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Eat. Activity. Sleep. You.

In case you haven’t heard or read about this, it’s a program/schedule for babies, named and explained by Tracy Hogg in her book Secrets of the Baby Whisperer. Basically, it outlines a 3-hr-ish routine of feeding, some sort of activity (bathing, changing, playing, tummy time, etc), and then sleeping… which is when you are supposed to have time for yourself. Easy, supposedly.

I do remember it being pretty easy with Toddler. Our firstborn had always been an easy baby. She ate and slept, at predictable intervals, in predictable amounts. She started taking naps in her own room before 3 months, and was in her own crib through the night by 3.5 months. Life was an adjustment with a baby whereas there never was anyone else to care for but ourselves, but in retrospect there was quite a lot of time for all the things an adult might want to do, like watch TV, eat, pick up the house, interact with the spouse…

Now, enter newborn twins. I knew it would be bad in the first few weeks. And it was. It took both of us, nonstop, day and night. We split up the babies and each took charge of one, which worked out great at night because their feedings were unpredictable and staggered. All of us being in the same room just meant no one got any sleep. The babies were manageable that way, each waking just once in the middle of the night, albeit not at the same time. But the Hubs couldn’t do that forever, so I braved it and kept both with me in a cosleeper right around two months. The first couple nights of that was a nightmare, but it’s been pretty smooth sailing ever since. Somehow, the twins just know that it’s time to sleep, and they’ll hunker down for a good 6 hours starting around 10pm. So I’m usually up for 45 mins. around 4am, after which they’ll sleep again till 8ish.

Now they are 3 months old, and I’m expecting the daytime feeding/sleeping to be predictable as well. This, however, hasn’t been the case. I’ve been trying to let them fall into their own schedule, actually preferring that they’re staggered so that I don’t get bombarded with cries at the same time, but now I’m ready for some of that “Y”ou time. Thing is, they don’t sleep and wake up to eat. Sometimes they sleep and wake up to play. Sometimes they sleep and wake up crying just to go back to sleep. Sometimes it’s 2 hours, sometimes it’s 45 minutes. And NOT together. I suppose I could just force one to eat when the other one does, but the times I’ve tried that, the baby won’t eat. And I am very opposed to waking a baby from sleep, for almost any reason.

So there we have it. Our E.A.S.Y routine that looks more like a E.S.A.E.A.S. routine, without ever the Y part! Any tips on how I get them to do an E.A.S.Y. together?

lunchldyd is mom to an almost 3 yr old daughter whose schedule is set in stone and her 3 month old twin brother and sister who still need some training.

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lunchldyd is mom to 3 year old boy/girl twins and their 5.5 year old sister. She is now teaches part-time to juggle the needs of her young children. When not at work and the kids are asleep, she is addicted to watching TV and sometimes sacrifices sleep to read in bed. She lives in the Los Angeles suburbs with her husband, three kids, and two dogs.

5 thoughts on “E.A.S.Y.”

  1. Sorry to say, but without getting them on the same schedule and waking up sleeping babies, it will be really hard to get any time for yourself. I know that is probably not what you want to hear. I always told myself that the sleeping baby would wake up soon anyway and they had another schedule nap in 2 hours so its not like you are keeping them up all day. It was worth my sanity to have three nap blocks I could count of for “me” time that first year!

  2. I don’t know that my advice will be much help. By the time we came home from the NICU, my babies had adjusted to the hospital-imposed 3-hour cycle. Since they were tended by the same nurse, their schedules were offset 15 minutes from each other, which was perfection. However, I’m not sure that I’d recommend a toe-prick every 3 hours to test their blood sugar to be an ideal way to establish a schedule. I feel like the E.A.S.Y recommendation falls into the same category of advice as “sleep when the baby sleeps.” That would be really nice, but doesn’t account for the realities of multiple babies or a working mom.

  3. Mine were on different schedules when we came home from the hospital. RA was on 2 hour feedings to maintain weight and EM was on 4 hour feedings from NICU schedule. I lined them up and tried to feed EM every-other time I fed RA. That got tough because I was breastfeeding and the whole changing sides thing…we went ahead an changed them to three hours during the day. I woke one if she was sleeping when sister was awake and tandem fed. By about 3 months they fell into a good rhythm of E.A.S.Y. I still didn’t nap (although looking back I should have!) when they did but at least there was down time for me. They still have snacks or small meals about every three hours during the day now at 16 months.

    1. Wow, lucky (and hard work I’m sure) on many fronts. Breastfeeding at all, breastfeeding two babies, breast feeding two babies at the same time at the same time. On top of all that, on the same schedule! I bow down

  4. Mine are almost six months and EASY is just now starting to make sense. In the beginning it was just a joke. I don’t try to do everything with them simultaneously, that said, their schedules are more or less synchronized now without much manipulation by me. But if one nods off and the other is awake a while longer, I just take the opportunity for some one on one! It is touch and go and up and down and fast and slow and a little ridiculous at times but in the end you will find the rhythm that works for you!

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