Security Objects

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Toddler has her blanket, or “budget” as she used to call it. It all started with a traumatic plane ride. Funny story about the time she actually heard the word “budget” on a home buying HGTV show. Another funny thing is that I never intended on her attaching to that blanket. Before she was born, I had prepared several of the same cute loveys to become her security object. I tried to keep them with her every time she slept, but I guess I didn’t try hard enough.

Now we have another two babies. I get another chance at helping to choose security objects. This time, a friend gave them super cute Wubbanubs when they were born, and I bought an extra set for safekeeping in case. I’ve been pretty diligent about making sure to have them on the babies when they sleep, but so far neither has really been that interested– except Baby Girl who has needed the paci part to sleep. They also have some muslin blankets as well as a heavier downy blanket.

I hope they will take to their Wubbas instead of one of the blankets, as these things are just so darned cute and compact for travel etc. Not that Toddler’s baby blanket isn’t small, but it’s become more or less a do-all as her most treasured possession. Watching her drag that thing all around the house, to wrap around herself while watching TV on the couch, to drape over her shoulders to play Superman, to cover over her toys for peekaboo, to lay on the floor to play “pick-mic”, I can’t help but feel like it’s not the cleanest. And she touches it to her lips for comfort and to go to sleep, so I try to get her to let me wash it whenever I’m doing a load of laundry.

I find the whole idea of having a security object adorable. I love that my babies can hold on to something that will take my place when I’m not around. It will be interesting to see whether my twins will heed my gentle encouragement, or go their own way to find something else as Toddler has. Will they end up with two completely different security objects?

I always like hearing my mom, MIL, and aunts talk about the different types of objects that we all had as children, what we did with them, and how long we had them. These stories are the best and often pretty funny. So, dear readers, share your stories. What unusual/unintended security objects do your children have?

lunchldyd is mom to 3 under 3, looking for the amusing little things to keep her going. 

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lunchldyd is mom to 3 year old boy/girl twins and their 5.5 year old sister. She is now teaches part-time to juggle the needs of her young children. When not at work and the kids are asleep, she is addicted to watching TV and sometimes sacrifices sleep to read in bed. She lives in the Los Angeles suburbs with her husband, three kids, and two dogs.

6 thoughts on “Security Objects”

  1. When our twins started getting attached to their stuffed animals we got spares too, just in case. Then they discovered we had two of each and just had to have both.

    And now, in a bit of logic only a toddler would understand, they’ve both seperately decided one of their pair of ‘lovies’ is better than the other. So if the favored one is missing it MUST be found even when the other is right there.

    I’m starting to think it’s some kind of identity anxiety unique to twins, but they’re fraternal so it’s a little harder to make that argument.

  2. I never encouraged our girls (now four) to take up a lovey of any sort. They never slept with anything (and they still don’t). They love their baby dolls and some of their stuffed animals…they play with them almost endlessly…but they don’t really cuddle with anything consistently.

    I actually asked my pediatrician about it when they were younger, if I should try to encourage them. He didn’t feel it was important, and said if they “needed” some kind of attachment, it would develop without my intervention.

    While I won’t have any “lovey” stories to share when they’re older, it’s also nice not having to worry about lugging something with us when we go somewhere. :)

  3. One of my girls latched on to her Angel Dear lovey. We’ve got three each for the girls and she seems to like them all the same, so I am able to swap them out to do laundry. Her sister likes the lovey but really loves the muslin swaddle blankets. She carries those things around and wraps up in them to nap and sleep at night. Again, we’ve got a number of them and she is not particular on any one so they are easy to clean!

  4. My daughters’ infant class teacher suggested that we bring lovies to help them sleep. They had matching handmade little blankies with bear heads. For about 3 years, they were interchangeable, and then J assigned herself the green one and M the blue one. M likes to have 3-4 stuffed “kids” in bed with her to this day, but it doesn’t much matter which ones they are. J lost her Green Bee 2 years ago, and has missed it desperately. I replaced it with the closest thing I could purchase. She’ll be 7 next month, and still sleeps with her Fuzzy (Green Bee replacement) and Blankie and likes to snuggle with them when she’s reading or watching a movie with me.

  5. All of my kids have a blanket that they love, and we have spares for them. However, the attachment didn’t happen until about 12 months of age.

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