The Top 10 Worst Reactions To My “It’s Twins” Announcement

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I am 11 weeks pregnant with twins. This isn’t my first pregnancy. In fact, these will be my fourth and fifth babies. Since I’d announced three other pregnancies I foolishly thought this time wouldn’t be any different.

I had no idea that upon hearing “It’s twins” any filter or manners a person may have immediately go out the window. Here are the 10 worst reactions I’ve experienced:

  1. “Better you than me.”

    Why? Do you know something I don’t know?

  2. “I’m sure you’re stoked but I’d die!”

    This was said to me by a nurse practitioner at my pediatrician’s office. Shouldn’t she be easing my nerves? Shouldn’t she have wonderful advice and maybe other twins moms I could talk to? Shouldn’t she stop using the word stoked?

  3. “You’re going to need a new house”

    “You’re going to need a new car”

    Thank you for your concern but do you think that you’re sharing new information? I can assure you that the financial needs of 5 kids were some of my very first thoughts and fears.

  4. “Was this planned?”

    ummmmm… yes? I have always been an overachiever.

  5. “You’re going to HAVE to pump… give formula… get them on the same schedule… hire help.”

    I assume you’re basing this on your vast experience with twins.

  6. “My friend was pregnant with twins but she lost one at ___ weeks”

    Thanks. Like I wasn’t already worried about miscarriage or vanishing twin syndrome.

  7. “Welp, guess we won’t be seeing you next year!”

    Said a teacher at my son’s school. As she’s perusing the buffet I organized for a Valentines treat. No soup for you!

  8. “Maybe NOW you’ll get your girl”

    Because my 3 boys are so terrible?

  9. “Oh! Your poor poor boys”

    Siblings suck. So do big families. WTH?

  10. “You’re going to be HUGE!!!!”

    I know this is true, but I really don’t want to hear about it. Especially from someone wearing a size 0.

Not everyone’s reactions were awful. There are many sweet ones that stay with me when I’m feeling nervous about having 2 babies. The next time someone tells you they are expecting multiples please hug them, tell them they are the perfect mom for their babies, and remind them you’ll be there the whole time.

Elizabeth is expecting twins and is the mom to three amazing boys. She lives in central Texas.

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A Toddler, and Twins, and a Newborn – oh MY!

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What do you get when you have 9-month old twins and then you find out you are pregnant again?

According to Wikipedia, you get “Irish Triplets”. As of this fall, that’s what I’ll have. I am a lucky girl.

Although two weeks ago when I found out about this surprise pregnancy, lucky is not a word I would have used. I would have gone with stressed, anxious, perhaps even something harsh, like screwed. How will we afford to diaper twins and a newborn? Oh, and then there is our older daughter. What about clothes? Childcare? Food? Will they all fit comfortably in our car?

But having had some time to reflect on my new circumstances I realize, wow, this is an amazing gift.

My husband and I had casually tossed around the idea of a 4th child. Ok, maybe it’s more fair to say that I have tossed the idea at him; he caught the idea and threw it out the window. But I always thought of it as a future endeavor. One we would undertake when some semblance of peace and order was restored to our lives. When I wasn’t changing 16 diapers a day and when we were more rested from sleeping through the night, on a semi-consistent basis.

What was I thinking? If we had actually gotten back to the point of sleeping through the night on a regular basis, having some of the children in school and being able to go shopping without buying a case of diapers – would I REALLY want to go back and start over? Maybe not. And then I would be missing out.

If there is ever a time to add a newborn, isn’t it when your life is already in complete chaos? How can I miss the sleep I will be losing, when I’m not really getting it now anyway? How can I miss going to happy hour after work or going on romantic vacations when I’m not doing that now? We have all the gear in the house and a support system already in the groove.

Aaron and Brady are too young to notice the change in Mommy (and they are too pre-occupied with each other to care) and the newborn will never know the difference. He or she will always just be from a big family. Financially, there is always a way to make it work; we just need to be creative and figure it out. Plus, we did break down and buy a minivan last year….

So, yeah, we’re lucky. It took us by surprise and it’s a good thing. We may have missed the opportunity. Sure there will be some ups and downs, but we will never again complain that anything about our lives is boring. Stay tuned!

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