Toddler Thursday: Potty Training at Different Paces

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It’s been 8 months since we dipped our big toe into the waters of potty training, and we now have one child who is completely day time potty trained  and the other who is not.  Basically daycare started the training in September when they moved from the junior to senior toddler room and for nearly two months now Molly has been in big girl underwear with minimal accidents (maybe one a week).  Jack however continues to use the toilet two to three times a day and is content to tell you when he’s just gone so you can change it immediately, he’s make strives towards training, but he just isn’t there yet, so we’re encouraging him slowly.

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When we first started Potty Training I came up with a list of things that we didn’t know but should have probably guessed about the early stages of potty training, below is the revised version to reflect things I didn’t know about Potty Training toddler that I do now, 8 months later.
1. The potty is a “cool” hang out spot when a toddler is bored, plus it also is a great excuse to delay bed time and insist on stories at nauseum.

2. The first significant leap was when the toddlers told us when it was time to change their diapers, not that they actually have to go, next comes the two minute warning, and eventually the five minute warning (most of the time).

3. Toddlers don’t realize the odious nature of fecal matter, they think it’s an extension of their body and don’t understand why you don’t want them to touch it.

4. The girl thinks that any sound or function that comes out of her body is “poop” and recently, on taco night, after Daddy passed gas she proclaimed, “PooPoo Daddy! Tell Mommy!”

5. The cup in the potty can also double as a hat and will, more than you can imagine.

6. Reading stories about potty training on the toilet is an effective way to “inspire” your toddlers. (I recommend My Big Girl/Boy Potty by Joanna Cole).

7. Be prepared for accidents, especially when you take the training wheels off.  Keep a spare set of clothing (including socks) with you at all times.

8. The training toddler will generally be more upset than you are about the fact that they peed their pants in the produce section of the grocery store, but only a little bit.  Remind them that everyone has accidents.

9. Never underestimate the motivational power of “big kid” underwear to a toddler, especially when it has Smurfs or Disney characters on it.

10. Be prepared to spend a lot of time in the bathroom.

11. Be patient, they’ll get there at their own pace, not yours.

SaraBeth is a Toronto, Canada based writer and working mom of girl-boy twins. Her blog, Multiple Momstrosity earned fourth place in voiceBoks’ Hilariously Funny Parent 2014 competition and was named one of Toronto Mom Now’s 2012 Top 30 Mom Blogs.

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Sara is a Toronto, Canada based writer and working mom of multiples. Her blog, Multiple Momstrosity was named one on Toronto Mom Now’s 2012 Top 30 Mom Blogs. She is a two time veteran of the Three Day Novel Writing Contest and has written an unpublished novel, This is You Without Me. She lives in “The Junction” with her husband Chris and spontaneous fraternal toddler twins (Molly& Jack).

2 thoughts on “Toddler Thursday: Potty Training at Different Paces”

  1. Our girls trained at different times, a full six months apart. If you’d asked me beforehand how I would have handled it, I would have said that **of course** I would train them together. In hindsight, I am really thankful things worked out the way they did. Baby A was very ready at 27 months, and I was able to devote all my attention to her needs, while B was very content with her diaper. By the time B was ready at 33 months, A was very self-sufficient.

    I only have a sample size of two, but both my girls literally told me when they wanted to start using the potty. I am thankful I was able to listen to them. I think it would have been much more difficult had I tried to “force” B to follow the same timeline as her sister.

    Love your list! I would add, Don’t forget to reward yourself! Potty-training is a hard job! 😉

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