything. NO advice, just commiseration…..looks like we need an internet support group/blog! Seriously…we all have the same story and need lots of support!

  28. I am in the same boat. 20 lbs over pre pregnancy weight and the kids are just over 2 years old. Tried execise (rarely done b/c never get relieved of duties by husband) and weight watchers, but am failing miserably b/c I eat when my kids are driving me crazy.

    Have a bad diastasis (so I look pregnancy still and good luck fixing that with exercise) and mostly mid abdomen fat, so I am headed for a tummy tuck and flank lipo. Wish I could have done it with hard work, but I am refusing to continue down the path I have been on and so now I am paying big bucks to get this fixed!

  29. I’m another one.
    I”m older than you and SO often I’ve used that as an internal excuse. Oh I’m old weight just doesn’t shift as easily, and pigs fly! the truth is the fat truth of it is. I haven’t tried.
    I’m 35lbs heavier than pre pg. and 51lbs heavier than pre IVF weight. But I will do something about it starting right now. or after I go finish off that almost empty bottle of coke.

    Seriously tho I’m with you 110% for some of us we don’t do the spring back flat belly that others can.

  30. I don’t fit all your criteria for commenting, but I am over 30 and 7 months after a c-section for my triplets my belly is still very much a belly. And I don’t give a damn. Several women were lamenting on a triplet board about how their stomachs hadn’t bounced back (after 5 months!) and I believe my comment to them was that I could do sit-ups or I could sleep and guess which one I choose.

    My arms are very strong from lifting three 16+ pound babies all day long, especially doing the airplane game above my head, but you can’t see any muscle definition. And did I mention how I don’t give a damn? I’m still not going to choose regimented exercise over sleep.

    One thought – what about doing yoga *with* your kids? I bet they’d have fun trying some of the poses with Mommy.

    And please, take some pictures with your kids because they’ll never be this age again. I have several years of not being in pictures – before I even got pregnant! I once went on a trip with our church youth group and of the 900 pictures there are only 2 with me in it. I did my best to avoid the camera at the time, but now I miss having any pictures showing MY participation. You can take lots of shots with your digital camera and hopefully there will be at least one that you don’t hate. In candid pictures where everyone is having a good time, THAT’S what people notice, not the extra insulation around the middle. So, stand your kids next to each other, get down on your knees behind them and bend forward so your face is between theirs. That’ll stretch out any double chin action. :) Then flash big grins and snap away. When you’re standing, pose like a celebrity with your hips at an angle to the camera and your shoulders facing it. It doesn’t solve everything, but it does add some visual interest and slim the waist somewhat.

  31. I’m right there with you! I actually am at my pre-pregnancy weight, but I still can’t fit into my clothes. I’ve been working out 3 times a week for 3 months and haven’t lost a pound. Can you tell I have an eating problem! My goal: lose enough weight that my wedding rings fit again. I haven’t worn them since I hit the 2nd trimester of my pg. :(

  32. Forgot to mention: My twins just turned 17 mos AND I need to lose 35 lbs to be at a healthy weight, despite having already gotten back to my pre-pg weight.

  33. Thankfully I am at my pre-pregnancy weight, but that is definitely higher than I should be. I am going to be 37 and need to at least lose 15 pounds, but ideally be better if I lost more. I have a 2 year old son and 13 1/2 month old twins. I can’t imagine what my belly is going to look like if I ever lose the weight. I know that there is going to be some definite jiggling in the belly area.
    .-= Amy´s last blog .. =-.

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